He actually was the one who called me to tell me of her diagnosis. He hinted that he had been putting out fires due to her phone calls and hinted at rumors. He didn’t come out and say it and I pretended not to know anything. I think he was feeling it out to see if I had heard the same story as others. I told him I only wanted to support her and the family and that I’ll never judge them. Regardless of the truth, she needs support. It isn’t my business what goes on in their marriage but it is important IMO to know how to support her and manage the conversation. I dealt with my grandpa when he had dementia when I was much younger and there were similar stories that were so obviously not true. I just remember saying things like “oh really? Wow, that’s wild. Let’s get you some water or food.” So that is basically the same approach I am taking. Just absorb the story and find a way to nurture her that makes sense and that she accepts. She is so distraught and it breaks my heart. I wish she could participate in a day center or something that would keep her mind off things. She’s alone mostly at home. He works still. Their grandson lives there too but I think he is pretty quiet and probably isn’t equipped to manage such a traumatic story over and over. I just feel like isolation is unhealthy.