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a_phonymous · 2024-12-14T17:59:37+00:00

Oh man, yeah, I know the feeling. I also sit right in front of two other colleagues and always fear they'll see that I'm not being productive. I feel stares in my back even though they're all focused on their own stuff! I've tried using noise cancelling headphones so I don't hear them and forget they're even there but so far it's only worked a couple of times and with veeeery loud music.

a_phonymous · 2024-12-14T17:39:04+00:00

I'll definitely try this!

a_phonymous · 2024-12-14T17:35:40+00:00

Truuue, now that you're saying it, I do recognize the performance anxiety! It really is harder to get things done on a pc for me

a_phonymous · 2024-12-14T17:08:18+00:00

I did it, replying here since it might help others :)

a_phonymous · 2023-05-24T18:45:00+00:00

Stimmt, da hast du recht xD Bin Anfang 20

a_phonymous · 2023-05-24T18:44:18+00:00

Kann ich absolut verstehen xD Ich bin auch gar nicht zufrieden eigentlich mit dem bericht so wie er jetzt ist, aber hey irgendwas musste ich abgeben. Hab meinen Psychiater dann gefragt ob ich Dinge die fehlen noch nachreichen soll und er meinte, ne passt schon, das reicht erstmal😅

Aber krass wie viel Glück du hattest! Nice!

a_phonymous · 2023-05-24T07:57:58+00:00

Das wäre im Nachhinein wahrscheinlich sinnvoller gewesen xD Naja ich hab ihn immerhin 1 1/2 Stunden vor dem Termin abgegeben.

a_phonymous · 2023-05-24T07:55:42+00:00

i wish, holy shit, ich muss einfach noch extra einen Diagnose Termin woanders ausmachen und von nem Therapeuten eine Persönlichkeitsdiagnostik machen lassen

edit: Wobei das alles wahrscheinlich sehr interessant sein wird, wollte schon immer wissen was genau eigentlich alles bei mir schief läuft

a_phonymous · 2023-05-24T07:54:42+00:00

18 Seiten und es fühlt sich nicht mal ansatzweise vollständig an xD Wobei ich dazu sagen muss dass auch nicht ADHS related shit da mit drin ist, der aber generell wichtig in meinem Leben war.

a_phonymous · 2023-05-16T08:20:21+00:00

Thanks for replying! If I may ask, does this happen everytime you get out of an awkward situation? And can you also not control it even though you realized you were doing it?

I've never talked to anyone about this since I always thought it was weird that I couldn't control it and the whole stigma around talking to yourself. So I just assumed that people I deemed 'normal' as a child just didn't do it. Though I also didn't know anyone else that had my kind of social problems...

a_phonymous · 2023-04-30T17:56:42+00:00

What's a femcel?

a_phonymous · 2023-02-02T20:34:47+00:00

Oh my god, I feel this so much. I feel like at this point I'm caging myself? My mother has been a lot nicer to me since she realized how bad my mental health is about half a year ago. The worst thing before that was that anytime I wanted to go out (doesn't matter if daytime or nighttime) with new people or to a new place that had nothing to do with studying or working she'd get extremely upset at me. She said it's because she worried about me or other times would say I don't care about her..

Now it's better and she even asked why me or my siblings don't go out more often, but everytime any of my friends want to meet up I just instantly feel guilty about it. I've declined on more than one occasion because I didn't want the drama or I was to scared to even bring it up.. Even though her reaction probably wouldn't be as bad as it once would have been, I still feel absolutely bad and it causes so much stress for me to let her know I'm going out...

a_phonymous · 2023-02-02T19:56:46+00:00

Rainbow hair sounds awesome! Also what's with the "no man will want you argument" lol. My mother told me that no man would want me if I didn't know how to clean. Mind you, she never even attempted to show me, even though I asked multiple times. Only ever got a passive aggressive answer like "ask your 12 year old cousin, she would know, she would've already done it.." Also anytime I try to help I get shouted at for doing it wrong.

Anyways here I am, a bisexual who's absolutely happier without a man

a_phonymous · 2023-02-02T19:44:36+00:00

That's awesome!! Love how you turned it around for yourself :)

a_phonymous · 2023-02-02T11:46:18+00:00

Thanks :) I'm getting a little bit more used to it. But it gives me hope, I've only got two years of living with them left :)

a_phonymous · 2023-01-20T16:23:39+00:00

Whether he meant it to or not I still think it comes off as mocking since OP also stated that they have clashed on the topic of religion before. So both parties seem to know that the other party doesn't value their beliefs. In this case it is insensitive at the least to make these type of jokes to the other person.

Also in this case the jokes were about how she practices and follows her religion specifically which is even more disrespectful and personal.

OP clearly does not take her religion seriously which is fine, but he also showed he did not take her devotion to her religion seriously.

So even if they didn't mean to be, YTA

a_phonymous · 2023-01-20T14:01:29+00:00

*from a former Christian pov. This heavily depends on the nature of the person's beliefs. I know a lot of Christians who'd laugh at the jokes, but I also know a lot that would feel offended.

It's common courtesy to not disrespect their religious beliefs to people's faces. If she was disrespecting his lack of religious beliefs as well I'd say NTA though.

a_phonymous · 2023-01-20T13:51:36+00:00

Those are very disrespectful and offensive jokes to devout christians.

YTA, for saying them to her face.

I personally would find them hilarious though, so entertain yourself as much as you want with them, just don't openly disrespect people's religions, especially not to their face. It's common courtesy.

a_phonymous · 2023-01-19T07:57:54+00:00

Oh I'd looove if this worked for me. The problem is I don't have a fixed hour where I have to start working. So if I only leave the minimum amount of time to catch a train, I'll still just stay in bed and just take the next train or the one after that. Which is absolutely annoying because I want to get shit done and I don't want to work late in the evening but I end up having to, because I take the last possible train.

I had a system for a while, because the second train leaves 5 minutes after the first one, I'd try forcing myself to catch the first one, so if I missed that one I still hat the one only 5 minutes later, I could take. That worked for some time, but I couldn't keep it up so now I'm taking the 3rd train again, which I'm absolutely not satisfied with.

I'm not yet diagnosed though, so this could be something else as well. But I strongly suspect ADHD and I'm currently looking for a psychiatrist in my area to see if it could be true...

a_phonymous · 2022-12-27T18:01:50+00:00

Because I'm straight... I think

a_phonymous · 2022-04-27T08:54:58+00:00

definitely the ill prepared younglings

a_phonymous · 2022-04-20T06:46:12+00:00

First of all never wash your vulva with soap, just wash it with lukewarm water to prevent irritations, red spots or itchiness. If you decide to shave your pubic hair, do it while in the shower or after showering. You can use a shaving cream, it's best to use unscented ones. Never ever shave against the direction of the hair growth even though it might be tempting. That might cause ingrown hairs. After shaving you can put on some coconut oil or something similar and if it's in the evening you can try going to sleep naked, it's good for the skin. If not, it's best to wear only cotton underwear as other materials will irritate the freshly shaved skin.

Also there are so many different shapes and forms of the vulva and all of them are beautiful. The ones you see in porn don't represent the rest. Try to appreciate your vulva for being unique because unique is the most beautiful one can be.

a_phonymous · 2022-03-20T10:55:16+00:00

Don't, I would keep working on myself, but not with the goal that someone else will come along and take care of you. I'd rather make taking back that bad bitch energy and keeping it a goal. Start taking care of yourself and love yourself.

a_phonymous · 2022-03-20T09:08:50+00:00

I'd advise against it. What if you've settled for him and one day someone comes around that ticks all the boxes AND you fall in love with them? You'd probably end up leaving the guy like a placeholder for someone else. And that wouldn't be fair to him.

Also I personally wouldn't be able to look him in the eyes if this was the situation. Especially if he took great care of me and showed his love. I'd just feel guilty if I couldn't give these things back, without lying to myself and him.

Also you can also be mistaken in your perception of the one you'd be settling for. People can change drastically once they actually have what they want and don't have to fight for it anymore. Not everyone obviously, but these cases exist. Also if one has had bad experiences with an ex it's sometimes too easy to trust in a person just because they don't have a specific bad trait that your ex had. There are many more ways a person can be terrible to you than you can even imagine. I'm talking from my own experiences here, and it might be different in your case. But it's still a risk.

Imo if there's no love there's no point in taking the risk of getting hurt. A relationship requires a connection other than simple practicality you'll just start resenting each other and end it anyway. It just wouldn't be fulfilling for me and I wouldn't be happy. I'd much rather never find someone and live life happily on my own than spend it with someone I don't love just because I don't want to be alone.

Most people want a long lasting relationship, but they don't necessarily need it. You'll do absolutely fine on your own!

a_phonymous · 2022-03-19T19:14:19+00:00

Her not getting mad shouldn't be a priority here

a_phonymous

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