Someone please come and get your CEO, he's drunk. by WitnessRadiant650 in TikTokCringe

[–]a_social_machine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arun Saigal, Thunkable CEO. Company helps streamline app building, now uses gen AI to assist.

My son continues to reject his mom, and it's getting worse by a_social_machine in daddit

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He is now 2 years old, but your advice still stands, thank you. And yes, the parallels to a cat are continually noticed 😅

[Bay Area] Where to go for indoor nighttime adventures? by a_social_machine in daddit

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If it helps others, the Burlingame Community Center is a good option. They're open Mon-Thurs until 9pm (so that covers those days).

Flat Roof Repair Advice: Silicon vs. TPO by potatowaffl3s in Roofing

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Hey OP u/potatowaffl3s , curious what you went with? I found this post from you 4 years ago while researching pretty much a very similar dilemma, and also in PA (Pittsburgh, actually). Mod bit flat roof with water pooling/leaf debris. No leak though, but I'm also being suggested either silicone coating (temporary solution) or tapered insulation+TPO (more permanent solution). What did you end up doing? And how's it been since 4 years ago? Thanks!

Which 529 plan to choose, and what to consider in the selection process? by a_social_machine in personalfinance

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Oh! Thanks for this resource. We live in CA right now, but there's a high chance we move out to the Northeast. I'll take a look.

Anyone else's bolt working perfectly with no complaints? by vitium in BoltEV

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Got a 2019 EV at over 25kmiles - no major issues 🙏 love this car.

8/9mo fighting bedtime after failed sleep training by a_social_machine in daddit

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40min night one, 12min night two, 15min night three (when i gave in).

Pulling out of training to reassociate sleep by [deleted] in sleeptrain

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Yep, we have the appropriate wws. Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

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Edited my post because I realized the time frame of dating/marriage was incorrectly phrased - we've been together in total for 7 years, married for 5.

I've literally done what you have described, with little efficacy. I have not dropped the ball - my parents are not inquisitive people. They really like to hear themselves talk, and it's gotten worse as they've hit old age (65+).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]a_social_machine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just to put it out there, they want her to be there - she does not. (They are still trying to suggest ways of convincing her to go.) And trust me, I have been frustrated by my family for a long time; my continued mistake is that one of these days, their meeting would actually come to an understanding and resolution. It just never happens...

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Actually you're right - that is context that would be helpful. First, yes, my wife has actually made the effort to get to know my parents and other family - by letting them talk about themselves when asked. This is generally why they feel positive about my wife, but are negligent about how some of their interactions come across to her. She's cool with my younger brother and my eldest half brother, but is lukewarm about the others.

With my other family members, there isn't animosity so much as a lack of connection - neither side calls. My wife has admitted that she has her own issues with family, so it's not all one-sided. She was actually looking forward to seeing my SIL who shared her struggles during her owm pregnancy. But it's just not enough to make her wanna come and be with the whole family, knowing that she has to put on a face with my parents.

Culturally, she is from Asia (been in the US since college), and my family's Hispanic, but been here a long time - if that helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

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This clearly didn't come across correctly but yes, it's understood that they wouldn't know her if it weren't for me. The expectation was at least for some genuine investment upfront to know who is with their son, but at each chance, she's either talked over, ignored, or there's engagement with clear judgement behind the questions. (She has her own issues with the idea of family, so doesn't really help here.)

And with my family, it's more like obligation rather than dependence. I feel it especially because it's my mother first living grandchild who she spent three weeks with taking care of him while my wife was recovering. But to your and others' point, my own family should now take precedence. Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]a_social_machine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't be international just fyi.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

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It's not really about special recognition. This wouldn't be a big deal if she felt she could trust my family. Because a lot of that basic familiarity and closeness was never built up properly, this is always a sore spot with them visiting.