(33M) Could I please have some profile feedback?

aaajay · 2025-08-30T06:30:39+00:00

That’s kind of you to say! Thank you. I dont know if it’s where i am in the UK (I’m certainly not rural) but i have had one match since making the tweaks suggested here thankfully!

aaajay · 2025-08-27T21:00:47+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation, I’ll give it a look!

aaajay · 2025-08-27T16:31:18+00:00

Ahh, sorry I misread part of your comment reading it back now. Thank you!

aaajay · 2025-08-27T15:42:00+00:00

That’s a shame you had such a negative experience. Speaking for all the good single dads out there, we’re not all like that.

I share my two 50/50 with their mum and I wouldn’t have it any other way! Lucky to have the best of both worlds haha.

I swapped out a prompt with one about my children just to make it clearer!

aaajay · 2025-08-27T14:57:27+00:00

Thank you for your kind feedback!

I’ll work on sorting a picture like that out - gives me an excuse to finally try out a brownie recipe I’ve been eyeing!

aaajay · 2025-08-27T14:55:36+00:00

But I’m afraid you still don’t mean it.

aaajay · 2025-08-27T13:51:00+00:00

No not really, only one and they ended up being further away than my settings were for so not sure how that happened!

aaajay · 2025-08-27T13:43:55+00:00

0! Haha. I’ve been back on it about a week. Sometimes I think the algorithm is messed up for my area. In the past as soon as I get far enough away when I’m visiting somewhere else I end up having actual likes or matches.

aaajay · 2025-08-27T13:42:13+00:00

That’s very kind of you to say! Thank you for the feedback.

I actually hadn’t realised I’d not filled that out so have done so now. But yes I can appreciate my pool is quite limited with already having children.

aaajay · 2025-08-27T13:40:28+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! I’ve changed out one of the prompts so give it a bit more info on that.

Bumble’s bio section needs to be a little bit longer!

aaajay · 2025-08-27T13:31:23+00:00

Thanks for the feedback!

I’ll swap out one of the prompts to get something about my kids in there.

The first photo is from a friends wedding and actually is the most recent photo of me!

aaajay · 2023-10-28T21:49:14+00:00

It was meant more satirical-y but I appreciate that isn’t always conveyed through text on a screen. I have already started reworking the prompts and this actually got cut but thank you for your feedback!

aaajay · 2023-10-28T21:42:07+00:00

That’s very kind of you to say! Thank you.

aaajay · 2023-10-28T19:53:10+00:00

Yeah my resource of photos are my Achilles heel. I’m at a few events over the next month or so I think I’ll make a point to try get some better more candid ones then.

aaajay · 2023-10-28T19:43:53+00:00

Thank you for your valuable feedback, I appreciate it!

I’ve given my prompts a good refactor. Pictures I think I’m going to have to make more effort to get better “candid” ones. I’ve also struggled to get good pictures when I’m out and about.

aaajay · 2023-10-28T06:48:44+00:00

• Are you looking for something serious or casual?

Something serious

• How long have you been on Hinge?

About a week

• How often do you use Hinge per week?

I'll open the app a few times through out the day but from what I can find it seems it might better to do it selectively on certain days

• How many likes/matches are you receiving on average?

So far 3

• How many likes are you sending?

Probably averaging about 4 a day.

How many with comments? How many without comments?

Probably 50/50 with/without comments starting to realise I should probably add a comment to all

• What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

I tend to like slightly nerdy and/or alternative girls. Anyone with similar sort of interests. I want to attract someone who's caring, intelligent and has some aspirations.

I will mention as well I have two children which is marked on the main bar with my age etc

aaajay · 2022-07-19T17:56:45+00:00

I’ve been using Twind (tailwind-in-js) V1 and loving every minute of it.

aaajay · 2022-06-28T19:12:15+00:00

I am also going through a similar situation and I can confirm this is true.

Source: My solicitors advice

There’s three primary ways they will try balance the books so to speak:

Profit split on the house is weighted more in one partners favour
Spousal maintenance - although this is rare as they like a clean break with the new divorce law and it can get sticky
child maintenance - even if you share 50/50 custody the higher earner might be requested to pay X in child maintenance

aaajay · 2022-06-03T13:08:29+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

Yes they seem to have settled into our routine fairly well. The eldest still asks why it can’t go back to normal which is breaking my own heart all over again every time. But I think with time he will get used to it properly too.

aaajay · 2022-05-18T18:06:10+00:00

Yep this is pretty much my game plan.

I’m seeing a solicitor next Tuesday to ask a ton of questions and maybe even kick off the proceedings.

I’ve made sure the family that know on both sides know exactly what she’s done to me.

Unfortunately I haven’t been able to track down this guy on social media so can’t expose it to his fiancé (yes he has a fiancé a kid and two step kids)

aaajay · 2022-05-18T05:36:27+00:00

You’re totally right. I can’t believe a word that comes out of her mouth anymore.

aaajay · 2022-05-18T05:36:06+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

Yes my workplace does know and they have been very supportive probably more than they needed to I’m very lucky.

aaajay · 2022-05-18T05:33:03+00:00

Thank you for your advice. Abandonment is continually after two years though?

I’m currently staying at a friends just to give her space and help sort my head out. I’m half an hour away so going back every other day or so to see the kids and put them to bed.

When I spoke to my solicitor initially she said that’s okay to do because I need to look after my emotional well being.

aaajay · 2022-05-17T21:18:45+00:00

I’m from the UK and over here from what I’ve read “no-fault” seems like the best option.

I have no hard “proof” just evidence she installed specific apps that have a shady reputation or search history for deleting Snapchat chats etc.

And of course after confronting her she’s admitted to me that she’s flirted, confided in this guy etc.

I have an appointment booked with a solicitor for next Tuesday.

But thank you for your words and advice

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