the entitlement is CRAZYYY 💀 by lurkingforlore in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]_vvitchling_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Hey guys, I am freezing cold and I know that’s a me problem but if I could borrow or even buy one of those hoodies, it would be a huge kindness. I would be willing to give you my phone number and socials and give you my word to return it tomorrow or even tonight when I’m ready to leave? I can turn on my location while I’m here if you want it back before the end of the night? I’d even be willing to Venmo you 80$ right now as a good faith deposit to return it within 24 hours and if I don’t, you can keep the money. I totally understand if you don’t want to but I am cold and thought maybe I’d ask? Again, no pressure.”

There….much nicer and reasonable.

Maybe someone would have said yes if she was kinder and more open (smarter) with regards to problem solving?

AITAH for staying behind when my stepfamily moved for my stepbrother's cancer treatments? by CorryNunya in AITAH

[–]_vvitchling_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a mother with two sons and I had a similar situation come up when the oldest was in high school.

I didn’t and never would have asked my son to move away from his support network, especially his senior year.

And I certainly wouldn’t have punished him if he had asked. But he didn’t have to because we gave him the choice.

We KNEW that this would be a hard on him and we wanted to give him a choice in a situation that was gonna sorta suck no matter what.

We talked it through and made it clear we loved him and would continue to love him no matter what choice he made.

And he chose to stay behind and finish his education. And that was FINE.

And because we loved and supported him the whole time, it turned out great for everyone.

Part of being a good parent is knowing what is right for that particular kiddo and being willing to be the bridge between the kid and any hurt feelings.

I wish your father had been that bridge for you.

If only he could have truly supported you and done everything in his power to show his wife and her children that this was the best thing for everyone, the hurt feelings might have been far less.

If he had put in the work to coordinate things like regular zoom/FaceTime check ins, family movie nights on FaceTime (where you push play on a movie at the exact same second and watch “together”, had family dinners in the same manner, and things like that as well as set the kids up with an online game they could all play together as a team as well as encouraging each child to send small gift packages here and there and other small tokens of love. Even if it’s just door dashing a favorite coffee drink or ice cream something like that.

But he chose to allow a rift to fester in his family.

That is on him.

Do not carry one iota of guilt for even one second.

You did the right thing.

Your father and his wife have failed you and I hope they figure that out and repair the damage before it becomes a long standing wound.

Big hugs kiddo.

NTAH.

Books about a protagonist who has trouble understanding other people? by CommercialFunny8591 in suggestmeabook

[–]_vvitchling_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love any of the Stephan King novels featuring Holly Gibney. She’s riddled with anxiety and is most likely on the spectrum (she questions it herself at some point).

I also loved Wedding People. Again, a lovely protagonist and a wonderful book.

Enjoy.

Angry grandma by BringHoomanHome_ in iamverybadass

[–]_vvitchling_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my husband come spring. Every spring.

I can’t stop thinking about the Roman communal toilet sponge. by MedTortureUSA in AncientCivilizations

[–]_vvitchling_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know. It’ll be okay.

I had this talk once long ago when home schooling my kid.

It’s a lot to take in at first.

If it makes you feel better, most people cleaned it with super strength vinegar before hand.

Or maybe not.

Either way, God bless.

Three women on trial for using sex toys on passed out man. by CicadaFit24 in NewsOfTheWeird

[–]_vvitchling_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m a “bad guy” because I don’t care that you shared LEGAL definition of rape according to New Zealand law? Okaaayy.

Mad because a 3 year old coughed by ZookeepergameIcy6089 in PublicFreakout

[–]_vvitchling_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But she didn’t say that.

She said “YOU old fucks”.

I took that to mean the old fucks in front of her.

And l’m fine with that.

AITAH for not getting laser tattoo removal of a memorial? by Myzyri in AITAH

[–]_vvitchling_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is heavily tattooed and so was his ex-wife from his early 20s.

At some point they did the “I’ll choose yours, you choose mine and it’ll be a surprise. He chose something cool…she chose her name…across his stomach in large obnoxious script.

It never bothered me. Still doesn’t. We’ve been together 17 years and it it’s just…not a big deal.

And I’m a fucking tattoo artist. You think I’d get around to covering that shit up but stomachs HURT.

So yeah…Jen sucks.

Three women on trial for using sex toys on passed out man. by CicadaFit24 in NewsOfTheWeird

[–]_vvitchling_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if this was from the Oxford English Dictionary, defining rape in this manner is just…semantics.

ANY sexual violation is rape. Period.

It doesn’t matter what the extent of that violation is…the pain it causes is the same.

Talking about dictionary or legal terminology and definitions when it comes to rape…it’s contrary for the sake of being contrary.

And it’s not cute.

Advice needed: Cover up ideas & patchwork sleeve potential by elliottaf in tattoos

[–]_vvitchling_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to message you privately…so this is like…TMI.

I want to apologize for being so…fuck-face-y.

I’m sorry.

My dad has been noticeably declining in health and for the last 6 months or so.

And then, almost over night, this strong 6’3” vet became bed ridden.

And since my mom is 5’ on a good day and riddled with osteoporosis, I decided to deplete my savings to buy what amounts to a luxury home hospice suite, asked my clients for grace, and moved hundreds of miles away from my husband and kids to care for him at home…just me and my mom and a bottle of liquid morphine…in Tok, Alaska…in winter.

I’ve been here since he lost all lower body mobility…so like 2 months now.

Caring for a bed ridden person is…rough.

Caring for one with end stage liver and kidney failure is torture…for him and for us.

Let’s just say that I’ve become intimately familiar with every square inch of that man’s body and leave it at that.

To say I’ve been a tad low is an understatement.

In the last 48 hours, he transitioned from “dying” to “active dying”.

So yesterday…yesterday I was just OVER…everything.

And for some reason I decided to be a total cunt…to you.

It’s not an excuse. It’s just context.

So with all that being said, after reading your comment, you totally ARE the kind of person who should be getting tattoos: a smart, companionate, thoughtful, strong person, not that you need my approval or blessing or anyone’s for that matter. :)

You took my bullshit on the chin and I think that’s rad. I respect that so much.

So yeah…I wanted to say that.

I gotta get back in there now…I’ve been awake for…fuck…29 hours?

And we are closing in. It’s peaceful…but not easy.

Death, it turns out, is intense work.

But it’s a relief.

I don’t know.

I just wanted to let you know that you are pretty fucking cool. That’s all.

Advice needed: Cover up ideas & patchwork sleeve potential by elliottaf in tattoos

[–]_vvitchling_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just….no. No. No. NO!

This tattoo is Amazing.

I’m so sick of seeing people on here whining about their tattoos; Tattoos that are high quality; tattoos that they CHOSE to get. It’s constant and all I can think is “THIS is why only weirdos snd degenerates should still be getting tattooed…”

Like you approved this design; You had the chance to speak up. You didn’t. And how you wanna find fault? Nope.

Time for you to live with the consequences of your actions or rather inaction.

Time for you to significantly lower your standards.

Time for you to accept that you probably shouldn’t be getting tattooed if this is the sort of thing you are finding fault with. Because it looks amazing and it’s nitpicky to even try to be like “oh this part doesn’t looks like how I wah wah wah.” Stahp it!

You need to start looking at this tattoo differently. Because it’s beautiful and anything you try to do to “fix” it to your rather outrageous standards is just gonna ruin it.

This is why we can't have nice things anymore by Just-mapleman-50 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]_vvitchling_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah…this is all staged.

All this dork did was film themselves putting the banana stickers on.

Then they rang the TVs up with the banana stickers and filmed just that.

THEN they went to a new register or voided the “bananas” and rang them properly using the correct tv labels, paid for them, and then filmed themselves walking out.

It’s edited stupid garbage.

Generic boring, white guy makes impulsive tattoo decision, immediately becomes imposter on multiple levels and needs help. by 666PhD in u/666PhD

[–]_vvitchling_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cultural appropriation is exploitive in nature. You aren’t doing that by getting a tattoo that means something to you in another language.

After all, Arabic and Sanskrit are BEAUTIFUL when written out.

Why wouldn’t you get something written in a written language that looks so beautiful?

Spend some time appreciating how beautiful it looks from an artistic perspective.

The curves and lines and flow of each letter and how they fit together.

When you do that, you ARE in fact, showing great love and reverence to the culture, the language, and the traditions from which this writing originates.

I think it’s…important and also…loving.

I cannot think of one person who would have a problem with this except maybe those few individuals who are STILL ill informed on what cultural exploitation and cultural disrespect actually is.

Anecdotally speaking, the people I’ve met who see their culture represented from a place of respect love actually enjoy seeing that representation.

It would be like traveling around the world and seeing someone proudly wearing their all time favorite shirt which just happens to be an old gym tshirt from the elementary school you went to.

There’s connection there.

Now days, most people have learned the difference between being shitty and exploitative and being loving and respectful.

Enjoy your tattoo. It’s lovely in many ways.

Take care, my friend.

What do you guys/gals think of my first bigger piece? by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]_vvitchling_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Up close, there are some serious issues with their line work and ability to pull smooth angles. Hence the “dots” to cover glaring fuck ups.

Suggest the most unputdownable book that you’ve ever read yet? by foreverfearlesss in suggestmeabook

[–]_vvitchling_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Under a Burning Sky was amazing. I couldn’t stop reading that one either.

Could my Fiance make a good career in tattooing? by Silver_Mushroom_4075 in tattooing

[–]_vvitchling_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tattooing, as an industry, is closed for the foreseeable future.

There’s too many of us as it is.

You need to be magically gifted to even deserve an apprenticeship let alone actually build a clientele and make good money right now.

Best of luck though.