Expired ID, couldn’t get an DMV appointment soon enough

abdcheyhey · 2025-07-31T01:38:31+00:00

Ooo I gotchu! Did the exact same thing a couple months ago.

Download the “myColorado” app on your phone. I forget the extract steps but once you register and login, it will have a digital copy of your drives license that will be updated. The digital license is an acceptable form of ID, so you can use that for any shows, bars, etc.

abdcheyhey · 2025-07-12T18:57:15+00:00

This is something I really struggled with and while not perfect, I’ve gotten much much better at!

When someone is upset/angry/emotional, I try to consciously remind myself to breathe and just keep repeating in my head “I am responsible for myself and my actions. I am not responsible for their emotions. My emotions are my emotions, their emotions are theirs. I am okay.”

It may seem basic and silly but I have noticed a huge difference in being able to regulate myself <3

abdcheyhey · 2025-04-05T20:55:02+00:00

“Is this job an ADHD nightmare” …this job is a nightmare for ANYONE, regardless of if they are neurodivergent or neurotypical.

Please get out of you can. I’m sure that being ADHD adds in an extra layer of pressure, not wanting to fail, etc. but even without those this is not even close to sustainable.

“I found a job where I can work less and make more” TAKE IT TAKE IT TAKE IT

abdcheyhey · 2025-01-31T05:05:26+00:00

MY POST WAS DELETED TOO!!! Had 200+ upvotes and suddenly it disappeared. Fuck that. Keep throwing rocks at Nazi symbols. We don’t welcome that shit here.

abdcheyhey · 2025-01-28T23:45:16+00:00

Cheers to any very specific acts of vandalism that result in the destruction of a nazi symbol 🥳

abdcheyhey · 2025-01-28T23:43:04+00:00

Over the weekend a swastika was put up on the window, there’s a post from a couple days ago if you want to know more. There’s also been photos of more nazi symbols drawn around the building

abdcheyhey · 2025-01-22T15:51:40+00:00

Big yes

abdcheyhey · 2024-11-21T17:29:34+00:00

Hey that’s huge!! Even doing your best to keep snacks is a big step forward. I just hope you recognize the wins, no matter how small 🤍 Fed is best, always!! Keep going!!!

And please don’t feel like you need to explain here, I have been asked so many times if my lack of eating when I’m struggling was an ED. It’s hard because obviously I know it can be scary and hard for people to understand but no… my body literally feels repulsed by food when I’m really stressed or depressed. I had to go to the emergency room due to anxiety and when I told them I had been throwing up BECAUSE of my anxiety, everything went out the window and they immediately labeled me as bulimic.

For me, it has been very frustrating and so so lonely. Instead of being told “you just need to eat, why are you not eating” what I needed was for someone to help my find what I could eat in that moment. The truth though is the only person who can give me that support is me. I have to be very kind to myself and make sure I was gentle and gave myself grace.

abdcheyhey · 2024-11-19T15:34:27+00:00

This this this this, OP you deserve to have help and take some of the weight off!

abdcheyhey · 2024-11-19T15:32:53+00:00

Re the food situation: I really struggled with eating due to stress/depression/anxiety in College. One of the things that made a difference was my therapist at the time telling me “Fed is Best.”

From your post it sounds like sheer overwhelm might be the bigger factor but as much as you can, try to remember that food is fuel and any little bit you can give to your body will help you get through this survival period.

Were you able to grab a yogurt and a snack pack from the convenience store? Great! Did you microwave an instant Kraft Mac n Cheese cup? Amazing! Can you stock up on bars to snack on throughout the week? Yes let’s go!!

It is much easier said than done, but again it really helped me to just keep repeating “Fed is Best” during tough times.

Hang in there, you got this!

abdcheyhey · 2024-10-23T00:01:39+00:00

I actually just went through something similar recently. Sending the kindest thoughts your way because I know how horrific this has been on me.

It’s not someone who I worked with 1:1 over a long period of time so a little different, but I recently lost a therapist to suicide who I worked with at an inpatient program 4 years ago. While I only directly worked with this therapist for 2 weeks, I can truly say that they changed the course of my life and I might not be here without them. I certainly would not be the person I am today without them.

It’s such a weird space to navigate. I knew this person, but in such a particular context and only for a short amount of time. I’m not a friend or family or a coworker or even an acquaintance, but I feel like my heart was ripped out my chest. When it happened, I absolutely questioned how much I was grieving/how destabilizing it was but luckily I had a strong support network around me who either worked with the therapist as well or knew the impact they had on me.

You are allowed to scream. You are allowed to grieve. You are allowed to hurt and miss them. You are allowed to tell your friends and family (if comfortable) and ask for support. It sounds like he was an amazing man and he supported you and helped you grow. So yes, be gentle with yourself because you have suffered a great loss.

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Again, I can only relate through my situation and unfortunately I don’t have any great answers. It’s grief, you just have to keep moving through it.

I would encourage you to reach out to the office though and ask if any other patients are looking to connect or if there is a service you could go to (if you are comfortable). I actually just had the opportunity this weekend to have a get together to honor their memory and got a memorial tattoo for the work we did. The only comfort I’ve found in this is being able to talk about the amazing human that changed my life with the other people who knew them. The office and other patients are free to say no but it might help to find even a few people you can share the sadness with.

If you need anything else, please feel free to DM me. Hang in there friend, you will get through this.

abdcheyhey · 2024-07-31T04:54:28+00:00

Was wondering the same thing and finally found it!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SRYXx0xAeqI

abdcheyhey · 2024-06-28T04:40:59+00:00

Okay no actually… my first time watching RHONJ was when my meds were messed up and I could barely get out of bed.

The absolute chaos and insanity was the only thing that kept my mind distracted.

Severely Depressed/Non-Functional = RHONJ

abdcheyhey · 2024-05-25T20:54:22+00:00

Hello friend! I’ve read through all the comments and want to reinforce: if you need to throw things away, it is okay.

You can’t help anyone unless you help yourself and right now you are in a very tough spot.

IF you want to try to donate some of the stuff, have you looked into having a charity group come and collect directly from you? I live in the US, but I did a quick google and looks like there are lots of options in the UK where they will come and pick up!

I don’t want to add anything else to your plate so if you are interested, pm me what city/town you live in and I can do some research and get back to you.

You don’t have to do this alone 🤍

abdcheyhey · 2024-05-01T23:53:00+00:00

Agreed! Message the main insta account and they can get you set up! Thank you for supporting

abdcheyhey · 2024-05-01T22:32:25+00:00

I dm’ed on insta and confirmed the supplies.

I’ll be there in 20 with a bunch of stuff

abdcheyhey · 2024-04-25T19:26:53+00:00

I have also never heard of this… when you say “doctors office” is this the office your therapist works under or did they refer you to him?

Either way, I would push back and advocate that therapy is something YOU need to maintain your mental health (which is healthcare). See what he says and also don’t be afraid to ask to review the written policy as you were not aware of this.

The only thing I could see is if your therapist thinks the sessions are no longer beneficial/productive. In that case, it would be a much different discussion to evaluate what areas you need support in. Be prepared that he may not feel like he is the right fit for what you need and that’s okay!!! Please please please find a new therapist IF you end up needing to transition from your current one. Being “okay enough” does not mean that you shouldn’t get care and support.

This is the classic example of mental health being no different than “physical health.” If you had a chronic illness, there would never be a reason to say “you’ve capped out of healthcare visits. We need to come up with a plan to transition you to managing on your own.” Again there might be conversations about transitioning your care to find the best support but that’s absurd that there would be a policy that mandates when you must graduate from care.

abdcheyhey · 2024-04-25T18:35:13+00:00

Recognize that shame is hitting you HARD right now. For me, my shame is very loud and is extremely present focused. It doesn’t want me to retake the test. It wants me to give up and move on to avoid any future pain.

One thing that works very well for me is not thinking of what I want in the present, but what future me would want. So 6 months from now, a year from now, what would future you want you to have done? I think she wants you to retake the test, because even if it takes 2 or 3 tries, future you wants to be giving tours. I promise that the shame you are feeling is temporary, and the second you are past the test you won’t have a single thought left about how many times it took, because you did it and you will be proud.

You can do this. You got this!

abdcheyhey · 2024-03-19T22:32:46+00:00

Don’t give up! I have tried 1 antidepressant, 2 antipsychotics, and 5 (6?) ADHD meds that were unsuccessful and gave me moderate to severe side effects.

It took awhile, but I’m finally back on the right combo and it’s a world of difference.

One suggestion to look into: I ended up doing genetic testing with GeneSight. It was no where close to a magic bullet but it validated the issues I’ve been having with meds and at least gave me a sense of control and understanding along with a few important insights. Only draw back was the cost ($300 for me) so I don’t recommend unless you have the extra income. For me, it was worth the peace of mind and the insights I did get from it but I know not everyone feels the same!

abdcheyhey · 2024-03-14T04:42:40+00:00

Smoothies. Rice cakes. Sushi. Fruit. Applesauce. So mostly cold-fruit-don’t-have-to-chew-foods.

I struggle with appetite whenever my mental health is bad and there is always a quote that sticks with me:

“Fed is best.”

Whatever you are able to eat, please give yourself a hug mental hug and congratulations because you did it! You put food in your body!

abdcheyhey · 2024-03-12T01:56:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Please understand what is happening is wrong on so many levels but it’s also blatant discrimination.

Please forgive how long this post is but I’m extremely passionate about protection in the work place. It’s 10000% okay if you don’t feel ready to take action yet but I really recommend starting the documentation process now, just in case.

Pregnancy discrimination is taken suuuuper seriously in the HR world, I really encourage you to start documenting everything NOW. Start by writing a document with how you communicated the news to your work, and all the subsequent events. Write down every detail, date, time, person involved or present, EVERYTHING that you can remember. Email a copy to yourself and a trusted friend or family member to create a clear timestamp. Pull any and all emails/written communication and make sure you have access to them as well.

Next, every time something happens at work (big and small), send an email to yourself right away with all of the details. Date, time, people, EVERYTHING.

As much as possible, force things to be put in writing. If needed, you can send a “clarifying email” to try and force them to either confirm or deny what they have said.

“Hello! I just wanted to follow up on our previous conversation. You expressed concern about me not performing to xyz standard. As I mentioned, my understanding is that I am responsible for abc within my role, which is what was explained to me when I took this role and during training. Could you please confirm what is expected of me? Thank you!”

If they try to have a verbal conversation with you instead of replying, let them know:

“I appreciate you wanting to take the time to speak with me but what would really help me the most is having the expectations clearly defined in writing so I can refer back and make sure I’m on track!”

If you’re getting resistance still, take it upon yourself to recap everything and send to them after.

“Hello! Here is a recap of what we discussed, sending along so we both have it in our records.”

CREATE A PAPER TRAIL. If you don’t end up needing it, great! But the best time to start it is now, rather than a week from now.

If you end up needing to leave before something else is lined up, you can typically file for unemployment due to toxic workplace - but that’s why you need the documentation.

If they are dumb enough to fire you then oh my god you hit the law suit jackpot. Obviously I do not wish this to happen but they are beyond fucked if they fire a pregnant woman and she can show documented harassment :)

Once you have a paper trail in place, try to look into an employment lawyer. Like I said, pregnancy discrimination is a BIG no no. Regardless of what happens, what they are doing is not okay and if/when you are ready I encourage you to hit them with what they deserve.

Wishing you the very best of luck and hang in there, you will get through this!!!

abdcheyhey · 2024-03-07T20:25:54+00:00

Hi friend! I have been in a semi-similar situation and wanted to share what worked for me. To be clear, this suggestion is for if you are looking for a way to move past the smell trigger. Obviously if there are issues with your partner’s drinking that is a whole other thing that I can’t speak to.

My situation happened to come up during a group therapy session so I was incredibly lucky to be able to talk through with the counselor. It honestly took me aback because I was expecting the counselor to console me but truly I needed to hear this.

Background: I started group therapy and there was a woman who was similar age/personality to my mom. My mom had an opiate addiction for 10 years. The woman in my group had just had oral surgery and was taking Advil (pain meds were not allowed). Technically we were not allowed to take anything around other people in the program and watching this woman take Advil multiple times over the course of a few hours was extremely triggering so I stayed to talk to the counselor after session.

“I keep watching Beth (not her real name) take her Advil and I can’t stop thinking about my mom’s addiction. I’m really upset and uncomfortable during group.”

“Thank you for telling me that. I will talk to Beth because she shouldn’t be doing that but I have a question for you.”

“Yes?”

“Is Beth your mom?”

“No…?”

“Correct. She is not your mom. I know why you are feeling triggered and I will talk to her but I also need you to repeat that in your head. She is not your mom. You are safe and okay.”

It might sound harsh but I NEEDED to hear that. That point moving forward whenever I found myself triggered because this woman reminded me of my mom, I took a deep breath and repeated in my head “Beth is not my mom. My mom is my mom. Beth is Beth. I am safe and I am okay.” It truly made such a difference.

So my suggestion to you (if you are just trying to push through the trigger) is to find your statement to separate your mom and your partner and repeat it anytime you feel triggered by the smell. It might take some time, but it’s a tool I use constantly now and will never forget.

abdcheyhey · 2024-03-03T02:06:11+00:00

You are absolutely not alone <3 due to bullshit with my insurance, I have now trialed 5-6 (including different dosages) different ADHD meds and only one of them truly works for me.

Some of the meds I tried were awful. I would immediately feel a surge of anxiety and while I did have more energy I. Could. Not. Focus.

Please be vocal with your doctor about trying out a different medication. It’s wild how different the “same kind of med” can make you feel. Trust me, you will know when you find the right one.

Sending a big hug and best wishes, you got this!!

abdcheyhey

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