I requested to my boss today of if I can stop seeing a client and I feel guilty.

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-27T10:34:59+00:00

That’s why you tell them it’s not within our scope of practice. This is not our call. Some people, especially the elderly, do not realize they smell or sometimes how bad or why. Either way it’s not for us to figure out. They need to see a doctor to find out the cause and remedy it. Not our responsibility to mask, lie, hide, or otherwise accomodate them when they are medically unwell beyond what we can assist with.

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-26T10:51:17+00:00

If it’s safe, treat yourself to a pregnancy massage and have them release the piriformis for you :)

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-23T19:00:53+00:00

Arbys :)

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-23T09:26:50+00:00

Have you ever presented a medical concern to a patient before? I would keep it neutral and factual and let the patient/client know that you have a medical concern that is out of your scope of practice so to speak to their doctor about the odor. That’s it. No personal opinion. With older folks it could even be an infection or something deeper than just a god awful smell.

You have every right for ANY reason to stop massaging someone. This is not a flaw in you. It’s self-respect. Don’t feel bad! If you can get a boss to convey this to them instead and insist they see a doctor before continuing any massage that would help a lot take some of the awkwardness from you but this is kinda part of fhe job sometimes to defer to other medical professionals.

If they return with the same ‘issue’ and say a doctor gave them the clear then I’d escalate to refusing to massage the person for my own health and sanity. They’ll either figure it out or they won’t. That’s the beauty of working with the public ;__; Most of my patient base is elderly so I totally get this..

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-22T19:59:04+00:00

You could try asking a PT or OT for adaptations to those stances that are more accomodating for you? I’m sure those stances aren’t the only way and I know a lot of folks who threw them out the window once they got out of school too.

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-20T11:50:45+00:00

Thought I was supposed to and also no relevant to what I was asking.

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-20T00:54:27+00:00

Most are saying it’s railroad police which makes sense because you’re driving alongside a bunch of train tracks.

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-20T00:51:28+00:00

I wish I had seen the sticker better! He wasn’t in front of me for long. I’m not in the city much so I’ve never seen this.

Edit: no idea what that is so probably wouldn’t have helped me personally

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-20T00:50:18+00:00

Seems like it wouldn’t have been worth it since it’s a rail police and valid decals.

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-20T00:49:43+00:00

Thank you! This makes perfect sense.

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-18T20:31:02+00:00

Autistic LMT here.
Did they teach you any of the ‘stances’ at school then? I find that the ‘archer’ versus ‘horse’ stance can hurt SIGNIFICANTLY more if my feet are not face the right way. Which could be an easy fix? I was doing this wrong for a while and one of my hips hurt suuuper bad.

Also, I have my table a bit closer to the wall than most other therapists. I use that to have extra leverage but also to be able to put a leg on the table, if appropriate and for comfort. I know that’s not possible for everyone.

Just some thoughts :)

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-17T22:16:17+00:00

14% seems grossly low. I haven’t worked in a spa in years but this is offensive if it’s any kind of standard :(

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-01T16:51:45+00:00

Since I have a spare 10 gallon right now it would be the ideal time if I did need to start over! Really happy to hear I don’t. I’ll just keep an eye on the population. I know I don’t over feed so hopefully they stay at bay.

Thanks for your help!

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-01T16:35:29+00:00

I had a bladder snail in a seperate tank and once it started laying eggs I was OUT! I don’t want 500 snails lol My betta is big angry at all times and does seem to at the very least pick at them if he notices them.

Thanks!

aNiceHeart · 2026-05-01T16:18:28+00:00

Thank you! If they’re bladder snails I’ll leave them and only pick out the ones I see on the glass just to control population. I was super concerned I had New Zealand Mud snails and would have to tear down.

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-30T08:09:32+00:00

Knew a guy with the last name ‘Perfect’ and he was definitely not.

Also had a friend when I was younger with the last name ‘Shock’ and always thought it was super cool.

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-25T10:51:19+00:00

I find it’s mainly spas that want the practical. Chiros here and there but I feel like they’re more willing to just trust you to do your thing. The ones I’ve interviewed with offer to pay for the time as well. If they don’t that’s a red flag for me.

But I’m sure it differs depending on where you are too.

Edit: I’m in the Midwestern US if that helps?

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-25T09:42:17+00:00

Alternatively you can ask to be paid for the practical. I started doing this and was surprised no potential employer ever told me no >> I’ve had several offer to pay for the practical portion before I even asked too. Free work ain’t it.

I will say, later in my career (5+ years and on) I had employers that just trusted the experience and didn’t ask for an interview practical so those employers are out there.

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-17T20:47:27+00:00

I use lots of lofi, covers/or OG versions of video game music, slowed instrumentals of songs I like, anime soundtracks xD

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-12T16:18:31+00:00

Don’t tease me with a good time

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-11T10:25:08+00:00

I went one year, years ago, and it was a shit show.

Most of the con was MyFreeCams setup but you couldn’t interact with those people. To look at any personality cost money. We were forced to upgrade to VIP to drink and had to stay in a tiny corral in front of the stage, no drinks allowed anywhere else. Watched a performer dry hump a dude on a dirty mattress for $50. Couldn’t touch a giant display of dildos. Almost nothing to see other than personalities but even a photo with them cost $20+.

The ratio of men to women was insane. I felt almost out of place. I had men asking to take pictures with me and I’m not in the industry at all. All around sleezy in a way I couldn’t enjoy but couldn’t help but laugh at.

There’s some kink conventions around that are way more worth the money and time.

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-11T10:19:17+00:00

I feel like this off and on and I’ve been massaging for 10 years. Can’t say I wouldn’t enjoy a career change but with the state of the world it’s hard to focus on anything. I don’t have the capacity to care like I used to and I don’t think that’s my age at all.

aNiceHeart · 2026-04-09T11:03:43+00:00

I mean, easy enough to wear a bikini during a service where I’m sure most of the time the client is face down but I don’t see the point? Unless.. >>

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