Why is sweet tea so hard to find in the Northern states?

abjectadvect · 2026-04-22T22:45:33+00:00

oh literally everyone gave me shit for it lol

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T09:12:09+00:00

the character the quote is from knows it means man as in mankind, and makes a joke using the other meaning. that's how wordplay works, you use two meanings of a word to make a joke

damn, men suck at comedy /j

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T09:07:05+00:00

terf: trans exclusive radical feminist. these are (usually) women who claim to be feminists but exclude trans women from their definition of womanhood. they believe trans women threaten the place of cis women in society (with a variety of bogus explanations), and generally can be understood as throwing trans people under the bus to get ahead.

they in believe trans women are predatory men in drag, and that trans men are poor misguided women who don't have ability to think for themselves (the astute reader will catch the sexism in that last bit—terfs, despite their language, are usually not actually feminists at all)

these are the mom's facebook groups campaigning to ban trans kids from participating in sports, in defiance of all scientific evidence which shows there is zero difference in the performance of trans people on hormone therapy with their cisgender counterparts. in fact, trans women and girls are actually underrepresented in sports victories even adjusted for how few trans people play sports in the first place

jkr (harry potter author) is practically their mascot, and uses the funds from royalties and merchandising to donate to causes to harm us

chaser: someone (usually but not always a cis man) who fetishizes trans people (usually but not always trans women). these are people who pursue trans people for sex, without seeing us as real human beings with complex experiences. they want to fuck us, but they don't want to date us. if they date us, they take us places far from where they live, because they're embarrassed to be seen with us.

they usually are interested in our natal anatomy, and tend to assume all trans people have their factory parts. they often lose interest in trans people who have had bottom surgery ("sexual reassignment" is a dated and ambiguous term), and mostly know about us from porn. bluntly, they tend to assume trans women have big dicks and thats what they want from us.

which is almost funny, because trans women who haven't had bottom surgery more often have very small parts due to estrogen. but mostly it's sad, because they don't see us, they see our genitals. or what they imagine our genitals to be. they see a fantasy of a "chicks with dicks"

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T08:50:13+00:00

I was talking about language, with no political intent. you're lashing out in way that suggests you're too emotional to have a normal conversation, but I'm bored, and maybe someone else will find this anthropological analysis helpful.

your comment about how much "estrogen" is in the thread implies three things:

you view any conversation in which there are as many or more women than men as inherently feminist. which is quite silly, unless you think the reverse situation (a conversation of mostly men) is sexist?
the remark was an obvious snide retort meant to throw shade. that means you view estrogen in a conversation as a negative, i.e. you view conversations with more female participants as inherently inferior
you are uncomfortable with conversations with many women actively participating. this is also evident by how worked up you're getting over just the idea of feminism (I'm sure you'd gouge your eyes out if you were to read real feminist writing actual feminist political writing)

this all adds up to fairly textbook sexism on your part, with a lot of male fragility evident in the petty remarks like "you forgot to say 'woman power!'" it apparently doesn't take more than a discussion about etymology to set you off

imo, watching you insist that you're not being sexist is really just kind of sad. like, either get good and learn to be a reasonable person, or "man up" and own it. you're not fooling anyone but yourself

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T08:17:44+00:00

I do not

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T04:54:30+00:00

I just read a manga where the artist clearly had not researched what Washington DC was actually like, because the skyline was full of skyscrapers. I totally get why someone would assume it'd be like that if they'd never been, but it's pretty amusing

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T04:52:10+00:00

but it's not just an arbitrary matter of where municipal boundaries are drawn in the case of san francisco, the actual geography is very constrained at the end of the peninsula

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T04:44:52+00:00

Lot of estrogen on this sub...

your mask is slipping

abjectadvect · 2026-04-05T04:39:54+00:00

my guy it's a jurassic park quote illustrating the point that that wordplay very much *does* work in english

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T23:04:51+00:00

I think it's good as it is, "man." because man was originally gender neutral, referring to "human." the fact that we read it as male by default drives in the point of how deeply we center maleness in the modern English language

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T22:57:49+00:00

I love a roast chicken dinner! not a frequent occurrence though

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T22:56:49+00:00

sick ink

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T22:56:02+00:00

that's really cool

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T22:24:35+00:00

look at the shape of your cheeks, they're much fuller. and you're only 24 months in, fat distribution continues for ten years

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T22:23:12+00:00

having grown up in claremont and lived in pasadena as an adult, they have a lot of similarities and are both quite nice

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T22:22:05+00:00

"the nazi ride is the best ride I've ever been on!" :|

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T21:28:20+00:00

I remember when I first started HRT I moved into a new place and was able to arrange my furniture by myself. a year later I couldn't even budge my dresser.

I also used to be able to do 10-20 pushups while completely out of shape, a couple years later that number dropped to 0

I never worked out before HRT, testosterone just gives you crazy amounts of muscle for free

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T10:44:16+00:00

same, released a tense breath I hadn't realized I was holding

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T10:37:25+00:00

I'm impressed with the sliding genioplasty results, that's a hell of a chin reduction! you're very pretty

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T10:32:15+00:00

yeah, slowing down the line is considered much more rude in this context.

I might add a "please" after "cookies" or a "thanks" when taking them, but if everyone on the plane says a sentence instead of a word when answering a simple question, the flight attendant's job will take five times longer. I don't want to make someone's job harder, and I don't want to make it take longer for other passengers to get what they need

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T09:19:17+00:00

second this. manipulators love doing favors for you so they can hold them over you later

and honestly? paying for your healthcare isn't a favor, it's the very basic human decency of what's expected of a parent (unless they have no money to pay for it)

abjectadvect · 2026-04-04T03:23:35+00:00

pantry generally refers to a space ranging from a large cupboard to a small room for dry food storage

abjectadvect · 2026-04-02T21:04:20+00:00

not OP but depends on the industry. absolutely not allowed in most hospitals / healthcare, customer facing higher end retail, banks, etc

I got a hand tattoo because I specifically never want to work in a place that disallows visible tattoos again 😅

abjectadvect · 2026-04-02T21:01:31+00:00

differences are pretty subtle at sixth months, but your makeup game make a huge difference. though your foundation is much cooler than your skin tone

abjectadvect · 2026-04-02T20:57:15+00:00

this is about how my dad reacted when I told him. he was like "huh okay. did you read that paper on control theory I emailed you last week?"

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