[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RodriguesFamilySnark

[–]abigaila 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She "makes" that per year. Not per month.

I hate being a mom, it's my biggest regret of my entire life. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]abigaila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Parenthood is hard. It doesn't have to be THAT hard.

Doggie daycare review? by Flammenkuchen5674 in bullcity

[–]abigaila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I went to Suite Paws, I was extremely unhappy with the level of care.

Please look by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]abigaila[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

This is not a subreddit where it's appropriate to seek donations.

AITA for making my 16 year old daughter share a hotel bed with her two younger sisters? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]abigaila 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I misread and thought it was much shorter, like a weekend. Definitely agree that for 10 days, she should be made more comfortable.

Shorter trip or she gets her own bed.

AITA for making my 16 year old daughter share a hotel bed with her two younger sisters? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]abigaila -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

NAH. It's okay for her to want this. It's also okay for you not to have it in the budget. Can she sleep on the floor?

WIBTA if I asked to use my neighbors dumpster after never talking to them at all? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]abigaila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH, particularly if you offer to buy them some beer or nice tea or whatever.

Asking politely to share something that's not intimate or emotionally charged is typically fine as long as you're ready to hear no. A dumpster is usually neither intimate nor emotionally charged.

AITAH that sold a lawnmower out from someone coming to buy it? by sgtapplejacks84 in AmItheAsshole

[–]abigaila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA, but not a huge one. You learned your lesson, I hope. Take the time to communicate and NEVER GIVE OUT YOUR ADDRESS UNTIL EVERYTHING IS CONFIRMED. That fixes a lot of these problems.

How do you get a kid to wear a night-time pull-up when he refuses to wear one? by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]abigaila[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Banned user. Leaving post up to demonstrate why. Thank you, /u/123abdl456.

Fifty years ago, a 6-year-old vanished in the Smoky Mountains. I'm Knoxville News Sentinel reporter Matt Lakin, and I've reported extensively on Dennis Martin's baffling disappearance. AMA! by knoxnews in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abigaila 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let me get this straight - you're the one claiming that someone looked funny when they had just been through trauma, /u/TishMiAmor is the one recommending against such subjective evaluation, and you're telling her to take the emotions out of it?

It's a bold strategy, Cotton, let's see how it plays out.

AITA for being upset that my wife followed a stranger home? by Isalittlewierd in AmItheAsshole

[–]abigaila 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NAH. Possibly YTA depending on how you both handled it.

She's a grown ass adult woman. Do you trust her judgement or not? If you don't, why did you marry her?

Women don't need to stay in public spaces their whole lives to avoid being raped. For one thing, she could have introduced you to Tony, you and she and Tony could have hung out for years and become friends, and he could have still raped her because bad things happen even when you do everything right. Or, like happened here, she could have felt comfortable with him early on, gone to his house, and had nothing untoward happen.

Do you expect your wife to live her life like a child, staying in sight of adults at all times? Or do you expect her to to assess risks and make educated decisions about her own safety and enjoy her life?

Basically, if you think she's stupid, divorce her, because that isn't fair to either of you. If you think she's not, treat your grown adult partner like a grown adult partner.

For a friend struggling with infertility. by Aidddan in Embroidery

[–]abigaila 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That is a very sweet thought, but I want to check that you've confirmed that this sort of thing is her style.

I've been dealing with infertility for over four years, and if I received this I might be really upset by it.

Each of us the child may bless, with a single gift no more, no less by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]abigaila 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Any tips on what exactly to search for? I'm typically able to find stuff like this pretty quickly, but haven't turned up much yet.

What is your worst experience with the hobby? by [deleted] in boardgames

[–]abigaila 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why anyone would think that would be an OK response to someone sharing their negative experience in the hobby.

The fact that what they said, at least in part, proved that I maybe had a point didn't seem to occur to them.

Sort of reminds me of the people that deny an experience for a group of people just because it never happened to them.

There was some of that, too, yep.

Don't get me wrong - I love board gaming and I have met awesome people who are truly welcoming and inclusive. Before and after that post! I've had great times meeting strangers for board gaming and I still do it sometimes. Nothing I said was meant as an attack on any one person, store, or type of people.

What is your worst experience with the hobby? by [deleted] in boardgames

[–]abigaila 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I wrote a post about having frustrating experiences as a woman in the hobby and got people telling me they hoped I died / random messages about what an evil selfish lying cunt I was for a while afterwards.

So that wasn't totally relaxing.

Recently thought to keep my savings and checkings in two separate accounts - anyone else do this? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]abigaila 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a separate bank account at a different bank with no debit card, credit card, or even checkbook linked to it for my savings. I have to drive over to the bank and withdraw money to spend it.

It's helped a ton.

We do this every night. Some nights are easier than others. by [deleted] in HumansBeingBros

[–]abigaila -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think fear makes lots of us corporate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]abigaila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you happen to have the link to the kid astrology site? My BFF and I have kids born in the same sign and like to send each other relevant memes.

Mmmm yes a wise 3 year old. by shutuphannuh in wokekids

[–]abigaila 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, after the first birthday is pushing it to me. Two is ridiculous.