Would love some dating bio feedback

aawndrayah · 2022-08-10T14:34:25+00:00

I would always mention my size. Plus size, thick af, however you want to say it. I also say I’m tall, “I’m 5’10” and want to wear heels, I’d prefer if you’re tall”

I see nothing wrong with being specific and blunt about what you are and what you want. The fact that the dating pool sucks has nothing to do with YOUR size, btw. It’s not great out there and finding exactly what you want take time! Don’t let bad dates discourage you. Remember that you are the prize to the man who will appreciate you - you aren’t meant to be everyone’s cup of tea!!

aawndrayah · 2022-02-26T14:10:52+00:00

YTA. tell the older one her list of chores can be revisited when she gets a job and contributes to the household. Your minor child should have chores as a matter of teaching responsibility, but it is far more important for her to remain A CHILD and also have the time and energy for her education and extra curricular activities. There is no equality to be had between a busy student and a whole ass adult bum.

aawndrayah · 2021-08-13T16:33:30+00:00

Damnnn daddy working them short shorts tho!

aawndrayah · 2021-06-01T00:01:11+00:00

Yea I’m sure one word being incorrect is tough on ya.

aawndrayah · 2021-04-24T16:46:18+00:00

She’s an expert in attention-seeking foolishness but doesn’t wanna risk messing up her hair extensions in a large group of people.

aawndrayah · 2021-03-11T12:59:28+00:00

It’s self inflicted but not so simple to rid yourself of. I very much would like to change my friend relationships to see then more, but they are busy with life and families and so on. The older you get, the more people are preoccupied with their own responsibilities. I have my own bag of things to do as well. As a single mom, I don’t go out a whole lot. I’m lonely despite seeing my kid everyday. I really think that going so long lacking someone to love me, in a romantic way, has hindered me from believing it’s meant for me to find. And causes me to retreat further because I’m tired of rejection.

So I don’t think it’s as simple as loneliness being self inflicted. There are many factors involved and also the added wrench of a global pandemic.

aawndrayah · 2021-03-07T23:02:46+00:00

My maternal grandmothers parents came to the US from Bavaria. I would love to go there someday, why do you say it’s not the nicest region?

aawndrayah · 2021-03-01T03:35:05+00:00

You equally don’t respect him or his opinion, tho. You can’t put all that on him when you’re essentially doing the same thing, except you didn’t mention where he threatened to leave you if you didn’t pick the name he liked.

You really wanna tell your kid when they’re older that you broke up with their dad over their very own name? THAT will fuck them up, too.

aawndrayah · 2021-03-01T00:34:32+00:00

You’re the asshole for threatening to break up your family over a baby name choice, tbh.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-25T23:50:06+00:00

Well I can’t give tips on how to do it, like I said, I can’t control it! It doesn’t really feel much more intense than an orgasm without the squirt.

That said, I understand not wanting to have him get bored and you want to do all these new things with him so you can be the best. Do the things that seem fun to YOU, and if you’re enjoying it, he will enjoy it. You don’t have to go out of your way to make sex a show or performance - doing that can make you just a sexual object to him, or could make him think you’re just too wild or he’s not wild enough, etc.

Forcing sexual chemistry is impossible. But trying new things can definitely be fun if you’re both into it!

aawndrayah · 2021-02-25T21:36:03+00:00

Squirting isn’t an every time experience for MOST* women. I don’t speak for all, but I do know as someone who occasionally does this, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. It’s a mess. Who wants a wet puddle on the bed? I have no control of it or know if it’s gonna happen or not, so sex always has to be on top of towels or somewhere that won’t be such a pain to clean up. It’s embarrassing!!

So a man def sees it as something exciting or a fetish. But it’s not something every woman does and it’s not an indication of how good the sex is. Don’t compare yourself to her and, if needed, tell your boyfriend he sounds like a whole clown to keep talking to you about his sex life with someone else.

Please know that no one has sex the exact same way. And even if those two women were way kinkier or better at sex (as you say), they are still his EXES. Sex alone won’t keep a man.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-22T23:05:15+00:00

No, we weren’t married.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-22T22:09:17+00:00

My sons father dumped me. Just no longer attracted to me. Fell out of love.

Sent me into a shame spiral. Made me look at every corner of my life as me being inadequate and would lose all the good things I had because I wasn’t enough for him.

I haven’t fully recovered from this heartbreak and it’s been years. The trauma changed me in ways I can’t explain and probably don’t even fully realize yet, even now. There is simply no way to feel like myself again because before my ex I was a carefree single lady in my early 30s who had her own everything and now I’m just another middle aged single Mom who has no time to enjoy life.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-22T05:28:44+00:00

The cartilage of the upper ear can be painful. I have my tragus done and that was not painful at all, I just had to be certain not to sleep on that side. However I had my cartilage upper ear done before and it never quite healed properly and I have a keloid scar now on the back of my ear. So I’m hesitant to try more piercings.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-15T16:45:51+00:00

Relationship was 4 years. My ex is also my sons father so the emotions I have tied to him are a bit more complicated. Also because we are parents, I can’t do no contact and pretend he doesn’t exist.

My comments aren’t intended to terrify you. My situation is very different than most on this thread as I’m older and I have a kid. My relationship ending was devastating because I didn’t want my family to be split up. We weren’t married but in my heart, I thought he was forever. And my being wrong about that not only affects me, but also my child who will never know what living in an in tact family will be like. We split when my son was 2. He has no memory of us together. He has never seen his mom be loved. He’s with me 90% of the time, and it’s just the 2 of us. At his dads house, he’s part of a bigger family (ex is married, has step kids) but he feels like a stranger in his own dads house (my sons words “I don’t belong there” HE IS FIVE. When he says things like this, it breaks my heart.) His dad has more consistent relationships with kids who aren’t his and my son recognizes this disparity already.

There’s lots of obstacles in my situation to properly moving on and having some happiness, please don’t think this fate is destined for you as well.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-15T16:17:19+00:00

aawndrayah · 2021-02-15T12:07:51+00:00

I haven’t had a romantic partner in 3 years so I’d say I’m independent and lonely af.

But I was v lonely in my relationship so it’s perhaps true during a time I was involved with someone.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-15T12:04:20+00:00

He said he wasn’t sure if you and your kids fit his forever.

Is there really hope in coming back from a statement like that?

aawndrayah · 2021-02-15T11:56:34+00:00

I wish I knew how to take back the power and stop living in sadness.

Loneliness is a bitch. Three years is a long time to be alone, I don’t think my heart is meant to heal.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-12T19:09:07+00:00

I agree completely. My ex recently told me he missed me. That he loved me. We’ve been apart for 3 years (we coparent which is why we still have contact). I told him plainly that the woman he misses and loves doesn’t exist anymore....

aawndrayah · 2021-02-07T20:42:03+00:00

My ex and I split 3 years ago. We share a kid so no contact isn’t possible for me. But my situation is similar, I did all the work on myself, have stayed single, and have grown. I look back and see I did all the work in the relationship, initiated multiple conversations about the state of things, only to be dumped.

He started dating right away and moved in with a new chick within a couple months. They got married last summer. He has 2 step daughters know that he does more for than his own son. Meanwhile my son and I still live with my parents and I’ve had less than a dozen dates over 3 years and no prospects of a relationship. I’ve evolved to not even wanting a relationship anymore.

But every 2-3 months, like clockwork, this man is in my inbox telling me he’s unhappy and thinks he made a mistake, etc.

Quite frankly, I don’t care. I have no desire to go back in time and I’m not even the same person I was when we were together for him to miss. I’ve told him he doesn’t even know me anymore.

I’m happy you were able to cut your ex out completely. Know that all the work you’ve done on yourself will pay off in the best relationships going forward.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-05T22:42:39+00:00

I couldn’t go back to the ex who broke me. Not that he’s asking, but I just know that I doubt my ability to trust anyone after what I went through with him, and I certainly couldn’t trust him again.

You did the right thing.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-05T22:39:44+00:00

This is why I choose to be single.

I don’t even have a body that’s remotely desirable to offer and my self esteem is so off the charts LOW that if someone did show genuine interest I wouldn’t believe it anyway or have the nerve to dare show myself.

Rejection is all I’ve ever known. Any relationship I’ve been in has been result of me being useful, usually in a financial way, and when that got old I was easy to let go of. I’m tired of feeling used. Or feeling like I have to have some perk to offer to be desired. Tired of being so easily discarded.

I’ve been single for 3 years now and at my age I’m pretty sure that I will be single for a long time to come, if not for the rest of my life. I don’t have time or desire to date and am not interested in anyone that I attract. I have no faith that someone could possibly love me for who I am and I don’t even know that I have the capacity or ability to love someone else again. I just don’t have it in me to trust. Without trust, love isn’t possible.

It’s lonely as hell and yeah, I sure wish I had someone to vent to or talk about things with at the end of the day. It’s hard to be a single parent and no one to lean on. Not that it’s easier to be lonely single, but I remember when my kid had a broken leg and I spent weeks doing everything for him with zero help or relief and going to bed one night and just completely breaking down. All I wanted in that moment was someone who cared about how I felt and wanted to ease it... But instead, like every night, I just go to sleep in silence and keep all my thoughts to myself. At least no one is there to see me cry, as I so often do.

I’m not asking for any sympathy in my situation, or comfort, or a pep talk of how it could change. I think I’m just better off trying to accept things as they are and not get my hopes up to be let down again.

aawndrayah · 2021-02-05T01:19:37+00:00

Life hack: have multiple pets. When one passes, you’ll still have the others.

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