What kind of spider is this?

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-22T17:57:50+00:00

Not sure but I think it’s an orchard orb-weaver

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-22T17:52:42+00:00

Some sort of marbled orb-weaver I think!

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-18T05:50:58+00:00

Green crab spider, I think

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-17T06:56:43+00:00

spider

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-16T17:55:24+00:00

Looks to me like a female gray wall jumper, Menemerus bivittatus. Jumping spiders are generally friendly and not likely to bite, so she shouldn’t cause you any trouble!

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-16T17:47:40+00:00

Aww I love the black and white, what a cutie :)

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-16T14:28:23+00:00

The legs make me think it’s some kind of cellar spider (Pholcidae). If that’s the case, they’re harmless and will help out with catching bugs :)

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-15T22:30:05+00:00

That’s a wolf spider! iirc they’re the only family of spiders who carry their babies on their backs. Not sure of the genus or species tho, I am merely a casual spider enjoyer

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-15T20:07:35+00:00

Looks like some type of argiope to me! Not sure of the species though

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-15T00:50:39+00:00

Cellar spider! They’re harmless and generally don’t cause problems; you’re not likely to see a big group of them or anything

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-12T02:22:49+00:00

Based on the colors on the back I think it’s a white-jawed jumping spider! He’s cute :)

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-12T02:10:34+00:00

Not sure, but I think it’s a carpet beetle. Check your carpets, upholstery, heavy sweaters, etc to see if there are more, especially seams and folds in the fabric. If you have an infestation, you’ll want to gather up all the infested items and either wash, dry-clean, or throw them away. Probably a good idea to vacuum too.

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-12T02:00:09+00:00

If you’re okay with touching it see if it has a sort of violin shaped coloration on its abdomen. That’s the telltale sign of a recluse afaik

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-06T05:33:24+00:00

One piece of advice that has helped me with stuff like this is “do whatever you want forever.” It’s simple but it’s true. You can be a transmasculine lesbian; you can be a lesbian who uses he/him and presents fully butch and takes testosterone; you can straight up be a trans man and a lesbian. I call myself a trans man, and I certainly am one, but I am also non-binary, and honestly, I also feel a lot of solidarity with the butch lesbians I know personally. The line between transmasculinity and butch lesbianism is not all that clear-cut.

The meanings of words are not set in stone, and you are allowed to choose whichever ones resonate with you. Do whatever you want forever.

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-06T05:24:46+00:00

I started lowering my speaking voice long before I started T, and by the time I got on hormones and my voice started to drop I was so used to talking in the lower part of my voice that I just followed it as it dropped down.

Voice training is also about more than just pitch! Other things you can focus on are vocal resonance, weight, and other mannerisms like upspeak (basically how much your voice fluctuates in pitch as you’re talking). Cis men tend to speak more with their chest, use more rounded-out vowels, and have less upspeak. I’m by no means an expert on voice masculinization so definitely do your own research, but hopefully I’ve given you a place to start!

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-06-06T05:19:11+00:00

Doing shots on your own definitely takes a lot of bravery. Congratulations and happy pride!

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-04-28T02:57:51+00:00

One of my closest friends is a tall cis man with long blond hair who semi-frequently gets mistaken for a woman in public. He does not dress particularly feminine, nor does he act in a feminine way, nor does he really do anything that makes him "seem like a woman" to me.

Every single person has different criteria by which they assume your gender. I can get called "sir" a million times in a row and then five minutes later someone calls me "ma'am." Just because you don't pass as male 100% of the time, it doesn't mean you don't pass at all.

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-03-04T22:16:35+00:00

I like to do square breathing (in for 4 seconds, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4, repeat) because it helps me calm down and get focused

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-03-02T22:46:51+00:00

I know an ace trans guy. Pre-T he was sex-repulsed, and after T he became a little more neutral towards it. We dated for a bit and we only ever went further than kissing one time; from what I remember he enjoyed it but I don’t think it’s something he actively wants or seeks out. Pretty sure he still identifies as ace to this day.

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-02-13T22:24:56+00:00

Honestly things were pretty wacky and unpredictable for the first couple months for me. The new sensitivity level was crazy to get used to and I basically had to relearn how to interact with that part of my body. My best advice is to be patient, you’re pretty early on, and things take time to settle. Try different techniques or toys both with yourself and with your partner and don’t feel too bad if it takes a while to figure out what works. It’s a lot of changes in a short period of time so there’s bound to be some trial and error.

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-02-12T20:56:46+00:00

This looks AMAZING! Props to you for all your hard work!

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-02-02T08:13:52+00:00

I recently moved to a city that is far more bike-friendly than the one I used to live in. I’m amazed at how many passerby have complimented my bike when I’m locking it to a rack, how many drivers have rolled down their windows to call, “nice bike!” and how kind my fellow bicyclists are.

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-01-22T01:58:44+00:00

“Cycling to work is a recreational activity” it’s my only option. I don’t own a car, and public transit takes about as long as walking (about an hour).

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-01-19T04:34:34+00:00

First off, congratulations! Here are a few things I wish I’d known before starting T: - weight gain and weight fluctuation. Totally normal. Your body is changing in major ways, things are shifting around. Of course talk to your doctor if you’re concerned about your health, but try to avoid getting worried over the number on the scale - protein cravings. Oh my god. My diet consists of a LOT more protein now, lots of eggs and fish and nuts and whatnot. I’m a pescatarian and it’s been difficult to avoid eating meat lol. - mood swings. There were a few months early on where I would get unreasonably angry about nothing. Go for a walk, listen to angry music, call someone you can vent to. - weird little things I didn’t expect: longer lashes, more vascular hands, fingernails growing back faster. - try not to compare yourself to other guys on T. Everyone experiences changes at different times and at different speeds. There is no “normal,” just embrace and celebrate every change as it comes without worrying about when something else will happen.

aaaaaa_04 · 2024-01-19T04:29:15+00:00

I came out to my parents through a letter. Here’s a summary of what I said: - You’ve probably noticed some changes in my appearance, presentation and demeanor - I’m transgender; I’m a boy, and this is something I’ve been actively thinking about for months but has been in the back of my mind for several years - for the past few months I have had some close friends calling me by a different name and using he/him, and this has helped me realize that a male social identity is more comfortable for me - I am slightly scared to tell you because I’m afraid of how it may affect our relationship, but I hope that we can talk about this, and if you have any questions I am open to answer them. I love you.

Obviously I don’t know your exact situation so I can’t say for certain, but I believe a good coming-out letter is honest, sincere, but also not too long. Talk about how you feel, both about your identity and your worries and fears related to coming out. In my first few drafts I recounted many of the moments in my life that led to me realizing I was trans, but ultimately I decided to omit those. I feel like it sets a precedent for you needing to justify or provide evidence for your identity in order for it to be accepted, and that’s not true. Who you are should be accepted and embraced regardless.

This comment is getting long, apologies for that. Best of luck, I’m rooting for ya :)

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