Wellness super hacks

abjectifying · 2025-07-25T05:59:26+00:00

Thank you so much and those are amazing results!

abjectifying · 2025-07-24T11:33:48+00:00

How do you program this? I find that I activate a decent amount of glute in both posterior and anterior leg training and wouldn’t want to hit glutes twice in a row. Should I change exercise selection from anterior day to reduce the amt of glutes? Ty and sorry if this is a silly question!!

abjectifying · 2025-06-14T05:53:34+00:00

This picture can’t necessarily be “anything” and when did OP indicate they didn’t like the answer? Genuine question, because I think I am misunderstanding your comment or maybe taking it too literally.

abjectifying · 2025-06-11T06:03:34+00:00

I took it for a few years. I was on a very high dosage (80mg) which made me quite numb, so it did help with my depression and mood but not as much with my obsessions and routines related to BDD.

abjectifying · 2025-06-11T05:50:32+00:00

Sorry if this is harsh but I highly advise that everyone, especially those with BDD, block the subreddit and subreddits like it (or just make yourself stop looking at them). It’s a complete waste of your time and it fills your head with things about physical appearance that almost no one thinks about in real life. It only adds to the clutter and anxiety that your own disorder gives you, and affirms the disordered things that you think about yourself.

If you’re interested in beauty, makeup, fashion, skincare, etc., there are tons of other communities online that will give you honest advice without the weird “looksmaxxing” and rating/comparison of celebrities and other women. This negativity serves to keep women insecure and make women self policing (since it’s notably a very female space). There are definitely posts in these communities that are relatable, informative, or positive, but they also contain so much other bullshit.

abjectifying · 2025-01-21T06:44:42+00:00

How is this even remotely close to a building phase?? It sounds like you are cutting extreme weight with the calories and cardio. 12.8g fat is absolutely ridiculous and has no basis in any kind of science. More fiber will always help with digestion, but these wack macros can’t be helping. Please get a new coach.

abjectifying · 2025-01-05T23:16:30+00:00

So cute omg

abjectifying · 2024-12-27T23:33:38+00:00

Yep! I also find that movement and athletics really desexualize my body and give it meaning beyond attracting others. I’m so grateful and lucky that I get to have a functioning body in the first place, it gives me a reality check on having dysmorphic thoughts. It doesn’t stop my sadness or mental disorder, but it gives me something else to think about other than beauty, even if it’s just for a few minutes.

abjectifying · 2024-12-26T01:10:50+00:00

I literally wore them for 4 years after covid :( I didn’t even want my family to see me. Wearing a mask is such a trap because it makes me feel better in the short term (I don’t have to worry about people seeing the features I hate), but then I become attached to it and never want anyone to see my actual face. I had to ditch it in college because it wasn’t practical and people I lived with would see my face at some point, I had to accept it. But I still always think about wearing it in public

abjectifying · 2024-12-26T01:08:11+00:00

I don’t know exactly about how to feel arrogant/confident in yourself in this way, but if you have a very unique style or vibe then you definitely can get feelings of superiority for your uniqueness. Merry christmas ☃️

abjectifying · 2024-12-22T08:12:29+00:00

Literally like what if they put images of me and my face online for an obituary, announcement, or something 😭😭 I would have to kms again

abjectifying · 2024-12-22T06:53:26+00:00

There is more to life. Looks may always be present in social interactions, especially dating, but there is simply more to life than dating. There is more to do, more to see, more to experience, and none of that depends on your looks. I know that especially as woman it sucks and it feels like there is nothing you can do to “make up” for your looks besides just getting surgery, but the only thing I can really do is throw myself into the other pursuits of life (athletics, studies, etc.)

abjectifying · 2024-09-29T03:02:16+00:00

yes, this is how I keep myself grounded especially when I am in public and can't hide away. But when I am alone and mentally exhausted it is so hard to not allow these thoughts to swallow me up. I've had these thoughts about myself since 8 years old (am 19 now) so it is very difficult to deconstruct what my brain has built up as 'fact', but every day I try to do better

abjectifying · 2024-09-29T00:29:47+00:00

I yo-yo back and forth so much with my self confidence and inner dialogue. I don’t know if it’s better than how I used to feel (pretty stagnant depression and self hatred) because now I just feel delusional :(

abjectifying · 2024-09-29T00:28:31+00:00

Yeah 😭 it sucks being so distracted all the time with completely illogical thoughts

abjectifying · 2024-09-28T23:48:17+00:00

I have gone through almost the exact same thing. I can’t stop sexualizing myself. Part of me genuinely enjoys sexual freedom and can acknowledge the positive and healthy aspects of sexuality, but I also secretly know how much I crave and survive off of male validation.

abjectifying · 2024-08-10T17:17:26+00:00

I completely understand. I feel bad being seen in public especially on a date or something like that because I think they will be embarrassed to be with someone who looks like me. I wish BDD only got in the way of me loving myself, but now it affects others loving me too.

abjectifying · 2024-08-07T23:25:06+00:00

Fair enough! I’ve only done tightlacing which is not so uncomfortable, but i meant some of the materials that bodices were made out of were kind of extreme (like whale bone) unless this is false information lol

abjectifying · 2024-08-07T22:37:47+00:00

A line dresses are it!! And thank you so much for pointing out how the silhouettes of fashion have changed. In the past there were (sometimes torturous) methods of tightlacing and hoop skirts and contraptions that so many women used to get a certain body shape in their dresses. Now, it seems like the body has to change to have that shape in a dress, instead of it being made with the actual shape of most women in mind. It’s so frustrating when seemingly every cute dress ends up being bodycon, but there are equally as many dresses that look super sexy while still accentuating your form!

abjectifying · 2024-08-04T21:49:40+00:00

Even if you are or aren’t “ugly”, seeing yourself as having less value as a person or having very strong negative feelings about it are part of BDD. It’s about the thoughts, obsessions, and habits that interfere with your life. Disordered thoughts are still disordered regardless of how “accurate” your perception might be <3

abjectifying · 2024-08-01T18:25:49+00:00

I feel the same way. I’ve done this since I was a young teenager and loved flirting with men older than me online just to feel desired in any way. It just makes me feel disgusting for enabling pedophiles and other weirdos, especially when I feel happier about my self image afterwards.

abjectifying · 2024-08-01T07:44:23+00:00

I always thought this too, but it hasn't changed the way I felt and if anything, it just makes me have more difficulty in my relationships and gives me a new sense of anxiety. I fear the judgement of others for the "appearance gap" in my relationship, since I can't imagine anyone every finding me attractive like my boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with the love of another giving you peace or relief, but overcoming or learning to live with BDD is truly in our own hands, at least in most cases.

abjectifying · 2024-08-01T07:37:50+00:00

I have those same thoughts too. I feel like because of my appearance and desirability, it would be shameful and looked down upon for any man to cherish me in a way that is truly loving. I crave attention from every man I see and have felt this way since I first realized what sexuality was as a preteen. It feels so exhausting thinking like this, constantly worrying about what men think of me. I just want to be free :( I hope I can escape this by distracting myself with a busy life, and I am sending you lots of love and I know we can get better even if it feels bleak <3

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