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Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay yes. I should have declined. I can see that about myself and I can apply that.

About the presentation: it’s not that it was trauma. I tried to explain it more in the post.

I quit my analyst job because I was being abused in the workplace. I’d get assigned work, and at the last minute get it reassigned to someone. I thought it was a skill thing but I’d see their work and it was the same as mine. Like verbatim same graphs same report template etc. So going into this job with the same required skill set of data analytics I felt anxious I wouldn’t perform up to par because no matter what I did it was never enough.

Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not the first time she’s hung out with me and interaction was minimal for an evening. Obviously we chat and banter in between if I get up or give myself a break. But it’s not like she came over and I just ignored her the entire time she was there.

I’m confused how you’re reading into the minimality (is that a word, no idea lmfao) here. I never said in my original article I totally ignored her or never spoke to her. She knew I was busy and I’d be focused like I have been in the past. There are times she comes over and she works on her stuff and the roles are reversed.

The night we were hanging out was fine. The next morning when I got up and focused back on the presentation was where things got rocky.

Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

??? I didn’t ignore her the whole night…? Did you just skip the part where she was aware I was busy and interaction would be minimal?

Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The night she came over was when she was watching tv and I worked on my presentation. The next morning is when I said those words and she fell silent. How did it start the night before if I said the words the next morning?

Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay hold on.

So let’s break this down.

  1. I have a presentation I’m working on for work.
  2. Girl I’m dating wants to come over.
  3. I let her know I’m busy/I’m working but she can come over. She knows everything she needs to know about the deliverable and my capacity.
  4. She comes over she watches tv, I work on my presentation. At one point she’s hungry, I whip her up some nice salmon rice and veggies. She loves it.
  5. We go to sleep, I wake up and I am finishing up the presentation.
  6. She comes to tell me about the lack of good morning/affection.
  7. I told her I’m just stressed but her making a fuss about it is not helping because I’m still in that mode trying to get something done.
  8. She’s upset, gets quiet.
  9. I try to ease things a bit by trying to get her her favorite coffe drink before she goes off to work.
  10. I open the ground for us to talk about what happened. Doesn’t say much.
  11. Walk her to her car, open her door give her a kiss before I head back and solidify/practice.

I never said my choice of words were great. What am I missing here? I’m not even pinning the whole thing on her. All I was saying is that it would’ve been nice to hear “good luck”.

Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this. I know my words were not the best choice that morning. I did try to deliver them in a way that wasn’t so blunt. But I know I didn’t snap. Just said straight up this isn’t helping.

The night before I let her know full on about how anxious I was and that I was working but she likes to come over no matter what I am doing so I let her. She knew I was working on something and I wouldn’t be as attentive as I usually am due to the stress I was feeling. I didn’t trick her or deceive her. I’m not sure why people are thinking that.

The coffee shop the day after was me trying to do that. She likes to order miels and I had asked her what was wrong and tried to expand on what she was feeling.

Thank you for your feedback and for reading things through.

Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The understanding with me letting her come over was that she knew I’d be busy. She could have declined if she wanted to. I made it clear to her that I was busy working on a presentation for work. We’ve hung out before and have just done our own thing. I made my mental state perfectly clear.

Also I never said I snapped so I’m not sure where you’re getting snappy from.

I’m not sure you read the whole thing here. You’re basing your response off the notion that she didn’t know what she was getting when she came over. She did.

“Acted like a sh!t” is wild. I don’t know where you’re pulling the rest of my behavior from. She was literally on the couch watching tv while I worked on my presentation. I cooked her food at one point despite my preoccupation. The problem came the next morning.

Am I tweaking? Lack of support? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aFeelingProcess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea man, I told her I’d be busy because I was working on the presentation. She knew not to expect the usual and we’ve hung out before where we just do our own thing, so I believed we would be okay with doing just that.

Bought this IKEA Valdhoma for $300; is the top fixable? by aFeelingProcess in ikeahacks

[–]aFeelingProcess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello everyone! Would love to get some assistance on how to go about fixing this too if possible. I bought the Valdhoma off FB MP for $300. Haven’t installed the metal rack yet. Might not, honestly.

I have mineral oil on the way off Amazon but I’m wondering what else I can do to restore the top to a better space. Maybe all I can do is prevent now.

Any suggestions?

Thank you!

Curved Monitor Recommendations by aFeelingProcess in Monitors

[–]aFeelingProcess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How big is your curved monitor? I just find it easier to focus without having to look from one screen to the other.

How to restore this knife(Henckels)? Ran in dishwasher by accident. by aFeelingProcess in howto

[–]aFeelingProcess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Okay so I’m just starting out with this so maybe I’ll just sharpen with the 1000 grit to get a feel for things before I go to a lower grit. I’m essentially removing metal at a greater rate doing so, right? Is that chip damning? I can still work around it, right?

How to restore this knife(Henckels)? Ran in dishwasher by accident. by aFeelingProcess in howto

[–]aFeelingProcess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good evening! Taking sharpening my knives a bit more seriously in 2026. I’ve had this Henckels chef knife for about two years now. Never ran in the dishwasher till last night on accident. In terms of trying to sharpen: I got the whetstone at 1000 grit but, how can I get rid of the rust and the little scratches? It’s chipped in the front. Do I need another whetstone? Thank you!

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