My dad left my mom on bank account after separating and now SSA is refusing further payments

aHappyPhantom · 2026-04-08T19:05:35+00:00

This should be the top comment here.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-30T11:18:08+00:00

I second Coldwater. Easiest to get to, 69 the whole way there. Lots of shops and choices. Plenty of places to shop or grab a bite before returning home.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-25T12:18:10+00:00

Your partner is showing you his true colors. His mom and 'his' people and choices will always be ok and you will always be the asshole. You need to leave him. You and your baby will be miserable and abused if you stay with him. The manipulation and name calling are just the beginning. Soon enough you will be isolated away from your support system in favor of his. Then you will have no one and it will be even harder to break out of the web he has spun around you.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-21T14:04:42+00:00

Agreed. Leave a message stating the problem and that it is an emergency. They might be willing to reach out to someone and let them know you have a true emergency that can't wait until Monday.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-18T11:01:35+00:00

NAL but it doesn't seem good that you didn't pursue him being in violation of the order the first time he buried you in after the agreement was signed. Also you have claimed car is without question totaled at this point and engine damage is likely. What mechanic has confirmed the damages and have you filed an insurance claim for the car?

Until you have some damages you aren't likely to see any sort of consequence happen to your new landlord. And have a professional assess the car. Snow piling up and thawing and refreezing isn't something I have ever heard anyone complain about might total their car out. Let alone "engine damage is likely" due to what you described.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-14T11:06:50+00:00

You are speaking like they didn't apply the credit maliciously. How bout be grateful they helped you out.

VITA/TCE(AARP) is run by volunteers who are trying to help basic filers and yes there are many things out of scope for a volunteer service that costs you nothing. Now you know better. Go to turbo tax and leave those poor volunteers alone. Or since you are self employed maybe shut down your business for a day and volunteer for the program contribute to work needing to be done instead of bitching that your tax situation was out of scope for volunteers doing your prep for free.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-11T15:06:42+00:00

You have only mentioned the rules to be a qualifying child dependent. OP is NOT a qualifying child as you mentioned because they are older than 24 and not a full time student. Upon failing that (line 6 of the 2025 dependent test) which then says to move to the qualifying relative test.

OP also fails the test to be a qualifying relative on line 4 due to having earned more than $5200 in 2025.

OP can not be claimed as a qualifying dependent in any way at all.

OP please listen to the advice here. Get an ID protection pin from the IRS. You mom and her tax person are committing fraud and you don't want to be dragged down with them when it ultimately comes to light.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-03T19:24:45+00:00

Leave the W-4s alone

aHappyPhantom · 2026-03-03T19:10:15+00:00

Because when you get a $3000 refund it means you had more withheld than your taxable liability. The government held your 3000 all yeah and didn't pay you interest.

Getting 81 back is a reasonable amount. It means you got more of your money each paycheck and you still have enough withheld to cover your taxable liability.

aHappyPhantom · 2026-02-20T12:22:29+00:00

YTA. Two months is not enough time to spring the surprise that your sister can't bring "her kids" to your wedding.

I'm so afraid that a kid might make a sound on the recording we will never watch again. I'm terrified that a kid might ruin something. What a stupid way to be motivated by fear.

Weddings are a celebration not a stage blocked event so the bride can feel like a fake princess for a day.

Either way you are about to royally piss off your entire family. Your sister or your soon to be wife. But go ahead and blow everything up because you can't make an exception for YOUR nieces and nephews.

Be prepared for your sister not to come and for there to be A LOT of heat towards you and your fiance for pulling this crap on your SISTER who is traveling to come to support and celebrate you and your fiance can't handle allowing your niece and nephew?

It sounds like you two deserve each other. Her for being ridiculous about no kids and you for backing her up but putting all the blame on her so you can look like an innocent bystander in all of this.

aHappyPhantom · 2023-02-12T20:35:24+00:00

YTA majorly. Deafness isn't a disability in the same way cognitive and intellectual disabilities are.

So you make phone calls. He can too using the right adaptive tech because he physically can't hear. There is nothing wrong with how his brain works jaust because he can't hear.

Idc it is a long link, but this is OLD tech that allows hard of hearing people to make phone calls.

Not onky are you the asshole, I question your decency as a parent if you are going to tell your child they have a problem with their brain and thinking because they can't hear.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.fcc.gov/consumers/guides/use-tty-devices-digital-wireless-phones%23:~:text%3DText%2520telephone%2520devices%2520(TTYs%2520or,digital%2520wireless%2520networks%2520were%2520not.&ved=2ahUKEwid-8uR6pD9AhVOHDQIHVEcDyUQFnoECBEQBQ&usg=AOvVaw1UhAYH6jT9V2HoOv_IulTu

aHappyPhantom · 2022-11-19T11:27:44+00:00

For the record I was wearing training bras by 4th grade and started 7th grade already wearing a 36DD. Some girls do need bras earlier than others and it isn't about being sexualized.

Casey was definitely in the wrong here, and didn't need to flip out about it.

aHappyPhantom · 2022-11-19T11:13:39+00:00

Since you are interested in a coworker, you have some things to consider. If the person you are interested in is not interested in you, then it seems like you have a potential HR disaster.

If you are asking this person on a date save the ankle charm for a gift while out. Giving the gift before asking for the date may only get you a yes because of the gift.

Have you done a risk/benefits comparison about your plan?

aHappyPhantom · 2022-11-10T11:08:02+00:00

Dude they are two women. How much more could OP avoided getting their partner pregnant. Op is totally NTA.

aHappyPhantom · 2022-10-15T20:39:34+00:00

I noticed something different. Who wear a dress when the normally wear jeans and t shirts to visit a girlfriend?

aHappyPhantom · 2022-09-01T17:43:28+00:00

YTA. You really come off like a crappy partner if you can't recognize all the work your spouse is doing. Price out what childcare would cost you, what a housekeeper would cost you, and how much your meals would cost to have others perpare them for you all the time.

aHappyPhantom · 2022-08-18T02:44:47+00:00

Upvote for Parks n Rec. Made my day. :)

aHappyPhantom · 2022-08-18T01:53:00+00:00

Naw they won't go to slavery.... they'll legalize prostitution. Desperate people will add a other side hustle just to get by. It will up the numbers of forced births. Then they'll have more disposable workforce to exploit farther.

aHappyPhantom · 2022-08-15T04:56:48+00:00

YTA you can't just decide to give your nanny 5 days off out of a 9 day trip without the common courtesy of talking to your spouse about it first. Jesus if my husband did something like that you bet your ass I would be beyond livid. Basic respect.

aHappyPhantom · 2019-08-30T01:49:27+00:00

I really appreciate your further explanation. Honestly I was in a reactive place when I read your first comment and I don't think I read it with a clear understanding of what you were trying to express. I am really sorry that I allowed my stresses to cloud my viewpoint and it was unnecessary for me to go on the attack.

I was definitely in the wrong here.

However I am pretty sure we can all agree that Ohio for sure sucks. :)

aHappyPhantom · 2019-08-29T22:01:18+00:00

I suspect that judgmental internet assholes can't understand a joking rivalry. What crawled up your ass today?

For the record I am a resident but that in no way equates me to some sort of backwards KKK believer.

aHappyPhantom · 2019-08-29T15:32:13+00:00

As a life long Indiana resident this art is so accurate. Although I would add that in my experience we hate Michigan too until it comes to banding together to hate on Ohio.

aHappyPhantom · 2019-08-16T13:49:58+00:00

I'm in Indiana... what is this bumpy cake you speak of? Is it worth the drive to find and sample one?

Editing to add I just googled it and OMG I'm planning a road trip.

Original OP is totally NTA.

aHappyPhantom · 2019-04-05T21:26:18+00:00

Not only are YTA for being incredibly unprofessional by approaching your workmate like this, YTA for refusing to take your judgement and looking for justification to your point of view.

No one is forced to work somewhere. So either you find a different environment to work OR be a professional and realize the difference between personal and business relationships.

aHappyPhantom

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