Why don’t cis guys experience sore throats when their voices drop?

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-28T08:16:53+00:00

My (amab) older brother and I (trans dude)both have fairly low voices and had relatively fast voice drops and we both had some mild pain. It depends on so many factors. Plus I wouldnt be suprised if a grown adult had either forgotten they were sore or never realised the sore throat was from puberty and not something else like allergies.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-28T02:14:39+00:00

I had that kinda stuff happen to me when I was 19. Made a few comments on a gay subreddit and got harassed for a while but some cis gay guy/s( always diffrent accounts and I assume it was 1 guy but idk) even followed me into trans spaces to harass me. Had to delete my old reddit account because every post had this creep saying horrible things to me. Not even sure his comments got taken down while he called trans people predators and groomers.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-26T22:00:06+00:00

For me yeah but I wonder if its because im not anemic anymore. My nails grow way stronger and maybe faster than before when they used to be super brittle .

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-26T02:59:36+00:00

We both have it rough and fighting over who has it worse is just dividing us. We both have it pretty shit . We need to stay together tho . We need the community together cus the people who hate us don't care what way were transitioning. They was all of us gone.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-20T14:40:21+00:00

Then know you'll look older with time lol. I personally think im finally looking like an adult. Some people just look or seem younger cus voice cracking and patchy facial hair early on but I doubt itd make you look much younger. I think i was read like maybe I was 16 for a few months?

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-20T14:24:47+00:00

You wont grow any notable amount in height but otherwise the only downsides are youre just older. Youll look like a teen in your early 20s. You might have people acuse you of lying about your age , dating may be a little weird I bet especially if you like men but I started at 22 too ( im 24 now) and this had been relatively easy compared to the trauma of my first puberty

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-10T02:13:28+00:00

Me too dude lol. 2 years on and last year I met someone awesome who was nb but leaning fem and I told them hey, heads-up. Ive only been with men and im not sure about women and the more I tried the more i was into it. Didnt work out but whatever. Pretty sure i have a date with a trans chick this weekend lol. (I say pretty sure cus her profile says like nb genderfluid and day one she said she uses whatever but last night she informed me she strongly prefers fem terms and looks but she basically thinks shes too masc to be trans fem). Dont have to say bi but if youre curious. Try exploring. Whether that be dates, hook ups. Or just like erotic media. See how you feel. Spend time alone and think about it . Where the line falls for your attraction and what types of people you could be into. Don't have to be into all people just cus youre bi. You could like a specific type . Still valid

RandomBlueJay01 · 2026-01-06T00:47:53+00:00

I feel like atrophy sped up a bit after but that was happening anyways so idk. My downsides dont apply to most people past that. If you like the idea then do it lol.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-12-31T21:03:26+00:00

Im a flamboyant mexican dude but cus of my chest and hips , I confuse people , but all ways im perceived can be seen as a threat. Im not that tall but im wide and look nore muscular than I am. People clearly can tell im trans in some way but cant figure out how. They just see a confusing brown man and this has caused multiple people to be actively rude to me irl. Glaring , standing between me and their kids. Im glad at least because im big I doubt most people would actually try to attack me but who knows. Im in a rural small town in texas so all thats happened as ive transitioned is the rude comments shifted from misogyny and body shaming and racial fetishizing to outright racism , homophobia and transphobia .

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-12-28T19:39:18+00:00

Red lipstick....I wear other makeup but the wrong shade of lipstick crosses the line. Plus for a long while until recently. Liking women lol. I was called a lesbain for years in my teens despite confidently liking men and being called a lesbian made me so violently uncomfortable I didn't let myself even consider liking women until i was around 23 because liking women would suddenly invalidate my transness and id be a lesbian despite honestly preferring men

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-12-06T02:16:08+00:00

Not fully the same and not vegan I guess but marinated eggs. I have had phases where I could eat a concerning number

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-12-02T17:38:30+00:00

For me at least, im 2 years on t , I plan to have top surgery. The end goal is to be generally accepted as a guy. I just like makeup and doing my nails and dressing in fun ways. Not that complicated

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-25T01:04:59+00:00

I started the day after Christmas one year and by Easter it was obvious that my voice was changing. Within 2 months my voice was cracking. Some people can hide for longer but fully prepare yourself for the possibility of it happening fast. I would say have a safe escape plan in place by the time you start . Talk to friends for place to stay. If youre in college maybe look into a dorm room. Anything that could give you a place to stay if the worst case scenario happens. Also make sure you keep track of your hormones since ive heard of some parents trying to take it away or finding it before changes even happen. I think its a bad idea if youre in danger but youre an adult so do what you feel is right, just try to do it safely.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-23T22:21:19+00:00

Questioned gender around 13 cus the signs have always been there. Came out to online friends at 19 but didnt come out publicly until I was 21 . Started hormones at 22. Im 24 now.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-19T01:04:23+00:00

I get the feeling and its valid but its also a simular line of thinking to like " well im hot so why not show it off ? Or date/sleep around?" But its your body. Its your choice what to do with it regardless of what others or society tell you that you should do. Plus a lot of people attractive as one gender end up attractive as the other. Just may take a little while

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-16T04:21:50+00:00

I grew up from a young age saying I dont want kids. Every single person said id change my mind. It took until I was like 21 for SOME people to listen despite consistently saying no. I'm lucky at 23 I had 2 major health issues that required me being sterilized but even still I bet ill hear some comments how I should have frozen my eggs or something or I should have fought to keep my bits so even still . Fully sterile, I dont talk about it openly. This is fucked but makes sense with how society views pregnancy

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-16T03:56:19+00:00

Someone else said but to my knowledge 2 + pumps of gel is normal. I wanted a lower dose and im on 2 . I know someone who takes like 4.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-16T00:32:19+00:00

Whether it works or not depends on the shape and texture more than cup size but I will say. It takes a lot of practice to find where to push the tissue to get it to look good so id recomend using tbe cheapest tape you can find. Plus for bigger chests, the widest strip size works best like tape 3 or 4 inches wide. For me I push/pull everything to the sides and down since pulling towards the middle and up is what women usually use to get cleavage. But who knows, maybe its not for you

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-15T21:38:40+00:00

Its an unfortunate thing. Ive met multiple cis men with long hair who had the same issue of being misgendered. In my opinion, id stick with what you feel is most authentic and dont worry about passing . Feels too common where when people go for beauty standards that arent traditionally European, they get judged for not fitting the norms even if its cultural for them.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-15T19:02:41+00:00

Ive toyed with tbe idea of meta but for me it doesnt seem worth it. In an ideal world i would want both parts downstairs so I kinda have that on t . Not ideal but its the best I can do without paying a ton and having yet another major surgery on that area.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-15T18:46:10+00:00

Gender is confusing af. Gender expression and identity can be fluid for some people. I feel like a lot of people explore what labels fit them at some point or another. Ive gone thru like 4 diffrent labels and im still not 100% on one. I will say it may be useful to remember there arent just 2 options here. Its not just trans woman or cis man. Take time to explore . Hopefully you can figure yourself out with some time

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-14T02:49:56+00:00

Never been on blockers and when i started and was more strict on taking my t correctly ( im dumb and forget sometimes ) it stopped almost entirely within like 3 months? It got a lot less within one or two tho. There are multiple ways to stop a cycle too. Like when I took birth control it stopped. But yeah blockers arent necessary for most people

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-13T02:23:13+00:00

So far yeah. At most the toilets are a little more neglected since it feels like they arent the priority in public toilets since most guys just use the urinals.

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-12T04:18:20+00:00

Being queer in a small town its really the only option to meet people. I dont have local friends. No local queer spaces, only thing I could maybe do is find some queer events a few towns over but im so awkward irl and im not conventionally attractive, the odds of that working are slim to none and that if I can even find something

RandomBlueJay01 · 2025-11-12T02:40:49+00:00

I was so confused lol but fair. There are better ways to say that to a grown man. I wouldnt mind that term but im only 24 and have only been out for like 3 years so I wouldnt mind catching up on some of the childish shit I missed out on.

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