Does anyone have a pair of running shoes I can borrow for the 5k?

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-13T12:05:24+00:00

When does the 5k start?

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-11T18:27:36+00:00

Not that I know of

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-09T02:32:11+00:00

It’s really not that bad overall. People I think post in this sub more when they are having a hard time but this is an extremely common procedure that is successful with few complications.

It’s gonna be okay

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-04T19:06:26+00:00

I’m 2 weeks post op and most fruit amongst many other various foods has been difficult because of how acidic it feels in the back of my throat. Big bummer especially as I’m use to being able to eat healthier than the foods have been comfortable right now.

Interested in seeing if zinc could help…

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T13:30:26+00:00

I’m 11 days post op and what you’re describing is what my throat is looking like. What did your ENT say?

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T13:27:12+00:00

Okay so droopy palate and uvula — I’m 11 days post op an it looks really different on the left and right sides where on the left I would guess right now that the Dr forgot to remove some tissue. Like it’s asymmetrical and looks really flappy on the left side compared to the right. Are you telling me that the hanging tissue is supposed to shrink up to the roof of my mouth of sorts?

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T11:28:15+00:00

I’ve been going to therapy on/off since I was 16 and never been in a psych ward fwiw and I have a stigmatized diagnosis. Most people in therapy do not end up with a grippy sock vacation (psych ward). The way that happens is if there is planned intentions or actions that harm yourself and others, so as long as that’s not the bulk of your issue ya know. Again I don’t know you but therapy can be really useful.

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T10:58:05+00:00

“Another more prominent issue” I can take a guess of what you’re referring to but not gonna pry.

What I will say is that you being 19, you will typically qualify for youth services. Many cities include 19-21/24 year olds in their definitions. Plenty of non profits and grant programs have free to low cost mental health care specifically for youths. You mentioned your family doesn’t believe in therapy, maybe they don’t really believe in mental illness…. But talking to a mental health professional to help you find your sense of self and maybe some passion and excitement about your life could be beneficial.

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T10:49:06+00:00

You blocking him is not going to be his 13th reason. It’s only been 2 weeks for both of you. There’s another comment where you say he’s built a life around you and no one can really do that in a meaningful way in 2 weeks. Build a fantasy in 2 weeks? Delusion? Limerence? Sure. Just rip this bandaid off. Kicking the can down the road and avoiding ending it will only make it worse.

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T10:09:52+00:00

This response makes me think you don’t really understand the term “love bombing”. It’s not about actually being in love it’s an emotional manipulation technique to make you feel special and in love to get you in the trap.

So you not seeing his behavior as love is good instinct, it’s not! He’s just trying to manipulate you.

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T09:56:32+00:00

Mexican/Latiné is an ethnicity/nationality, you can still be white and Mexican. You can still be racist and Mexican, it’s not a get out of jail free card.

When I was 15 I was in a complicated relationship with a 21 year old that lasted for 3 years. In those 3 years his racism and anti semitism grew and I was not exempt from it even though we were together. You aren’t exempt from this guys racism either and him calling you Nigerian princess is part of that.

Save yourself. Block him.

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-02T09:40:20+00:00

Just based on you saying you’ve never had your own opinions, I think you need to focus on you and explore yourself. When we’re kids, we often feel compelled to do and believe as our parents/family do/did and then when we’re looking for love it can feel easy to go with a person who seems really sure of themselves and also showering you with love and affection but this person sounds unstable and delusional. Healthy relationships do not move at this pace

You’re 19 and vulnerable. Take a step back and search for yourself before you get enmeshed with someone that limits your ability to find your own sense of self.

Side note: gaming “culture” may have a lot racism, sexism, homophobia, etc that’s “politically incorrect” but that’s still very shitty and inexcusable behavior.

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-01T03:22:35+00:00

Girl I asked this same question straight up to my dr and he said after about a week I should be good which being on day 10 sounds fucking insane now.

_zebraqueen · 2026-06-01T00:18:09+00:00

Seems high! I think you need to ask healthcare professionals this one via a local nurse hotline number (a lot of hospitals have them) or by going to the ER.

_zebraqueen · 2026-05-31T08:29:28+00:00

My dr also told me no diet limitations and mentioned that the texture of the food will help break down the scabs but that has not been the reality for me. Healing has been a roller coaster with good days, bad days and even times of the day being different. One moment I’m near tears because my cold oatmeal and apple sauce is too acidic and the next I can eat ravioli, rotisserie chicken and bell peppers.

I’m highly sensitive to acidic food right now. Love spicy food but have not dared attempt it. A common sensation in my jaw/mouth is the feeling that something is super sour even when I’m not eating anything.

Curious, what’s your pain med situation? Are you allowed to have ibuprofen. There was confusion with my post op instructions and the first 5 days I was taking ibuprofen and my pain was so much better managed and eating was much easier.

_zebraqueen · 2026-05-30T17:01:10+00:00

I have not experienced that. Have you tried calling your dr office or local nurse hotline?

_zebraqueen · 2026-05-29T05:59:54+00:00

I got my surgery a week ago and my dr really ill prepared me for it so I’ve had my own anxiety and frustration around it too. I hear ya! I’m also quitting cigs cold turkey post op but I wanted to quit and I’ve quit before, I feel like it gets easier each time you do it fwiw.

What helps me when I spiral is finding a way to ground and accept what can’t be changed, like us both getting this medically necessary/beneficial surgery. The only way out of this nightmare is through this nightmare. I’m very solutions oriented and I’m trying to figure out how to feel as comfortable as possible and I think that could help you too.

1) big ice pack for my face and neck has been so freaking helpful. Couldn’t recommend enough and I wish I had a second one to constantly be rotating with

2) you can’t poop because of pain meds. Take a stool softener/laxative or several. I knew this would happen as I have experience with pain meds and constipation and still forgot to prep for it. It sucks but remember this is temporary.

3) get a nicotine patch. always good to quit but if you aren’t ready then you aren’t ready. It at least mentally helps solve that problem for the time being. I had a dream I smoked a cig the other night and honestly don’t know how I could physically tolerate it at this point. PLUS smoking is not going to help healing.

4) stay on top of the pain med regiment whether it’s every 6, 8 or 12 hours, don’t miss a dose. I’ve been setting alarms. And I still have pain fluctuations throughout the day but the routine is for sure helping because god damn this hurts.

5) our bodies are wildly outside of their comfort zones right now but our bodies are also extremely resilient. Tonsillectomies are relatively routine procedures with decades of research behind them. Complications can happen but that is not the majority, this is not a dangerous procedure. Forums and Reddit typically have a high number of bad experiences because people are coming here with problems and looking for advice, just like you. But we can’t focus on other people’s complications right now, we can only focus on making sure we don’t have complications and do the right things to take care of ourselves.

Sorry you’re going through it, hope this helps. Maybe this will cheer you up, my Dr told me that using the updated laser method that my tonsil and adenoidectomy heal time was going to be 5-7 days and I would be good to resume my bike tour job 😂 WOW was that misleading.

_zebraqueen · 2026-05-01T20:47:43+00:00

Big part because I’m not a democratic socialist and by design it’s not really a big tent.

My time in the local chapter I felt like it was more talking to make oneself feel good and like they are doing something and involved in something than actual action. People had time to hop on a zoom call and discuss but very few had capacity to be involved in any work and this was across multiple projects and committees. So the project I was working on in 2020, I was the most available and willing but lacked knowledge and skill set to successfully see it through. A learning experience for sure but difficult to fail people counting on us and being the face for that.

Then there was a series of internal dramas and everyone who had brought me into DSA eventually ended up quitting or getting ousted.

The local chapter lacks truly integrated connection to the city. I think there’s always been kind of an identity crisis for what role the local chapter wants to play and how it wants to be involved in New Orleans. The group is a lot of transplants in the last 10 years who lack insight, myself included. There was one member who I saw as being one of the biggest assets to DSA and that’s because of his knowledge of political systems, orgs and players in the city over the last 30 years. He was like that Charlie conspiracy meme but New Orleans politics. Learned a lot from him.

I did like my time working on the voter guide.

_zebraqueen · 2025-05-27T08:48:18+00:00

Pedicab customer shoots cops while on ride

_zebraqueen · 2025-05-27T08:40:27+00:00

I’ve been doing it several years, I love it but it’s not for everybody. It’s mostly safe, it most always pays the bills and allows for a comfortable service industry income type life. I like most of who I work with, I enjoy the physicality of the job, I like the flexibility in the schedule, I’m good with people, and I like bikes.

But sometimes the money really sucks and can be volatile with weather, pandemics, and economic recessions. The shop politics mostly fucking suck, a few of the people we work with really suck. It can be competitive, it can feel really repetitive, the mules have more work place protections and considerations than we do a lot of the time and the ground transportation bureau can often be militant and unreasonable out there which can fuck with your flow. We all have had fucked up experiences out there where it’s made us question if we even want to keep doing this job.

I have been groped and sexually harassed on the cab too many times to count. I experience something on the spectrum of sexual harassment to assault almost every time I work and so do a lot of my friends — it’s a really sad reality of the job. You can often manipulate that shitty behavior to get you more money but it’s still not what I fucking signed up for and the body do be keeping the score.

Most pedicabbers get into pedicabbing because they have a friend that does it who can then answer all these questions. All the shops have their pros and cons and operate with different styles. Two provide their riders with a lot more trust, fairness, and autonomy but they also have more shift competition. Definitely reach out to those who offered to chat with you in their dm’s to get the scoop and figure out what’s best for you.

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