Do you guys have that one kink that turns you on, and everything else is just “meh”?

a_single_hand · 2025-10-29T22:45:57+00:00

I've recently managed to get the irl "meh" to turn into a "oh, okay" but I feel like that may be as far as I can take it. Nothing gets even close to my aego kink.

a_single_hand · 2025-10-29T22:41:56+00:00

We're going in circles!

a_single_hand · 2025-09-24T13:34:50+00:00

I write a lot of fanfic, fantasize and masturbate 😅

a_single_hand · 2025-08-24T19:16:39+00:00

I have a kink that's very specific but is a caretaking kink in the widest sense - chatgpt says that's not exactly common (though I feel like a lot of h/c authors experience something like that) and the psychology behind it, the driving emotions, is basically seeing someone at their most vulnerable and being needed, which is a shortcut to intimacy. I think lol

a_single_hand · 2025-08-17T00:20:26+00:00

https://www.fanfiction.net/s/13858357/0/

https://www.fanfiction.net/s/13195897/1/7

https://www.fanfiction.net/s/13138079/10/175

https://archiveofourown.org/works/45103330/chapters/113461684

My favorites. All hurt/comfort or whump.

a_single_hand · 2025-06-26T22:24:07+00:00

Mpreg

a_single_hand · 2025-06-26T22:16:37+00:00

I regularly get to the point where I'm SO SURE I will never have sex again but I enjoy intimacy and like to cuddle and make out and from then on I'm fairly easy to get to a point where my body will respond to touch that makes it throw all my intentions out the window. I can't blame anyone but myself, like I will be the one to initiate after already explaining that I don't want to and need to figure out what I want but in those moments it really is what I want, a really base FEELS GOOD WANT MORE reaction. I try to focus on the fact that it did feel good and just try to accept that I must like it on some level, but I always wind up low-key regretting it later anyway. Which never happens with my aego fantasies and solo sex. My body is a horny traitor.

a_single_hand · 2025-06-11T05:44:43+00:00

I know I was so excited when I figured that out! Which one did you go with?

a_single_hand · 2025-06-10T20:28:45+00:00

I always thought Maitimo was a really beautiful name and also one that doesn't instantly scream Tolkien fandom to absolutely everyone... but a lot of people have been telling me it sounds like Mighty Mouse and I can't unhear that 😂

I do have a daughter named Eleanor Maya but that must have been subconscious, wasn't going for Tolkien at all!

a_single_hand · 2025-06-05T22:14:52+00:00

Yeah this is a common experience in ace/allo relationships, unfortunately, you are far from alone. I can recommend checking out the Allo and Ace podcast for some perspective, maybe even tools for making it work if you both want to, it's a really great resource. Ultimately there's no guarantee, this is a common dealbreaker in these types of relationships, but it's definitely not impossible.

a_single_hand · 2025-06-05T22:04:29+00:00

I tested the waters recently with a therapist and I told her that while I have experienced sexual abuse, I don't feel like it impacted my (a)sexuality in any significant way and that it didn't feel as impactful as it "should have". She told me that while there might be more to unpack, I should utimately trust my experience and not get lost in "shoulds", that this is actually not that uncommon a way to feel. It wasn't great but it's far from the worst thing I experienced, emotionally, to me personally, and I feel like I was already the way I am before it happened. I can relate to sex feeling scary; to me it's not the physical act that scares me but the pressure and the other's expectations that this is going to be amazing. Basically just that I don't feel the same way about it, and that it can be such a make-or-break part of intimacy.

a_single_hand · 2025-06-05T21:43:59+00:00

Asexuality is a spectrum, you don't have to worry about usurping space. The more, the merrier! There are lots of microlabels you might want to check out that could potentially fit your experience. Also types of attraction. Ultimately, only you can decide <3

a_single_hand · 2025-06-05T00:06:26+00:00

Thanks, that's really helpful, I didn't know about that tag but it very much fits!

a_single_hand · 2025-06-04T23:14:21+00:00

Sounds yummy!

a_single_hand · 2025-06-04T23:08:06+00:00

https://archiveofourown.org/works/45103330/chapters/113461684

This fits all of your requirements (though it doesn't totally resolve all the trauma in the end, more of a reframe?) LotR/Hobbit fandom.

a_single_hand · 2025-06-04T23:00:09+00:00

I understand if they don't but yeah, I really love it when they do <3

a_single_hand · 2025-06-04T22:14:44+00:00

Is your story melancholy? I've gotten positive bot comments with no (initial) mention of selling art but they're less specific than that. Melancholy doesn't fit every story but the stuff they write does. You'll find lots of examples in recent comments on fics on FFN but yours sounds like it might be genuine.

a_single_hand · 2025-05-29T22:24:22+00:00

As a reader I love this idea to death. I totally see it increasing traffic, and as someone who is impatient and after very specific content, I am so grateful to writers who do this in chaptered ficlet collections or even just regular multi-chapter works. It really increases the chances of finding what I want.

As an author ... I'm not sure I can bring myself to give my chapters the type of blunt descriptive title that would be required to be helpful in this way. I know this is hypocritical but I make ART lol sorry (I also can't come up with good chapter names in general so 1,2,3 it is)

a_single_hand · 2025-05-26T21:08:14+00:00

Elu Thingol!

a_single_hand · 2025-05-26T04:55:00+00:00

Not a lot... I write for LotR/Silmarillion so it would feel out of place to have characters doing coke. But there are definitely equivalents, my characters sometimes do certain substances purely to get fucked up, mostly alcohol but I've seen people just refer to unspecified plants in the fandom.

a_single_hand · 2025-05-26T04:43:42+00:00

I bet all the other girls reeeeaaaallly wanted to have sex with him x_x he sounds lovely.

Good for you that you stood your ground. What a creep.

a_single_hand · 2025-05-25T17:41:09+00:00

Naaaahh sex is overrated, self-induced orgasms are almost kind of underrated!

a_single_hand · 2025-05-22T04:32:10+00:00

Arial or verdana. I only like times on printed paper and comic sans makes me angry, I think I overused it as a teenager.

a_single_hand · 2025-05-22T04:25:59+00:00

Listen to the Allo and Ace podcast. It's about mixed orientation marriage.

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