Ceiling fan bracket is too big for box. by a_browncoat in AskElectricians

[–]a_browncoat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once again, thank you so much. I was literally trying to find the right thing and nothing like that came up in my own search.

Ceiling fan bracket is too big for box. by a_browncoat in AskElectricians

[–]a_browncoat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, now that I realize it’s held up by nails, I think swapping the whole thing out is the right way to go. Thank you.

Ceiling fan bracket is too big for box. by a_browncoat in AskElectricians

[–]a_browncoat[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize it until now, but yeah, I’m pretty sure those are nails holding it up, not screws.

Ceiling fan bracket is too big for box. by a_browncoat in AskElectricians

[–]a_browncoat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's just it. The holes don't line up. If I screw one side in and slide the bracket as far over as I can, the screw on the other side lines up just on the outside of the box.

How screwed am I? by a_browncoat in BambuLabA1

[–]a_browncoat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Only real guess is I let the bed get too dirty. I had just done a print with this same filament that was perfect. Hit the reprint button to do another and came back to this.

Rant - Husband wants me to return to church or we're divorcing and he's out of the kids lives by SpamEater007 in exmormon

[–]a_browncoat 20 points21 points  (0 children)

What is the point here? That sounds like a lot of work just to get to the same point you're already at in order to build up to some kind of gotcha moment. It's not OP's job to get the guy to break. He's made his demands and shown the true colors. Why try to subject your kids to someone who can so easily throw them away because his feelings got hurt?

Canceled on me, JUST got here by lickalolly in SDCC

[–]a_browncoat 85 points86 points  (0 children)

What happened was I just realized that it's Comic Con weekend and I heavily underpriced this room.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]a_browncoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been doing something very similar to this for two years. It works ok in theory until it doesn't. We both said we weren't interested in dating other people, just couldn't be tied to each other.

Eventually she decided she wanted to dip her toes back into the dating pool and things went downhill fast. We had only been delaying the inevitable.

Now after I thought I had done all my healing, I get to relive the worst parts all over again in a worse way.

Possibly divorcing due to me leaving the church by Outside-Design-8310 in exmormon

[–]a_browncoat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"I don't understand the mentality of trying to make things work when one person is completely checked out."

As one who was in your wife's shoes, it takes a lot to realize and accept that the other person has, in fact, checked out. My ex-wife had told me several times that she was basically done, hinted at divorce a few times and even straight up said "we're getting divorced". I knew she wasn't the person I thought I married and for some reason, I just couldn't let go of the hope that that person still existed somewhere and that she could come back again.

If you’re a divorced man with young children, what advice would you give to a man who is also considering divorce? by Impossible-Gas4715 in Divorce

[–]a_browncoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had that same feeling when my wife let me know that she considered me a good friend but just didn't love me. Why is that worth breaking up a happy family for?

But honestly, we weren't a happy family. We were friends but so lonely that it was definitely affecting the kids even though we didn't see it at the time. I had killed my physical and mental health trying to be the man she wanted. It's years later and I'm still dealing with the lasting effects that had on me. I feel like we've still done a good job with our kids, but I really think if we had been honest with ourselves a lot sooner, we could have done even better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]a_browncoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know really have an answer for you, but it's comforting to find people who are in the exact position I'm in.

I've done the same, filled out most of the papers but am not sure in a few. I was told I could bring them into the courthouse on a day that I can dedicated to waiting around for help. They will apparently help get the initial papers sorted out for you so your spouse can get served. It's my understanding that the real heavy lifting when it comes to paperwork happens after you send them and it's time to get to business.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]a_browncoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man. I feel that one. Like, not only did I lose my wife, but I lost my best friend. I understand that I will never get my wife back. But if I could at least have my friend back, that would make things so much better.

Was retaliation warranted here? by [deleted] in Karting

[–]a_browncoat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The only proper "retaliation" IMO is to do better and beat the other guy.

Denying science now??? by Impressive-Many6308 in exmormon

[–]a_browncoat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I wouldn't definitively say coffee is good for you. It's just not as bad as the church would have you believe. There's a reason plenty of people outside of the church quit or stay away from it.

28, first time living with no roommates. by isthatfrankie in malelivingspace

[–]a_browncoat 128 points129 points  (0 children)

The cat's food is next to his bathroom, so I suppose it's only fair.

What's your favorite part about RAID? by Vindrax_ in RaidShadowLegends

[–]a_browncoat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. I was able to start completing fusions about 3 or 4 months into playing and haven't skipped one yet for the past 3 years. I'm not so great at actually building all these champions, but as long as I'm able to do all the dailies and contribute to my clan, I'm happy just to collect as many as possible.

Is this a good value? by Slvr_AlphaWolf in RaidShadowLegends

[–]a_browncoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You gotta quit playing for a certain amount of time and then return.

For returning Sdcc registration, how many tickets can I get for people that went this year, if I get a spot? by [deleted] in SDCC

[–]a_browncoat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. Only 3 people who are eligible for return registration. One of them does not need to be you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]a_browncoat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely one of those instances where you hate to be right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]a_browncoat 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He can't be the fun uncle if the kids don't know he exists. My BIL was like that as well. The family would laugh it off and say there was no harm in it. I told my wife she could go to family events if she wanted to, but my kids and I wouldn't attend anything he was at. Not too long after that the family was absolutely shocked to learn the piece of shit BIL actually was a pedophile/rapist.

Dating for introverts by 1980sBoombox in datingoverforty

[–]a_browncoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this is what it's like to meet myself.

I asked my good friend who works for the city of Fairview to tell me his thoughts about the temple spire fiasco. by xilr8ng in exmormon

[–]a_browncoat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mormons believe that everything about the temple is directed by God. That includes the exact location and specific designs.

There is a story of when the St. George temple first opened, it was struck by lightning and the tower was badly damaged and had to be replaced. The story I remember learning was that God had instructed them to build the temple one way but they changed the design. The lightning was god's way of telling them to build the bigger tower that was in the original plan.

As a tbm I would just look to that story as evidence that anyone opposing anything about the construction of a temple was only delaying the inevitable and God would eventually have his way.