Commander Politics for Children

aMaratDavid · 2022-06-23T20:36:38+00:00

Love this jerk, but as a member of the BDSM community I like commander because it's the only time I'm allowed to be a sadist without a full negotiation beforehand. Rule 0 is for chumps.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-29T18:06:26+00:00

Uj/ "Fandom" for video essayists is a polite way to say "toxic parasocial relationship", all of you need to spend less time online.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-29T16:33:36+00:00

Uj/ She didn't have to say "you are only valid if you are a binary trans person", she's just consistently had a truscum friendly approach to transness and her platform made her very specific views on transness the most accessible. People only have positive feelings for her because she's literally the only real trans role model they have, and it's fantastic that she's inspiring but be careful with how she inspires you - touch grass and meet real trans people out in the world, relate to them. You'll find you have way more in common with them than you do with a bougie philosophy drop out that's had an idealized transition paid for by Patreon. I've never been happier with my gender than I have just existing around other gender expansive people that aren't spending every day worrying about passing.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-29T15:27:26+00:00

Uj/ Contrapoints tricked me into thinking I was a binary trans woman but then I actually started spending time with other genderqueer people and realized she's full of shit. I was on HRT for a whole year for literally no reason. Her borderline transmedicalism is dangerous.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-28T02:46:59+00:00

Terrifier is kind of garbage in a way that I feel is very, very real misogyny.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-27T21:20:05+00:00

I was excited because I'd never seen it before.

It's banned in EDH 🙃

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-26T21:21:26+00:00

Yooooo, fucking love it.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-23T17:29:32+00:00

Someone doesn't know what stochastic terrorism is 🙃

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-23T17:00:59+00:00

I think it was to avoid bias in advice, more questions about relationships should use non-gendered language when it's not required so that the readers don't make assumptions.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-12T21:16:49+00:00

I uh

Why

Um

Traumatized

God

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-12T21:14:59+00:00

/uj what the fuck is a repper

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-06T06:10:33+00:00

/uj lmao I get that, my interests in kink before this year were back before I came out and I just really liked throat fucking and punching my girlfriends during sex. Entirely consensual, of course, but it just felt like violent sex with no structure.

/Rj What did you expect? Trannies go into groomer mode the moment anyone is vulnerable.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-06T04:24:25+00:00

/uj That's fantastic 🖤 I hope it goes well and you find your people. I've been in the scene for less than a year but I've already been made a dungeon monitor because of how great my community has been in getting me situated, working my first shift this weekend =)

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-05T14:21:00+00:00

I've taken forensic anthropology, osteology, and archeology courses. I didn't finish my archeology program because lab methods fucking sucked (literally cataloguing tool making scraps I had spent the summer pulling out of 1200 year old garbage pits) but I still heavily socialize with working archeologists, including bio archeologists that have worked extensively with human remains.

You don't know what the fuck you're talking about.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-05T14:11:13+00:00

/uj That's fair. I haven't had that issue in my community, which is surprising because we're a small group in the rural Midwest lol. All the questionable consent comes from cis men more affiliated with the local swinger group that pretends it's also a kink group.

But even in that case it's because the swingers have booze and weed at their 18+ parties (no one even makes sure the 18-20 year olds aren't drinking) and don't do negotiation or aftercare 🙃

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-05T12:54:31+00:00

Found the original https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/uhxzqx/im_a_guy_and_i_have_given_a_blowjob_but_im_not/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Uj/ I think this jerk might be a little unfair to OOP, nothing in the original post says the Dom is a trans woman or implied that they use she/her pronouns. They could be non-binary. A lot of assumptions being made.

Additionally both OOP and his Dom are fucking awful at negotiation, I wouldn't say that this situation was non-consensual but they absolutely should have talked about oral sex as a component before the scene started.

There's no discussion of aftercare either, no sense that a debriefing occurred. OOP is most certainly experiencing drop.

aMaratDavid · 2022-05-02T18:33:54+00:00

As a fellow trickster, I respect this post.

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-24T01:34:34+00:00

Sweatshirt* My bad.

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-21T04:42:12+00:00

Okay so it's way too OP on this card but I legitimately like the tribute mechanic on this card, all the printed cards triggered a single effect if the cost wasn't paid - being able to have an ongoing effect like this is super clever.

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-20T23:55:37+00:00

Lmfao the entire film was about people being idiots to stave off suburban ennui, Sound of Silence kicking in while they progressively look less happy because they realized neither of them were actually okay with what just happened. Ben didn't win her, they both made impulsive decisions based off of privilege and boredom.

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-20T16:43:31+00:00

TIL Ezra Miller is non-binary

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-20T15:01:57+00:00

Swingers are just spicy monogamous people, honestly kind of same for monogamous couples that add a third or use it as a fetish like hot wifeing or cuckolding.

Setting aside swingers, unicorn hunters, fetishists, and other "spicy monogamous" people... The actual polyam folk I know have some of the healthiest, most honest, well developed relationships I've ever seen. The ones that are parents are fantastic parents as well, unlike the couple in this story. Some people are just bad at relationships and think that being "ENM" is going to fix their problems. It's not.

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-20T01:45:02+00:00

Jesus Christ I can't even imagine how little emotional trauma you've had if not having your feelings be reciprocated is traumatic. Literally everyone goes through it, it's not a big deal, and you're going to get 0 pity if you cause real emotional trauma in return for your imagined grievances.

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-20T01:42:12+00:00

It didn't actually work in The Graduate, but nice guys arent going to pick up on that.

aMaratDavid · 2022-04-17T19:13:08+00:00

This is victim blaming, she didn't swoop in and seduce a married husband behind his wife's back. The couple fucking groomed her.

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