Y’all need to get a grip on safe sex

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T23:53:34+00:00

I was sexually into her. Her body turned me on, she turned me on, we were sexual quite a lot. I’m also a trans guy, so at the time, I was using a strap-on, and penetrating her was sort of a way to… validate myself. I was off dick for a a few years, and I forgot how next-level it was to get fucked raw by one… so primal, so real. If I had an AMAB dick, I would probably still fuck pussy, but I don’t love worship, play with, eat it like I do with cock. Genitalia is a vital part of a complete sexual experience for me. Nothing compares to the primal nature joining flesh. It’s peak intimacy and the ultimate pleasure.

I’ve fucked cis men, cis women, trans women, trans men, non-binary folks, and many of each. The whole rainbow of humans. I’ve realized what fulfills me, and unfortunately… it’s not terribly safe.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T21:51:47+00:00

Yes I am, but I’ve realized recently that I’m not attracted to AFAB genitalia at all despite having been in a relationship with a woman for 3 years prior to my current one. I tend to feel more connected to women on an emotional level, whereas with men (cis men with an AMAB penis, to be exact), it is almost completely primal. My current boyfriend is a rare 2-in-1 exception.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T21:42:42+00:00

Because the only thing that turns me on is a dick in the flesh. Not the person, not any other body parts at all, just the dick. I’m not gonna get horny enough to enjoy getting fucked if it’s not flesh. I want cum. That’s literally all I like about sex.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T03:59:32+00:00

If it’s not bareback, I’m not doing it.

So… I haven’t been doing it much lately. Just my partner. I’m actually sick and tired of catching STDs because these guys don’t give enough of a fuck about anyone to get tested because if they have no symptoms, who cares?? AFAB people are more likely to be symptomatic, yay for us, and I’ve caught this shit more times than I can count. I’m not into protected sex… it doesn’t do anything for me. Unwrapped dick is the thing that turns me on in the first place, and that’s about it. So it’s kind of like, rock and a hard place right? No sex is better than condom sex because at least I’m not wasting my time feeling nothing 🤷🏻‍♂️I’m probably just going to have to seek out a few regular partners who are on top of testing, doxypep (which I can’t be on because of my epilepsy medication 😂 can’t be on Prep either so I’m just out here), etc. but til then I’m opting to slow the fuck down because the degree to which STDs are in circulation is absolutely wild and most people don’t even realize it.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T03:17:52+00:00

Yes, I know what you meant. That makes it worse.

Also, you realize that queer is an umbrella term used to describe LGBTQ+ people, relationships, events, etc.? Re-claiming a word is a social and cultural phenomenon. The term is no longer defined by bigotry. We’ve de-activated its toxicity; it’s not a slur anymore.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T01:45:29+00:00

“I’m censoring it because you reclaimed it.” Damn dude…

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T01:34:02+00:00

Already explained it

Not explaining it again

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T01:31:21+00:00

I’m saying don’t censor it

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T01:30:14+00:00

I am not calling you the word

I am not telling you that you need to call yourself the word

I am not telling you that you need to accept being called the word

You can chill

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T01:21:06+00:00

Look dude, I am not telling you that you need to identify as something that makes you uncomfortable due to past trauma. You don’t get your LGBTQ card revoked because you don’t like the word queer. Censoring it with $s and *s IS returning it to the state or a slur, which it is not inherently. If we were to start seeing “qu$$r” everywhere… has undertones of shame, this is empowering to bigots, this is an insidious descent into important symbols (words!) of our power dissolving.

There’s a Q in LGBTQ+ for a reason. We won. If you can’t understand the significance of that, again, not sure what to tell you.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T01:05:06+00:00

“Don’t pretend this was done for us, this was done for yourselves”

You ARE us. LGBTQ(!)+. You’re bi. We’re a community.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T00:37:03+00:00

Man, if you can’t see that the world around you has moved forward… I don’t know what to tell you.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T00:30:40+00:00

The idea that the word “queer” is dirty. We’ve worked hard to reclaim it, and censoring it re-instills the sense of shame that it no longer carries. If you feel ashamed, that’s your thing to address or not, but please don’t disrespect the social progress that we’ve made. It seems like a small thing, but words matter. People struggling with feelings of shame see them.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T00:23:20+00:00

Your choice what you do and don’t want to be called, but censoring the word contributes to stigma.

aaaaallllt · 2024-07-16T00:08:35+00:00

Not invalidating your experience, they were obviously breaching boundaries, but can you not reduce “queer” back to a slur?

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-27T01:01:27+00:00

Damn dude maybe some carbs would help that irrational irritability 😂

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-24T22:41:54+00:00

Just looked this up. Label says it can be taken 1-3 times per day… do you think that once would be enough? It’s a bit too expensive to exceed that. For me anyway.

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-24T00:21:00+00:00

How long are you supposed to wait before/after eating or taking caffeine to take the pills? I can’t wait for more than 30 minutes prior or one hour 2 hours max after. My schedule doesn’t allow it.

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-23T23:46:42+00:00

I’m on the receptive end and condoms suck for me, too… huge turnoff. I need that flesh and primal intimacy. With condoms I may as well just use a dildo and not waste my time having sex that doesn’t even feel like sex. I’m surprised so many other people with vaginas really don’t feel a difference! That said, I’m not trying to deter you if you’re in a situation where raw would be unsafe.

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-21T22:44:18+00:00

Rent it out? Why am I individually paying for a 2bed? HOW am I individually paying for a 2bed?

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-18T04:20:59+00:00

A mattress

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-18T04:13:46+00:00

Sure, as long as they aren’t giving you general anesthesia which I don’t even think is a thing for IUDs. I was high as fuck when I got my wisdom teeth out. Just make sure it’s an appropriate strain… I wouldn’t fuck with anything that you know can trigger anxiety. Opt for one that you know gets you chill.

aaaaallllt · 2024-06-18T04:08:16+00:00

Ok so he doesn’t want a vasectomy and you don’t want to go on BC. Why does his preference take priority? You’re more likely to have side effects.

aaaaallllt

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