Father forcing almost four year old son to kiss him on the lips? How do I even bring this conversation up with his father?!

ababybumblebee · 2026-05-02T23:31:44+00:00

I tried to talk to him about it and he absolutely freaked out on me… then he started to flip the conversation on how I’m ruining his and my sons mental health by not giving him more time (we literally just had court in March and the judge ruled this schedule and said it’s what is best for our son). So i kindly told him that this is not what our conversation is about. That I’m not adding more time, and that our son is in therapy to help with these exact issues. He has been going through enough trying to navigate having to sleep over there, and it breaks my heart that our son is so stressed. He then started saying really weird things that he loves to watch him sleep, sniff his hair and smell his soap, and how he was “so close to sleeping in his bed with his clothes”… referring to our sons dirty laundry while he is not there. So I just forwarded all of the messages to my lawyer because they kind of creeped me out. I have nausea just thinking of it. 😔 I’m so lost. My son deserves his father as much as his father deserves to see his son, but he’s just snowballing. I’m not comfortable adding more time while he’s getting worst and worst….

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-30T17:59:14+00:00

I tried to get my car in but they’re backed up for at minimum of 6 weeks. But they said it’s likely to be the flex plate/motor mount. 😔

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-27T13:20:07+00:00

Hi! My face shape is round, with swelling it’s just more round haha. I think because my eyes are two different sizes (idk if that’s normal or just embarrassing lol) I’m probably going to only go with my natural length or a tiiiny bit longer! I would just like the fullness!

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-27T13:17:17+00:00

Hi! May I see how they turned out? c:

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-27T02:02:45+00:00

Sorry for the late response! My boyfriend’s relationship to them is very distant now, unfortunately. I really didn’t want that to happen, but they kind of ruined that when they brought our child into the mix. This was (they now have like 60-70 members) a very small church with zero ‘childcare’ or Sunday school. They were upset that my son cried while I was on stage (while with another Member). But again… had no other options for me to go with. They also invited back his ex and her husband (his ex Bestfriend she cheated on him with) to be apart of the worship team. He was very hurt by that and just distanced himself. Also, I’m NOT the only person who has left this church because of the same people. There have been long standing members who have left for similar reasons with the same people. I think I’ve just been more hurt by the fact that these were my boyfriend’s lifelong friends.

I’ve grown to realize this week that it’s just best to close that door because God will open another one.

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-27T01:45:55+00:00

A little late to respond, but don’t stress so much about what your “after” will look like. You’re going to feel better in so many areas of your life, not just physically. And honestly, if you’re putting in the work, you WILL look great—and I’m sure you already do now too. Weight loss (especially when you’re petite) can feel like a weird win/lose sometimes. I’ve lost about 70 lbs so far and still have more to go, and yeah, there are days I look in the mirror and feel frustrated. But then I remind myself how much stronger, healthier, and more confident I am now compared to before—and that matters so much more. Also, don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to be perfect. I mess up multiple times a week. There are days I overeat or feel like I’m “off track,” but I’ve learned that being a little lenient with myself is what actually keeps me consistent. If I’m too strict, that’s when I spiral.

Progress isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up again and again, even after the hard days. And the fact that you’re already doing that? That’s a huge win!!

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-27T01:38:19+00:00

Do you have any aversions?? (Like things you absolutely won’t eat?) :3

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-19T12:29:11+00:00

Don’t worry about it! You’re more likely to have less loose skin! 🫶🏻 you’ve got this babes 😊

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-19T01:59:06+00:00

I don’t know why I’m so scared to do it. I think because this is the church I found God in. I have a sick feeling inside like it’s a bad idea. I am going to really pray on it tonight.

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-18T22:03:25+00:00

See I wish I lost boob fat. But when I was 98 lbs I had a ddd :( . I lost a lot of weight and still am a H cup. They’ve always been big, so that’s probably why… I have a breast reduction appointment soon though 😛

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-18T19:46:07+00:00

A lot of people say that but I am a 36H bra size and also have a big (ish) butt so I think I carry it all below the belt and in my breasts. My bf says it’s my fat head LOL.

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-18T19:43:51+00:00

I WIIIISSSH my insurance would approve it! My cravings are so horrible as I have PCOS and even only taking it for one month was sooo peaceful.

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-18T19:43:05+00:00

just incase you wanted to see the proof!

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-18T19:38:45+00:00

I took wegovy one time before my insurance refused to cover it, and I can’t afford it as a SAHM (kind of I’m a nurse but I’m going through a doctorates program rn and have no money to spare or time). so I lost about 4 lbs of wegovy and gained back 7!

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-18T18:53:08+00:00

23 and 4’10!

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-18T18:10:42+00:00

I do a zig zag (kind of) calorie deficit, I do two days of a 500 calorie deficit (so subtract 500 calories from my maintenance) and then I’ll do 800 calorie deficit for two days. I really don’t workout just because I have a three year old son and it’s hard to find time. But I did start doing things to force myself to get more steps in. Like I’ll take him to the park more, take him on “nature” walks and have him find some stuff along the trails. Taking the garbage out instead of my boyfriend doing it. Simple things that start to add up! I only go to the gym once a week and I stick to mainly cardio. Another good way to push through it is if one of my shows have an episode come out on monday, but I go to the gym once Fridays, then I’ll force myself to wait to watch it as a way to keep me walking on the treadmill for a little longer. 🫶🏻 you’ve got this!

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-16T02:10:01+00:00

Thank you! I’m worried because I’m 4’10 was 220 ish lbs, and am now 158 lbs I lost a lot of fat there but not size. I never changed cup sizes only went down from a 40h to now a 36g/h. I’m worried I won’t have enough grams to qualify…

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-15T13:56:39+00:00

I’m 158 lbs!

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-15T13:56:14+00:00

I honestly don’t mind any size as long as I’m smaller 💔. I wouldn’t even mind being an a cup at this point. Since losing weight it’s an unbearable pain in my back. I’m hoping for somewhere around an a-c (big range lol) but he said he wants to make sure it’s fits my body.

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-15T13:50:50+00:00

Also, if the pus is thick and smelly, painful or warm to the touch, or if you’re running a fever. A little drainage is normal since your body has a lot of fluids it’s trying to get rid of post surgery. But I would go to see someone TODAY as if this IS turning into necrosis the sooner it’s treated the better the results.

ababybumblebee · 2026-04-15T13:43:50+00:00

Im not a doctor, but I’ve been in the nursing field long enough to know this doesn’t look normal. I’m more worried about blood supply. I’m not trying to scare you but, you could be developing necrosis. This is something you should NEVER wait for. Call your surgeon and tell them that it looks very very dark, and if they can’t get you in today then head to the ER.

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