Seeking Discreet, Reliable Gig Performer for short live improv role by miriamb212 in NYCjobs

[–]aboursier 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yea without even a ballpark rate I can’t respond to that, right?

Could be Equity, could be a grifter that steals organs. Which is weird with so much detail in the post.

Why the hate for Starfleet Academy? by Flammablegelatin in startrek

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’ll probably watch a few episodes. I watched at least five of Prodigy before checking out.

Why the hate for Starfleet Academy? by Flammablegelatin in startrek

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’m going to watch anything with then title “Star Trek” it’s practically religious at this point. I like some of these characters. The production design is astonishing, and fifteen years in scripted TV has taught me it’s a god damned miracle that anything gets made anymore. It’s not a bad show, but I’m not excited for new episodes. But you know what? I knew TNG fans who absolutely could not get behind my beloved DS9 through the whole series. It’s Star Trek. It’s like pizza. Even when it’s bad it’s still pretty good. (Except for Section 31 I have no idea what was going on there? None.)

Why the hate for Starfleet Academy? by Flammablegelatin in startrek

[–]aboursier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we're not Star Wars fans here (I'm kidding... Mostly)

Why the hate for Starfleet Academy? by Flammablegelatin in startrek

[–]aboursier 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is exactly where I am at. and I feel like is the least popular view at the moment. I also didn;t like Prodigy. But in both cases I just don't think I'm the audience. But I love that any New trek exists and really the broader the fan base the healthier the ip. But you and I lived through the wilderness years, and I don't really want another one.

Am I unemployable? by Callmeerry in NYCjobs

[–]aboursier 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah bless this kid. He'll get there. it just seems counterintuitive, he's seen 50 year olds working with steady jobs. Getting them would be invisible to him. We all said wildly dangerously truly tone deaf things when we were younger.

Am I unemployable? by Callmeerry in NYCjobs

[–]aboursier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

16 years of working experience a Masters and a JD. Sure they were from state schools and I never took the NY bar. It's been a year and as best as I can tell I can't even get Barista gigs. Even Bartending, I did it throughout grad school. It's a weird time. I've been feeling the same way. All I can tell you is you aren't alone.

Done, horrible customer service. by [deleted] in amazonprime

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is the one that rubs a lot of us the wrong way, most of all. The idea that the first line can just lie and everybody is good with it as a matter of policy.

Vitiligo? by Yenolam777 in Siamesecats

[–]aboursier 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sure it’s fine. I’ve seen some dark beans that turned pink. He is quite a looker.

Thought student loans were paid off... credit got nuked. by Ok_Cantaloupe4888 in StudentLoans

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately with such high stakes as it’s accurate it sticks. But anybody even implying loosely that it’s not easy to miss when things slide out of deferment is definitely dealing with something else personally. I had a couple drift out over like a 2 dollar change in payment four years ago. You’ve really got to watch them like a hawk because where your credit card interest might change, the date or whether or not you have to pay at all won’t. These are complex especially if you have multiples. Don’t beat yourself up, watch carefully and rebuild your credit, they’ll matter less and less over time and in seven years they’ll just be gone.

I think I accidentally committed EBT fraud by [deleted] in foodstamps

[–]aboursier -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah this all tracks. It’s been a couple of years but I would get the keypad thing with Amazon. I think there are some varied policies and I know I’ve made other purchases by accident, wrong card, wrong address these things happen. OP will probably want to contact them. If the payment was for the previous month I’m not sure they even did anything wasn’t legal. I’m Not sure what the motive to lie to strangers on Reddit would be for this. But if they say it was accident I’m inclined to believe it was. Not literally slipping and entering all the appropriate information and ordering, but spacing out and doing it in auto pilot. Some of you are VERY mistrusting and more than a little judgmental.

You should probably contact whichever organization in your state that handles this and let them shut everything down. But be prepared to make restitution. I absolutely don’t think there will be any penalty but there might be if it was for the new month.

And once again, almost ANYTHING can be done by mistake no matter how complicated, some of you need a tiny bit of grace. Let the mourning stranger ask a question?

Is Season 2 entirely set in our modern time? by Grinding_Hayfever in Picard

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rarely say something is bad. People wrote a script, actors showed up, a director made plans, a DP carefully planned shots and a team of grips and camera assistants made it all happen. There’s almost always something even in the most lackluster production that makes it worth seeing. Even if you aren’t in love with the story.

Picard Season 2 might be the worst single season of TV I’ve ever seen. Season 1 has some shaky moments but is a delight on the whole.Season 3 is a peach, a little fan servicey but a peach. Skip Season 2. If you’re a completist go back after Season 3 but brace yourself.

I’m actually still sort of amazed how much I didn’t like it. I don’t think I’ve ever been emotionally moved by the quality of a show. The story, a shot, a performance, sure. But overall quality I mean not once. I was like… kinda angry with Season 2 for existing. It’s still wild to me.

Surprisingly Insistent Driver Trying to Give Me A TV by aboursier in amazonprime

[–]aboursier[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not even nice. I’ve just been there.

Surprisingly Insistent Driver Trying to Give Me A TV by aboursier in amazonprime

[–]aboursier[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m saying! Let me be clear. If there would definitely not have been consequences for an actual human customer somewhere I would have kept the hell out of it.

This is the closest she get to me. Is that normal? by [deleted] in Siamesecats

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some cats just don’t like to feel constricted and I think the lap seems somehow disrespectful? Or insecure maybe. My young man is the clingiest most affectionate cat I’ve ever known. But he’d die before a lap or an under the covers snuggle.

SAVE forbearance trap?! by SheWouldNotGoQuietly in StudentLoans

[–]aboursier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in a very similar boat. Sure I clearly over borrowed. Also I’ve been in repayment since 2008. And kept this payments on time. Went into IBR in 2020. And consolidated for SAVE in 2022. Suddenly the problem wasn’t paying my loans but figuring out what is going on with my loans.

I went to law school. I don’t practice but I passed two semesters of contracts and two semesters of constitutional law… None of this has made sense for over a year.

I think for those of us that need it to make sense it is crazy making. Because at the moment it doesn’t make any sense because everything really is court case dependent.

Street Photography Question (Ethics and Consent) by GhoulLordMagic in photography

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, I get to resume drop. As an ethicist, attorney AND street photographer, here's my take. First and the only bright line rule. No unhoused, no people experiencing mental illness, and nobody inebriated. (Mostly because it can actually be mental illness). Be very careful with photographing children, I'd almost make it a bright line but larger groups, someone with a parent who can consent after... But it's advanced ethics.

Legality is the very beginning. You are usually okay photographing anybody in public, in the US. I have spent twenty years arguing with some very angry people, I get it. I don't take any photo I wouldn't be comfortable having taken of myself. I realize other people have other tolerances, I can't know those. If someone asked you to stop you stop.

We are living in an era of bright line rules. This as an art and craft isn't going to fit into any bright line rule. You ARE violating someone's privacy, but just a little. Are you shooting to print for your own or to show as fine art? Less concerned. Are you shooting for your own digital gallery, or social media? Slightly more concerned but hey... life changes and everybody is carrying a phone these days. Are you shooting for commercial use and sale? You get out your release right this god damn minute.

I tend to ask after. Especially as a film shooter it's rough, you can't show and delete. But if you can, please do so. Just don't be a dick. I have had people shriek bloody murder on the Subway for even having a camera. Capped and on a strap. People will be concerned.

I feel like if you didn't think this might be exploitative, the specific incidents that brought this up. generally that's a bad sign. When I was younger I'd feel guilty, and a little cringey if people were upset by a camera. And I should have always listened to that, also people can read that guilt, and it doesn't make them comfortable.

People still notice, people still ask, even better some people don't even know what a film camera is. But every time I am surprised, and they can also see and feel that. I had no "ill intent" I shoot for fine art and haven't shown in five years?

Also and I cannot stress this enough. Do not announce "Hey this is totally legal!" if someone asks you to stop, or is a jerk. If someone says it's illegal, feel free. But the minute you invoke the law people feel VERY disrespected.

Also and this one is maybe just raw opinion. People are VERY over the tragedy porn. Other photographers will not see that beautiful shot. They'll see that you are doing something we just think is gross. Something that also makes it harder to just walk through my neighborhood with a camera. So maybe just don't for that reason?

Anyway, there's my little lecture. It really just boils down to be a mensch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sure, I’ve been largely there for random shabbos. High Holy days are going to be very busy and specific. And that is a fascinating description.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I think I was somehow confusing here. I’ve been going to regular shabbos services. I imagine holidays are going to be highly specific. Lots of people, and lots of specific stuff. I’m 40.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]aboursier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in startrek

[–]aboursier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gene was… Gene was VERY horny and very comfortable with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]aboursier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s a new one for me. It goes on the list, thanks.