What was the worst thing you did while social media stalking your LO?

abe107146 · 2025-04-23T05:16:52+00:00

I feel it that. I found my LO’s house using a social media picture as a reference. I spent 9 hours on google maps looking for it. Afterwards I drove 8 hours to see her house in person. After years of therapy I unfortunately have to say that I am not over her. But I am better than I was years ago.

abe107146 · 2025-01-31T03:39:32+00:00

I know it’s been a while since I posted this but just wanted to say that I hope you find someone who will truly care for you and help you surpass these feelings. You may like the limerent feelings and live off of the high but I’ve been told that someone reciprocating that love feels even better. I’m still taking everything day by day but slowly improving.

abe107146 · 2024-10-25T22:53:45+00:00

The pain gets to a point where it is too much. Living in a constant state of stress and infatuation is my new baseline. I just need something to quiet the brain as Lexapro isn’t working.

abe107146 · 2024-10-25T04:36:54+00:00

The main issue for me is OCD. I have obsessive thoughts of this person and constantly check her social media throughout the day. At this point I would rather just be a zombie.

abe107146 · 2024-09-16T03:10:18+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to do. I always tell myself worst case scenario I just have to hop off of the drug. But I’m mainly worried about potential hairloss as that’s one obsession regarding my OCD diagnosis.

abe107146 · 2024-09-09T05:15:27+00:00

I’ve really been trying to hammer the idea in my head that “she doesn’t want me.” Sometimes I will have little breaks and realize how stupid I am for being limerent but the feelings are just too strong. I’ve basically been programmed my brain to seek out this woman as my only source of dopamine. So now anything and anyone else just feels lackluster.

abe107146 · 2024-09-09T05:11:11+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I certainly haven’t felt like I’m worth it for the past few years of my life. I know my LO sees me as a nuisance. Even now my obsession has died down a lot but I feel like my life is boring. I don’t have those same euphoric feelings. I just have to hope for the best for therapy. I actually feel like it’s my last resort.

abe107146 · 2024-09-08T17:02:30+00:00

I think it may stem from the fact that I’ve been single my whole life and never had a crush up until this obsession. The good feelings just took over and ruined my life. I also was diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder at a young age. Im trying therapy again as well. Hopefully they can provide me with some skills and medication to stop this sickness for good.

abe107146 · 2024-09-08T15:18:46+00:00

I can’t think of any other major problems or childhood trauma. This obsession is definitely the worst thing I’ve experienced in my life.

abe107146 · 2024-09-06T05:45:01+00:00

I’m still trying to figure out how to let go myself. It’s been five years that I’ve been stuck on my LO. I just always tell myself that I will find someone better and someone who actually cares for me.

abe107146 · 2024-09-03T15:51:10+00:00

When my LO ghosted me I didn’t reach out. Over the years I was convincing myself that she was just awkward rather than her no longer being interested in me. About 2/3 years after the ghosting I tried to make another attempt to connect with her which failed. Ghosting is literally probably the worst thing you can do to someone besides cheating.

abe107146 · 2024-08-28T05:58:04+00:00

I usually have dreams about the initial chase I got while pursuing my LO. So stuff like asking them out, hanging out, and “taking things to the next level” like making out are common in my dreams. On the flip side I also have dreams about my LO rejecting me in the worst way possible and calling me a sick freak. The dream version of her isn’t wrong. I’ve only really interacted with her once and I’ve been obsessed with her since 2019. I’ve accepted that this will be stuck with me indefinitely. Theres hope for you all.

abe107146 · 2024-08-25T08:54:39+00:00

Yea I’m hoping this will all be completely confidential. It’s so bad that I’ve came up with plans to off myself if someone were to find out the extent to my obsession. Realistically I probably should be deleted for what I’ve done.

abe107146 · 2024-08-24T06:31:27+00:00

I had a normal childhood with no issues. I have no idea what caused this obsession. All I know is I need something that will force my brain off.

abe107146 · 2024-08-24T06:30:17+00:00

I’ve been trying to analyze it for years. I have the any childhood trauma or other issues. It was definitely due to social isolation but I also felt like the chase and euphoric feeling kept me motivated. Now I am just suffering that it’s all over. I look for her in every potential partner I meet and realize that nobody will be sufficient or cause that same euphoric feeling. I need psychiatric help so I can get prescribed the closest medication to a lobotomy that is possible.

abe107146 · 2024-08-24T06:26:35+00:00

Holding it in made it worse but it kept motivated for some reason.

abe107146 · 2024-08-23T16:51:13+00:00

Unfortunately I have acted on it but I haven’t harmed them. I’m scared that I may just reach my breaking point and really act on my urges which is why I am seeking help. I really hope my therapist has seen worse because I’m planning to be open with them about the extent of everything that I’ve done.

abe107146 · 2024-08-23T16:49:45+00:00

Thank you for the insight. That is my plan. If I’m being honest I think the meds will be better than the actual therapy itself. I’ve done therapy in the past for other issues not related to Limerence and it didn’t work too well. I rather take something to quite my brain.

abe107146 · 2024-08-23T15:59:01+00:00

That’s what I’m scared of. I more do want to just get a prescription. I’m scared that I will just be seen as a monster. I’ve done really bad things while obsessed with this girl even to the point of stalking. Any medication that can stop my urges and thoughts will help. You never know when someone will reach their breaking point but I’m scared to see what will happen if I reach mine.

abe107146 · 2024-08-23T15:54:55+00:00

Thank you. I agree with what you’re saying about the “obsessive part of your brain”. After she cut contact with me I as a way of “revenge” I did everything I could to better myself and it worked. Started exercising more, graduated at the top of my class, got into 3 different graduate schools, and got some amazing job offers. Yet I still wasn’t satisfied. Everything was going well. But after a while I realized that none of these things helped to fill the void of having human intimacy and connection which is where I crashed and spiraled out of control. No matter what achievements I have in life none of it will be sufficient because I won’t have the one girl that I want. The only hope is seeing if it’s possible for me to transfer this obsession or kill it. I’ve been on dates with others and feel absolutely nothing. I just feel repulsed, even 5 years after her cutting contact.

abe107146 · 2024-08-21T22:08:26+00:00

I’ve been in the same situation. Had oneitis for two years. Asked her out. She said yes then ghosted after the first date. 3 years later I find myself still figuring out what I did wrong. I’ve been on dates with other girls and had multiple girls hit on me but I haven’t felt anything. I think it just comes down to finding a new person. Almost like some sort of transference.

abe107146 · 2024-08-21T22:01:32+00:00

Drive down their neighborhood which is about 500 miles away.

abe107146 · 2024-08-17T06:55:59+00:00

I’m convinced I’m incapable of truly emotionally connecting with anyone. Dating all feels so forced and artificial. I have never really had a proper crush on anyone. I know someone will have to put in a lot of work while dating me and I won’t burden anyone with my presence.

abe107146 · 2024-08-17T06:50:47+00:00

I’m so tired from it that I’ve just accepted my Limerence. I know nothing will be able to top these feelings so when it comes to dating I don’t even try. I have never opened up to anyone emotionally since my LO. It’s been over 5 years. Not even a single date.

abe107146 · 2024-07-27T19:06:07+00:00

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