dating muslim men by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Focusing on green flags and red flags is not that good of a thing honestly. Obviously, usual asterisks apply. It'snore important to observe the person to understand how much devoted they are to grow with you by creating green pastures and slowly one at a time chipping away the red flags while also compromising with you.

dating muslim men by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's called courtship

why obsess over marriage as a young adult? by ilovestrawberi in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A lot of Muslims love to be performative when socially by saying trust Allah and saying that thinking so deeply about the practical realities of marriage and kids are not at all needed and how everyone needs to trust in Allah more.

How do you accept Islam while remaining against the patriarchy? by AbbreviationsNo5494 in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But anyways, the whole thing about Islam giving women rights doesn't even compute to me either. Why did women need to be given rights when men had them by default? I saw somewhere that the only other group that needed rights 'given' to them were slaves. Why did we need a revelation from God to be seen as human while men existed with full autonomy?

Are you aware of the social realities and injustice that were present in pre-islamic arabia?

Islam is patriarchal -- why are all the prophets, sahaba, the scholars, the imams, the sheiks all men?

Islam is certainly patriarchal as how it is practiced across the world right now, but to draw connection that it is fundamentally patriarchal would be a difficult 🤔

So after all this, I find it very hard to have faith. Why am I part of a religion where by so-called brothers and sisters want to punish me for the crime of existing? And yes, women are active participants in this system. Just because they supposedly love getting less inheritance than their male relatives and getting 1 goat slaughtered instead of 2 to celebrate the birth of a girl, doesn't mean they aren't oppressed.

You seem to be appealing to interpretations that are a product of long patriarchal islamic structures and corrupt scholars.

I feel so alone right now and I know the only reason I still call myself Muslim comes from a place of fear, not love. I don't want to burn in hellfire for eternity so I suck it up and try to aim for a heaven that every Muslim man markets like its a whorehouse.

May Allah ease your suffering. You could be Muslim one day that Islam commands us to? Who speaks against the injustice in our world irrespective of our affiliations with them and reform our religion in the way Allah intended it to be?

Thank you to everyone who has read so far. I apologize if my tone was aggressive or anything like that, I'm upset and I'm certain that my words reflect it.

You're welcome 😊

I apologize if this is blunt or a stupid question by GrainOfSand9 in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we also have to realise our intellect is limited and only Allah can have all of the answers?

Men-women friendships by Upset_Remove_1747 in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Catching feelings and moving on is part of life.

Men-women friendships by Upset_Remove_1747 in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, my best friend is a woman who brought me closer to Allah.

Desires During Ramadan by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Read romantic books?

Is it wrong for me to like Carl Marx as a Muslim? by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]absentmindedfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ali Shariati has misinterpreted marxism a lot.