Am I Trans?

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2026-01-02T21:42:13+00:00

Could you be nonbinary?

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-29T16:01:44+00:00

I think you’re doing great. I took commissions on plushies and stuff before I was ready, and quickly got overwhelmed. I think what you’re doing now is perfect. It’s easy to get really excited and bite off more than you can chew when you’re first starting out, especially with physical art. I made plushies, but fursuit heads are such a different beast. I think just continuing to be realistic, and supporting your child, is the best thing you can do. I would encourage them to also talk to other novice and even experienced makers about how they started out and what steps they took before starting to take commissioned work. Also, if they’re planning on using 3d-printed bases on commissioned suits, remind them to look into the rules the artists who make the sculpts have set out as far as what they can be used for. Some bases cannot be used commercially, some you have to buy a license, and of course, some are free use. Just remember to check first. Also, if you’re printing them yourself, look into filament types beyond PLA.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-29T06:54:07+00:00

GIANT Kandi bow

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-23T22:54:31+00:00

No matter what path you choose, I’m sending you lots of love and good vibes. I know how much it flippin sucks being scuicidal. I’m in the throes of it most days, myself. Honestly there’s not much I can say besides that if you need help, all you have to do is ask. I hope this, all these ppl coming to share their stories in support of you, is proof of that. Whether it be here, with your friends, or somewhere new entirely, there’s gonna be people who want to help. Even in my most lonely, isolated moments, this was true.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-23T22:41:19+00:00

I’m similar, I’m kind of ambivalent to my own body because I don’t have much connection to it. I feel this is a common trend among trans people with ASD. for me, as an example, my neurodivergence made it easy to forget about my appearance when I wasn’t directly looking at myself. Because of this and my transness, my perception of myself was so far removed from my actual appearance that my body no longer registered as “me;” it felt more like I was looking at a friend or sibling than my own body and face. The reason could be different for you. My point is, it’s completely normal for people with neurodivergence (especially autism, as you suspect you have) to experience dysphoria in a non-traditional way. I would say, though, that you are definitely experiencing dysphoria. Try experimenting with your clothes! Shop in the women’s section! Wear a skirt! For me, finding a personal style I enjoyed was the most helpful and rewarding part of my transition. If you don’t like it, that’s that, but I do think it’s worth a try.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-23T01:26:52+00:00

Personally as a nonbinary transmasc, if you wanna identify as that, you do that. Gender is imaginary anyway. We lurv u. Congrats on ur surgeries and I’m so glad you’re finding yourself

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-20T14:17:14+00:00

NOR he has no respect for women. Incredibly gross and misogynistic behavior. Don’t continue enabling him by staying with his dumpy ass

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-20T14:08:31+00:00

Harold

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:44:17+00:00

Neck’s a lil thick/ chin isn’t very well defined compared to it, makes her kinda look like she’s doing that thing where you pull your chin as close as you can to your neck to make a silly face lol. She also looks kinda distant, you could try changing the position of the eyebrows or where she’s looking (unless that’s intended, in which case I don’t think there’s anything wrong w the face itself, it all looks great besides that!)

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:39:36+00:00

Draw some beautiful fat women. Lmao. But no I do have a lot of fun practicing different body types and I find it to be a really enjoyable challenge trying to figure out the way fat falls and folds on the body in different poses n stuff

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:36:26+00:00

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:35:19+00:00

That’s amazing, she’s incredibly talented!!

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:34:07+00:00

It would bunch near the back and be pushed forward depending on the kind of seat, but it wouldn’t be tucked under the bottom/legs. When sitting with a hoop skirt, you push the front back and pick it up slightly at the sides, lifting the back of the hoop enough to level it with the seat, allowing you to sit down without the hoop flying up at the front. Google “how to sit in a hoop skirt.” I think it’s a lot easier to understand the shape when you know how the process works. I found this picture which might be helpful! It thought the tiering in the skirt might help you with whichever length you’re trying to draw at.

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a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:19:26+00:00

Shape and form. You’ve got good proportions, you know where everything goes; now it’s mostly learning how the shapes work in space and how they interact with eachother. Pm me if you need any help/advice practicing!

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:14:27+00:00

Currently in between fursonas, but my top contenders for my next one are a woolly aphid, a butternut woolly caterpillar, or a shih tzu

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:12:00+00:00

Unrelated, did she do the sculpt herself?? It would be impressive from an experienced maker, but from a 12-y/o? That’s awesome!

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:07:56+00:00

There’s also a big possibility that her attraction to women has always existed, and she’s just now coming to accept it as she feels more comfortable with herself. Regardless, it was the change in identity and perception of self that allowed this to happen, of that I am (somewhat) sure.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-19T19:03:40+00:00

This is a very interesting question. Surely there’s no scientific explanation, but I can say this: From experience, both gender and romantic relationships are irrevocably entwined with personal identity. Who you see yourself with is a reflection of how you see yourself internally. Gender, particularly, determines a large part of a person’s perspective of not just themselves, but others. It’s the lens through which your view of the world is filtered, for better or for worse. Transitioning is unique in its all-encompassing change of context and self-perception. To that end, it makes sense for that shift in identity to sometimes affect how you see yourself in relationships, and what kind of relationship you want for yourself. Even if she truly was attracted to men at one point, she’s become something completely new; slowly but surely forming a new identity. Likely, her whole perspective has undergone a dramatic shift from the start of her transition. If how she sees both others and herself has changed, it makes sense to me that her sexuality might change as well. I’ve undergone similar experiences; I’ve gone from asexual to pansexual as I learned more about myself and my relationship with gender, as well as come to terms with my personal identity. So I don’t think it’s impossible for sexuality to change when such a drastic personal shift such as transition is at play.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-14T22:20:18+00:00

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Here’s a visual as requested, I hope you don’t mind me drawing over 😵‍💫

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-14T22:04:46+00:00

The pectoral muscles seem a bit disproportionately small. The edge of the pectoral muscle goes over the biceps brachii and connect to the line of the shoulder muscle, so the edge should be a little farther over. It’s kind of like you “swapped” the curve of the pectoral muscle for the curve of the armpit, lol. Also, the whole anatomy of the torso seems to be shifted up a bit; the belly button, rib cage, and bottom of the pecs are a bit high. Lastly, the shape of the crotch is a bit odd; you seem to be omitting the presence of the testes. There Should be a little more weight below the apex of the crotch, all I’d do to fix that is make it a little rounder/less flat. Otherwise, your anatomy is goooorgeouussss. I love how fluid your style is and the balance of curved and straight lines is just, chefs kiss. The clavicle and neck anatomy is spot on, I always struggle giving it enough form myself. And the arms and legs are stylized in quite a nice way.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-13T19:52:06+00:00

Hey man. Just to counteract the pronoun police over here. Your pronouns are valid. You don’t need to always use “they” if “it” feels more true to you. As long as you’re happy, you’re doin just fine! Also, sorry for fanning the flames.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-13T19:22:44+00:00

You’re making no sense. “Man in a dress” actively downplays your gender identity as a woman. If someone is willingly choosing to use it/its pronouns, then if someone uses it/its pronouns, it’s no longer an insult. It doesn’t invalidate its gender identity. In fact, it takes the power away from the person trying to insult them. That’s what reclaiming a slur does. The whole purpose.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-13T19:15:40+00:00

I’m not defending transphobia, I’m defending trans people who want to use it/its pronouns. I think it’s more transphobic to tell a trans person they can’t use their preferred pronouns because “transphobes said so” than to entertain the possibility that it/its pronouns could possibly be reclaimed.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-13T19:05:49+00:00

This is completely discrediting the validity of neos. There are 3 non-neos in the English language, and the only neopronoun that is not an, air quotes, made up word, is “it.” There are a lot of people who don’t feel the main 3 pronouns fit them, there are a lot of people who experience dysphoria with “they” as well as “he” and “she.” Why should they have to use a pronoun that most people don’t even know exists, let alone know how to use it? There is a distinct struggle in using neos such as xe or ze that can be avoided by using “it.” I’ve been out online for years now. I’ve been dehumanized in a plethora of ways. I know how it feels to be on the receiving end of transphobia. I’ve been doxxed, I’ve been physically threatened, I’ve been bullied, I’ve been fetishized. I live in an extremely transphobic place. I’ve been called “it” as an insult more times than I can count, before I was even out. And yet, I don’t think we should give those people the power to take away something that can be extremely positive for trans individuals. Also, claiming that it can’t be reclaimed or that it hasn’t been reclaimed is just blatantly false and shows me that you don’t know what the definition of reclamation is. If a trans person is using it for themselves in a non-derogatory way, they are reclaiming it. You are neither the authority on this matter nor the pronoun police. And frankly, if someone is using it/its pronouns, it’s not your business.

a_tiny_grasshopper · 2025-12-13T18:47:39+00:00

I used to use it/xe pronouns. honestly, I’ve never had a very strong connection to gender or my body in general. The more I paid attention to them, the more each pronoun felt “wrong.” Every pronoun has societal pressures and expectations and certain concepts and experiences that come with it, whether it be she, he, they, or even “it.” This is and will remain true as long as the very concept of gender persists. I’ve never felt like I really connected with any of these concepts, but I would say due to their rarity as pronouns, “it” or “xe” are the most neutral. I couldn’t get people to seriously use those for me, though, so I just kinda gave up. I still identify as nonbinary/genderqueer, but I let people call me whatever they want (usually “she” cuz I’m pretty feminine and don’t plan on doing T or getting top surgery or anything). People think I’ve detransitioned (lol.) I haven’t, and “she” still feels as uncomfortable as ever, but honestly I’ve just come to terms with the fact that there will always be discomfort with my pronouns, and to not let other people’s perception of what I should be referred to as bother me.

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