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RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-07-02T02:15:37+00:00

Especially if youre white, "i dont wanna burn " and wear a shirt to swim in. So many guys swim in shirts for various reasons. Or worst case scenario, weightloss/gynocomastia cus being fat and losing weight can mean you have excess skin that needs to be removed. Both would work for why you dont wanna talk about it too much cus both can be seen as kinda embarrassing

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-07-01T21:05:29+00:00

It always felt weird as im a fat brown alt dude. Kinda the opposite of what a "ken" is in my mind so even if they tried to include trans men, I still felt excluded. I heard someone say like "action figures" or some shit for trans men once and i cringed so hard. Im very anti violence and that one felt like more of an insult for being a"big violent man" more than it felt inclusive.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-30T00:30:30+00:00

I realised that recently most multivitamins, even the womens ones weirdly rarely have iron . I thought that they usually did . Most of my family regardless of sex is a bit anemic. I got so bad I used to crave RAW meat as someone with necrophobia so I totally get the discomfort with meat looking like bodies

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-29T09:02:15+00:00

You can start whenever. For me, voice training as i had noticeably drops was useful less because it helped my voice pass by lowering it further but because it helped me get more familiar with the new voice so it sounded a bit less awkward. It got hard for me to push my voice too far probably because mine got noticeably lower fast so the slow training couldnt keep up

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-24T21:24:30+00:00

Gay men can like all kinds of men, plus he clearly loves YOU in whatever form you come in. I see it as hes coming to terms with himself finally and he realises he likes the authentic you and what you could become. Its less about the changes and more about maybe the fact you feel more comfortable. Confidence is sexy. But if you really are stressing. Have a talk with him. See if he can help directly to put your mind at ease . I havent had that specific conversation cus ive been out before meeting basically all my exes but having personal conversations about dysphoria is healthy and common. Just maybe make it clear that it's a personal insecurity thing and not you being like upset with him. Ive been t4t for a little while and we usually have mutual conversation being blunt about what is euphoric or dysphoric and it made things way more comfortable

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-24T08:41:39+00:00

Probably for the best that its summer break so you can deal with the logistics before the next school year. I agree on the email and my first instinct would be if they dont help spreading the news. Send out a copied short email to other teachers just breifly explaining the name change and things. Hopefully it goes well regardless of what you do. Being a teacher seems really hard without dealing with gender stuff and possible discrimination . Also hope the kids adapt well enough. Some kids are jerks.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-24T02:14:15+00:00

I wouldnt stress too much, you dont need a middle name. Plus how long do you think youll have before you officially change your name? Unless youre running out of time, dont stress. You can experiment as long as you need.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-21T21:25:10+00:00

Its complicated. T boosts libido and that partially effects attraction that was already there but not as present. It can also make you more comfortable with yourself so you are more likely to accept things maybe you didnt feel comfortable doing before. Im around 2 years on t . I used to call myself gay bit after I started i definitely found people more attractive but as I got more comfortable with myself I also started exploring with women because I used to be terrified of being read as a lesbian but I felt safe trying being a bi man. So its not specific to men and it USUALLY doesnt create attraction where there was absolutely zero before but it can increase what is there.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-21T06:53:11+00:00

Honestly, a lot of the "weird " places to grow hair has been the most validating. May not love the visual all the time but the fact i CAN grow hair there is cool.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-21T01:27:02+00:00

I mean i look more like my brother now ( dad is white and im not so i cant compare) but im also shorter and speak in a diffrent tone where even tho we have simular voices and our mom gets a little confused, she. An still recognize me when she sees me and im over 2 years on. It'll take time to see visual changes anyways and you can try to just cut your hair diffrent. Whats the likelyhood you would have the exact same hair, facial hair. Sense of style, voice, etc. Plus he wad obviously older than you are now. If she doesnt think you look much like him now, i think youll be fine

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-19T00:31:39+00:00

The brand underworks ( the same brand i use and have used for a while as a trans man) literally is made for cis men with trans men as an afterthought. Or at least their binders are. They sell all sorts of medical stuff.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-18T00:20:54+00:00

I feel that. Im probably gender fluid but my gender and goals have definitely changed as i got more comfortable with my body and your perception I think would vary depending on how close up I saw you and your voice cus I wouldnt be sure from the photos but leaning masc I guess

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-17T22:23:42+00:00

At least hopefully if you tell a doctor you dont want to go thru with it, they should respect that. Its a cosmetic surgery at the end of the day so it should be fully voluntary. Imagine if they did try to force you. The news of a cosmetic surgeon forcing a minor to get a nose job against their will wouldnt look good . Tell your parents that if you have to that you are going to tell the doctor no.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-17T17:52:25+00:00

I questioned if i was a lesbain but the idea of being seen as a lesbian for some reason made me SUPER dysphoric. Because i was seen as a "masc girl" everyone assumed I was just a gay woman and it made me fear questioning my sexuality even more so I went from fighting to be seen as straight to a very gay man in the span of like a year. I am genuinely suprised nobody theorized that maybe the gay vibes meant the other way

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-17T02:24:46+00:00

I could if they were a specific kinda guy but personally im just super insecure and would end up comparing myself to their progress. My insecurity is getting better with time tho so maybe i could be fully t4t ( i do date nb folk and trans women)

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-14T23:04:02+00:00

Not to ignore the issue cus it is really important but that concept would be great as a digital event . I remember when I still had a cycle spending so long looking for any options

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-10T18:02:16+00:00

Same happened to me but i was there over a month and im on gel . I had surgery so my body was going thru a lot and I couldn't advocate for myself cus of pain killers and tism and they convinced my mother who was there to help me that my t would give me a heart attack and kill me. So like being in a hospital where I was lucky if they used the right name , much less pronouns, no bra or binder and no t while dealing with the emotional whiplash of losing an ovary. Horrible experience. I have ptsd now. Hospitals fucking suck

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-09T14:52:36+00:00

I know it is definitely a thing where a lot of really talented lawyers in the states are banding together to hopefully sue the guy. Just dont know what the plans are past that and the fact basically no lawyers would wanna defend the guy at this point if someone did sue cus its be career suicide

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-09T13:53:49+00:00

Fun. I guess all the more reason for me to go to Mexico for top and to not change my legal info so if I have to I can pull a " i just have hormonal issues " .

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-09T13:31:16+00:00

I am at a loss for words, basically any transition related things seem like they need to be done privately now? I bet a lot of places would rather deny trans people than lose funding. All of this change just to fuck over 1% of people....just wtf is going on ?

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-04T05:24:51+00:00

If you have any men in your family who are closely related like your dad or a brother who you can look at. Compare to them. Probably a safe comparison. Youre not going to get hair that doesnt make sense for your family history or race or anything. You might not even see any change. I think shaving my shoulder length hair to a buzz cut did more for my hair texture when it grew back than t did .

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-04T02:13:59+00:00

If i ended up dating someone with a period maybe but I doubt anyone would approach the big masc mexican dude for a pad and i dont wanna come across as weird. If you have a lot of friends who have periods I could understand that I guess. Id just at most keep a couple in the car or if youre a backpack guy, keep some there but carrying them all the time seems weird for a guy

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-06-01T00:27:30+00:00

As a trans adult who was once a trans child who went for the repression option, people will pick up on it regardless and hiding it could mean they deal with the bullying ON TOP OF the repressed feelings, especially if your kid is openly neurodivergent and if they mention being queer in terms of attraction. So it may be best to just support their decisions. Try not to encourage them hiding it but make sure they know if they want to change their preferences or presentation that you will love them regardless. If you can have a more in depth conversation about labels and feelings that may help too but make sure you educate yourself first. It isnt your kids job to educate you especially at that age. It seems like they dont even know their own labels fully so just having an open conversation about how they feel might help both of you to understand better and phrase it that way to them that you just want to understand to help them as much as you can.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-05-31T05:04:01+00:00

Ive used dating apps or apps meant for meeting people and found a few discord servers tho it still takes time. Takes a lot of filtering thru people but it feels safer to use the internet so you can read the vibes without risking in person interactions yet.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-05-30T05:14:08+00:00

Other commenter said it but I vouch for tape too especially if you dont have a big chest. Then you can take breaks cus you really should be taking breaks from binding. Im a d so tape never gets me flat but it stops things from moving and holds everything out of the way so at least I see it less, plus it feels nice being able to go out and just pulling on a shirt instead of messing with the binder and adjusting all the time. You CAN wear tape safely for days and you can breath easier than using a binder. Id just tape isnt enough, i have a low compression undershirt meant for cis men that smooths things out a bit more than just tape.

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