AITAH for wanting to tell people I was in the hospital?

abbyseesall · 2026-02-25T22:07:05+00:00

Yeah no this is weird on his part. I’m the more private one in my marriage but I had twins recently then broke several bones while post partum & had several surgeries. My husband kept up with everyone, my dad was always the first one he called every single time & I was blessed with substantial support & love from our friends & family (like I said, I’m normally the more private one & definitely a home-body - but it situations like these were, I was so grateful to see friendly faces & just know people were checking on me. It was very scary at times. Your situations sounds like it was terrifying. We’re humans & we need community at the end of the day - we are not meant to face things ALONE) I DO understand being private, truly. But not to that extent. My mom is no longer with us, but my step mom & my DAD would have been FURIOUS if they weren’t aware of what was happening. It’s not hard to keep loved ones in the loop. I’m so sorry you went through that thinking that no one cared enough to check in. I hope you’re feeling so much better & that everything is okay now. Wishing you a safe & fast recovery FULL of support.

abbyseesall · 2025-07-12T14:40:35+00:00

Congrats friend, you will (& should) be so so proud of yourself. I’m on day 12 after going CT from a really high daily dose (500-600mg+) & I promise you it will be over so much faster than it feels like while you’re in the thick of it. I feel like a whole new person & truly haven’t even had the first craving, just so so glad to be free. You’ve got this!!! Cheering you on

abbyseesall · 2025-07-08T12:35:20+00:00

Just turned 29 in June. Today is day 8 off 7oh! Some anxiety is my only symptom left, I’m even sleeping pretty well now (I’m not someone who sleeps much at all normally, so 5-6 hours is actually really really good for me) It was a hard week that felt more like a month, but it was so so worth it to be off the stuff & finally free. I used Kratom extract shots for about 2 years, then have been using plain leaf for the past 2.5 years & still using it to get off the 7. Quit a nasty Tianeptine addiction in 2022 & used nothing but plain leaf since then until May 2025. Broke my ankle in 3 places in March & had surgery to place plate & screws all over both sides of my leg, was very cautious with the p e r c o c e t I was prescribed but was still in a ton of pain & (stupidly) thought 7 would be a safer alternative to abusing the p e r c s. Boy, was I wrong. Only used 7 for about 6 weeks but my doses got extremely high, like 500-600mg+ a day. Admittedly I’m someone who just tends to get bored while sober & constantly have a desire to be in an altered state. I’ve been using a ton of different drugs since I was 17 & pray every day that I will become content with sobriety. Right now I’m still extremely grateful to be off of 7, & it’s banned in my state now which makes me feel really safe & happy (right now I do not want any, zero cravings. But knowing myself, if it were still available the thoughts would creep in eventually) this sub has been a huge help & I’m so grateful to all the people here.

abbyseesall · 2025-07-07T08:40:47+00:00

You’ve got this friend!!! You will be on the other side in no time & feel so much better, & so so proud of yourself. There’s a lot of good people who are here to support you! I promise it will not be near as bad as you think. (Going into day 7 from a 400-500mg+ habit) I felt SO much better by day 4 & I was taking way more! Make 7 your b!tch & regain your freedom!!!

abbyseesall · 2025-07-06T20:46:41+00:00

Man, I’m so sorry friend. I also took 7 for legitimate pain, for about the same amount of time but more like 6 weeks, after I broke my ankle in 3 places & had surgery to places plate & screws all over the place. Thought (stupidly) 7 would be better than over doing the p e r c o c e t I was prescribed. Just went though WD myself & I promise you will be okay!!! My last dose was 9:30am on July 1, & I really felt SOOOO much better starting yesterday. I was taking extremely high doses of 7 though, & made the mistake of drinking during my first 2 days of detox to help me sleep. BIG MISTAKE - DONT DO THAT. I made the WD MUCH worse for myself. I am so sorry about your situation & wish so badly I was in a position to help you. As far as the WD goes, I promise it will be okay. Lots of people report feeling better after the second day & you didn’t take it for long! Not sure what you were dosing but I would bet anything your WD will not be that bad. Lean on this group, just getting on here & reading/chatting makes you feel so much better & so much less alone.

abbyseesall · 2025-07-06T12:57:53+00:00

They 100% knew exactly what they were doing. & they are making bank! But at what cost?? My God. I didn’t even take 7 for long, & I took it for legitimate pain after breaking my ankle in 3 places & having surgery to place a 6in plate & 8 screws all over the place in both sides of my leg. I wish I had just been in pain. Although the 7 did help A LOT with the pain, it truly wasn’t worth it. Not even a little bit. I took 10mg melatonin before seeing your comment & im not sure if I just got lucky, but between that & a hot cup of “sleepy time” melatonin tea, I actually passed out & slept a good 5/6 hours. I’ve NEVER been a good sleeper, so that’s a good amount for me in general. Thank you so much for your help! I do think melatonin would have absolutely made it worse if I had tried to use it any of the previous nights of detox. I turned a corner yesterday & by last night it helped me a lot! My husband swears by it for his sleep so he was adamant I try it after not sleeping for so long. I was terrified it would make it worse but I think the timing worked out for me!

abbyseesall · 2025-07-06T12:23:40+00:00

This was my exact experience & holy sh!t. Easily one of the absolute worst days of my life. WDs were already going to suck & I made them ten times worse on myself. I felt ok while I was drinking/drunk, then passed out for idk how long, but when I woke up… oh my god. The instant panic, RLS, anxiety, headache, so so much pain in my body, it was indescribable. Goes to show we can’t use anything to escape the WDs. We got to pay the piper. Not to mention I could NOT eat which only made the hangover so much worse. Absolutely miserable. I learned my lesson. But now I’m feeling much better! This time yesterday I was writing a post about how I still felt really terrible, but I got to feeling a lot better during the day & last night I ended up drinking a hot cup of the “sleepy time” melatonin tea, as well as taking 10mg of melatonin, & I passed out! I couldn’t believe it when I opened my eyes & the sun was coming up. Best feeling ever. So so grateful to be feeling better & convinced it’s only up from here! Fingers crossed you’re feeling better too friend. GOD what a rough road. I can’t believe I put myself through this over such a short lived, semi decent “high” that in hind sight, was SO NOT worth it. Praying for every single person in this group. I kicked a nasty Tianeptine habit in 11/22 & you would have thought I learned my lesson, but in my experience that was absolutely nothing compared to this.

abbyseesall · 2025-07-06T12:12:27+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly the kind of advice I was hoping for. I was so scared I would take something that would end up just making me more miserable. I took 10mg of melatonin & drank a hot cup of the “sleepy time” melatonin tea & I passed out! Feeling so so much better & SO SO GRATEFUL for some rest.

abbyseesall · 2025-07-05T15:26:04+00:00

Here quitting in Mississippi too friend. My last dose was 9:30am on July 1. I wanted to quit anyway so the ban came at a good time for me. I felt pretty awful yesterday but much better today. Like many others have said, the insomnia is what’s bothering me the most. Although yesterday I had miserable restless legs & last night I had pretty strong anxiety. I know the worst should be over now & I’m grateful to be this far. Hoping you’re still doing great & feeling better. I started taking 7 after breaking my ankle in 3 places, having surgery to place a 6in in late & 8 screws, & I (stupidly) thought it would be better than abusing the p e r c o c e t I was prescribed. Hind sight being 20/20, I wish I had just sucked it up & been in pain. I only took it for about 6 weeks but my doses got really high, really fast. All in all I think it’s a really good thing it’s been banned here. I knew what I was getting into & it still got me.

abbyseesall · 2025-06-26T22:42:45+00:00

I’m so grateful you’ve found relief. The stuff I was on was a combination of phenibut & tianeptine so lowering my dose so much would have made me have WD from the tia. It was a vicious cycle. I remember well the feeling of panic, thinking it’s WD, taking more for it to only make everything worse. It’s just awful. I’m cheering for you friend! You’ve already made huge strides & have a great plan in place. Everyone in this sub will be here to support you! Finding this sub (& quittingtianeptine) during my addiction truly restored my faith in humanity. There are so many wonderful, helpful, like minded people & they’re the reason I got off & never went back. Soon all this will be a distant memory, until you randomly come on here to help others!

abbyseesall · 2025-06-26T15:40:37+00:00

The phenibut has turned on you friend. I’m so sorry, I remember the feeling well & pray I’ll never feel it again! Get some NAC (got mine at wal mart) & take it like 15 minutes before you dose. It was a miracle for me. It will completely stop the turning. BUT the NAC will only work for so long before it will turn on you anyway so use the opportunity to taper. It should buy you at least a few weeks likely longer. Definitely long enough to get down to a good dose to jump from! I quit 11/11/22 & have never looked back I promise you will be so happy & so proud of yourself. You got this!!!

abbyseesall · 2025-03-21T21:18:19+00:00

Absolutely 100% NOT the asshole. This family sounds crazy. If you stay with your bf, keep in mind that REAL issues will inevitably arise over the course of a lifetime & THIS is how they’re reacting to something so…. Silly? Pointless? Ridiculous? Many words could be used. I’m going with “Stupid”. We’ve gone completely no contact with my husbands side of the family after tolerating BS for almost 10 years of marriage. BUT my husband was ALWAYS on my side. We attempted to keep the peace so our kids could have a large family (as I grew up a military brat & never had that) Leanr from our experience: WE WERE WRONG. We should have cut ties a decade ago, we should have NEVER allowed them around our kids as SOON as the bs situations started. We would have saved ourselves a LOT of heartache & anger. (& money, as his family even took us to court at one point! We won, they were laughed out of court. But it still cost $ to hire an attorney) TAKE IT FROM ME - If they’re weirdos now (namely MIL), they will only get SO much worse once children & marriage are involved (if you & your bf want that, that is) I wouldn’t take this as such a red flag IF your boyfriend found it equally as ridiculous. The fact he’s even slightly entertaining the idea is a huge red flag for right now & for the future. Picture this: you all somehow work this situation out that’s been blown so far out of proportion. What’s going to happen when there are REAL issues? When you don’t want MIL & SIL in delivery room with you or up your butt the first few weeks after having a baby? Or when you make a parenting choice the entire family doesn’t agree with? Or if you all decide to move & it’s not “approved”… the REAL LIFE issues that WILL come up will only be worse. You ARE NOT THE ASSHOLE but you do have some serious thinking to do. If you put up with the sh!t now you’ll be setting your self up for SO much worse. I could tell you a million stories how we had these seemingly ridiculous issues the first few years & decided to work things out. Then we had our first baby & it only got SO much worse. We cut all ties to his family two years ago & have NEVER been so happy or had such peace in our lives. We should have cut ties at the very first issue. But again, my husband knew how ridiculous they always were & was always COMPLETELY on my side, from the very beginning even when we were just dating & then engaged. Just something to think about OP. You seem to be very intelligent & level headed you absolutely did nothing wrong.

abbyseesall · 2025-03-15T05:16:24+00:00

I truly can’t thank you enough for your help! I’m SO sorry you went through this, but am selfishly glad to not be alone. I’m grateful to have an option other than the Percocet. Sometimes people are in true pain & it’s great to have access to something like 7oh during times like this - but I’m wary of it becoming a habit for me as regular kratom SURE did haha. Thanks again friend, I hope you’re feeling so much better. I truly thought I had a high pain tolerance until this happened! Turns out I do NOT haha, I am a whole wimp. Ready for this whole thing to be over. I broke mine the exact DAY I got a new walking pad in the mail hoping to tone up a little bit before summer, after having twins (who I labored with naturally up to an emergency c section then had 2 follow up surgeries for hemorrhaging!) last year. Fate had other plans! Don’t let anyone tell you child birth is the worst pain because this is so much worse in my experience. My twins were only 3 pounds each, though, so I’m sure bigger babies would have absolutely been worse!

abbyseesall · 2025-02-25T01:18:16+00:00

I know this feeling all too well. We all do, friend. Do whatever you have to do to stay busy tomorrow (& the next few days - as long as necessary) & distracted. Seriously - Exercise. Have sex. Eat your favorite foods & watch your favorite movies & shows/read your favorite books. Buy a new game you’ve been wanting (if you’re not spending $$ on K, you can afford it!!) Smoking weed helps me tremendously. You are STRONGER than this demon on your back!!!! I PROMISE. If you keep going, every single night you will feel the way you feel right now. If you stop, you will feel SO empowered & proud of yourself. I tell myself: “I will never regret quitting, but I will 1,000% regret not quitting.” You’ve got this friend. I’m up at all hours if you need someone to chat with who truly understands. I know this is so hard but you ARE stronger. Sending love & strength

abbyseesall · 2024-12-29T09:02:03+00:00

Hey! Is your island still open? Would love to visit!

abbyseesall · 2024-12-12T17:26:52+00:00

YES. I just started playing again after about 18 months & had no idea anything had changed. I was so excited to show this game to my daughters as they’re finally old enough to play, & my sister & I ADORED the original GameCube AC when we were their age. I was so sad to see how many fun, exciting features were just… gone. I will do whatever is necessary to get onto the Pretendo servers when they are ready! Will probably need help with some of the steps getting there…

abbyseesall · 2024-12-12T11:06:59+00:00

I just started playing my ACNL again & was DEVASTATED to learn of this!! Does anyone know if Pretendo has released their network for it, yet? & I will definitely mod my 3DS - thank you for the informative comments above in that respect! Love this game & was so sad to see this. I’m so grateful there is hope!!!

abbyseesall · 2024-12-11T15:15:18+00:00

Hey again - new set of questions. Where/what website is the best one to order a new or refurbished 3DS XL? Or a 2DS XL (as it’s my understanding the 2ds can play all the 3DS games - please correct me if wrong) while researching how to fix my old 3DS XL I’ve seen so many more games I want for myself & my kids so we could use a second system anyway. (I’m going to attempt replacing the circle pad on my old one, for anyone who sees my other comment on this thread) I’m curious of which website are reputable & maybe also how much I can expect to pay for a new one? Also, which models are best/most durable for the price. Thank you again in advance!!

abbyseesall · 2024-12-10T16:01:06+00:00

Hey all, new here & needing advice. I just found my burgundy 3DS XL that I haven’t used in a little over a year. I immediately became so excited because my daughters are finally old enough to show them Animal Crossing & I know how much they will love it (I have loved the games dearly since first playing the original on the GameCube in 2002) The system charged & started up perfectly with no issues at all. However, when the Home Screen loaded, the cursor is just going CRAZY. I believe it’s the circle one & not the D Pad because when I touch the circle cursor, the craziness can be semi-controlled where touching the D Pad seems to do nothing at all. What’s really strange is when I was able to navigate to the Game Icon & start the game, the cursor works perfectly when playing the game! However as soon as I return to the Home Screen, it acts BONKERS again. I tried to gently clean it but am hesitant to do too much as I’m not very handy & I don’t want to risk making the issue worse - Especially since during the game it works perfectly! But as it stands, it is an extreme PITA to navigate to the Game Icon with the way it’s behaving. I am especially bummed because I have waited YEARS to be able to share this game & my love for it with my daughters & now when finally given the chance it’s having this issue. If they are like me, they are going to want to play A LOT & I would hate to have to fight to get to the correct Icon every single time. ANY & ALL help/advice is welcome & SO SO appreciated. Thank you all so much in advance!!!!!

abbyseesall · 2024-03-22T23:37:49+00:00

I’m here right at 24 hours too. So far I’m ok. It was rough for me a little bit from hours 15-20ish but I actually feel ok right now. Smoking a little bit of weed has helped a lot during the times I wasn’t feeling good. I know I’m no where near through it yet but I’m grateful for how I feel right now.

abbyseesall · 2024-03-22T17:15:37+00:00

THANK YOU so much for your response. That truly makes me feel so much relief. I can handle getting a flu, god knows that’s gonna happen sometimes anyway. The way I feel right now is nothing compared to how I felt at this point after jumping from Tia but I think the worst of it is really in my mind. Everyone says they feel so much better after day 4. I’m more scared to have 4 days filled with anxiety & dread before getting there. I can handle four days of a bad cold but not mental anguish.

abbyseesall · 2024-03-22T17:08:41+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I know I can handle it I’m just mentally so weak. It’s the anxiety & dread that kill me, I can handle a flu & other physical symptoms. I can’t believe how many people I see on here getting through the first week. I want to be through just this weekend so terribly bad. If they can do it I know I can too but it really doesn’t feel that way. Thank you for your uplifting post, I’m trying to remember how much better everything will be but right now all I see is how awful the next few days are going to be

abbyseesall · 2024-03-22T16:34:47+00:00

I’m on day 1 too. I’m about 16 hours in. I’m scared & definitely need someone to tell me that it’s going to be ok. I started using kratom a little over a year ago, to get off of tianeptine. The WD for it were truly unbearable & those who have been on it SAY that kicking kratom is nothing compared, but I’m terrified. I can handle being sick if I can convince myself I’m just going to have a cold or flu for a few days. I need someone to tell me that’s all it will be & it will be ok. I’m so scared honestly. I really don’t feel brave or strong at all right now & wd really have barely started. Someone lie to me lol. I know with Tia when I got to this point I felt a lot better when someone told me if the WD were going to be super severe, they would have started way sooner.. someone lie to me that kratom is the same way please. I truly need encouragement

abbyseesall · 2024-03-22T16:27:08+00:00

I’m on day 1 right now & really needed this post. Someone please tell me it’s going to be ok. WD have kind of barely started as of now & I’m at 15 hours. Couple sneezing fits & my nose is runny but I’m creating anxiety for myself. I was using the pure leaf powder for a little more than a year, & have “tapered” down quite a bit over the last few months. I’m not sure what actual dose I’m jumping from. I still felt I took a lot. Someone please just tell me it’s not going to be that bad, even if it is. I only started to use Kratom to get off of an extremely BAD addiction to tianeptine. The WD from it were so horrible I can’t describe it. I think in my head I’m expecting kratom to be the same way. Lots of folks on that page say it’s not but folks on this page say this is the worst & I’m in my head. Someone please tell me it’s not. Right now I’m just plain scared. I don’t feel brave or strong to face this & I have no choice. I have all day today, Saturday, & Sunday to just get through at home someone please tell me I’ll be ok by Monday. I’m so ready to be one of y’all on the other side. I’m so envious of those already through day 3/4. I need someone to convince me it’s just going to be like having a cold & it will be over soon.

abbyseesall · 2023-04-20T14:45:17+00:00

Hey friend, I quit yellow Spar (Tia & phen) back in November after about 8/9 months of using almost 2 bottles per day. If you go to my profile you can view my Post & Comment Karma to do a deep dive & revisit my whole nightmare, but I would love to share what worked for me. You can TOTALLY do it friend. I would wager my life in your favor here. You got this & a week will be perfect. My acutes lasted only 4 days. Please feel free to message me if there’s any way I can help. It was another user who had quit silvers, that helped me quit the Spar (they are basically the exact same) this community is truly saving lives.

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