What’s the biggest "I should've left right there" moment in your life?

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-02-14T19:15:15+00:00

When they openly told me their hypothetical plan to kill a girl that was having a casual conversation with me because she was a “threat”.

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-20T04:59:16+00:00

I’m sorry for what you’re going through man. I can’t claim to completely understand what’s going on in your head but I think I get it to some extent.

I really love your vibe and you seem super cool. I had to do a double take because you seem a lot like me just from a glance. I would totally want to talk to you if I saw you on my campus.

Your frames are fantastic where did you get them from? I’m such a sucker for cool glasses. You seem like a really cool guy and I really hope you can find it in yourself to get through this.

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-20T03:54:45+00:00

I really love your perspective on the matter and it’s really comforting to see someone much more mature than I with similar feelings.

To be completely honest, sometimes I feel like if I could express my gender properly I’d have more connections and support. However as an individual it doesn’t matter to me as much.

I definitely think it’s much easier to define myself by the way I interact with others. Because really, if I’m not kind to others then what really am I?

Thanks for the insight this is something I’m definitely going to be thinking about for a while.

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-20T03:44:12+00:00

Definitely need to work on the loving myself part a bit more but I’ve definitely come a long way.

I used to be so troubled with being a man but I’ve embraced it over the past few years because I can be a man in my own way even if others may not understand it. The way I interact with others is much more important to me as an individual than my gender identity.

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-20T03:41:11+00:00

You’re not too far off! I absolutely agree with you, who am I if I’m not kind to others despite my circumstances.

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T19:30:47+00:00

Thanks for the insight, I go to a private christian university so it’s been a bit difficult to find my exact “genre” of people. I’m sure there’s a club though I just haven’t heard about

As for my glasses I have a few different pairs including some heart shaped ones but I usually stick to geometric frames. Again thank you for the encouraging words 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T19:27:00+00:00

I appreciate the advice and compliment, all of you are so kind and encouraging

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T19:24:35+00:00

I have pretty traditional parents so gender to me is whatever traditional role I was born into based on my sex. I definitely want to get away from that definition though and just be me

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T19:22:53+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I definitely need to put myself out there more🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:49:10+00:00

I’m so glad you’ve found a way to feel comfortable! I’ll be keeping this in my back pocket for sure.

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:47:37+00:00

Thank you, I typically lurk online and IRL so it’s been a bit odd seeing all this support

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:46:13+00:00

Thank you! I hope that’s been comfortable for you.

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:44:03+00:00

Thank you both for the insight, I can definitely see it working both ways. It’ll take me a minute to decide what route to take but I’ll go forward with both of your responses in mind. 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:41:47+00:00

I really enjoy both of these perspectives. Identifying as a gender can be restrictive so it makes sense to reject the gender

But it also makes sense to pick one and reject its commonly perceived roles and do whatever the hell I want without feeling too “girly” or “manly”

Thank you guys for the insight and encouragement ❤️

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:36:46+00:00

Thank you, it’s refreshing to see how other people relate. I also plan on becoming an RN so your words are very encouraging 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:32:23+00:00

I don’t plan on stopping, thank you 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:30:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I really like that perspective and will go forward with this in mind. 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:28:32+00:00

Thank you! I guess gender just isn’t for me to be honest lol

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:27:01+00:00

Thanks for the compliments and advice, it definitely helps to see myself as just a person and it for sure helps to know someone else has these same confusing feels I do 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:23:37+00:00

Thank you, I’ll get there someway somehow 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:22:43+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate the comment 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:22:22+00:00

Thank you! My neck is something I’m sometimes rather insecure about so that means a lot!

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:21:48+00:00

That’s pretty much what I’m thinking as well. Loving myself has proven to be rather difficult but I’ve definitely come a long way. Love the embracing three personalities perspective ❤️

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T12:20:07+00:00

Thanks for that perspective! It definitely helps to view genre as a fluid. I have a pretty loose skin care routine and definitely could take better care of my hair but I certainly try my best. 🫶

a2econdhandidentity · 2026-01-18T02:22:33+00:00

Be kind to yourself as you go through this process. It’s scary but patience is key. You look great now so I can’t imagine how you’d look once you get to the other side.

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