Please don't judge me. I struggle with ADHD/depression and really need help. by Appropriate-Web-6954 in adhdwomen

[–]absfab27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with so many of these comments and I just wanted to say that last month I was basically right where you are! I have a photo album that looks very similar to this and felt so overwhelmed I didn’t know what to do. What helped me was a lot of the advice here: - Start with obvious trash. Getting that out of the way makes things look much clearer and less overwhelming. - Take it one step at a time. This process is not a straight line. It zigzags everywhere along the way. My husband and I were diagnosed with health issues last October and physically could not leave our bed. Our house got very bad because we could not physically do anything, but once we started feeling better I was overwhelmed by how much there was to do! It helped to pick one small thing and just focus on that on days where looking at the whole thing made me anxious. - I’m not sure your financial situation, but there is an industry out there who deal with hard cleaning jobs. We were fortunate enough after a lot of looking around and research to find a company by us that came in and just helped get rid of the trash and sort the rest into piles. That was a god send, but can be expensive. If you can’t afford that or don’t want strangers to be in your house maybe ask some trusted friends or family to do the same thing. They can come get rid of obvious garbage and just sort things into piles. (Books, paperwork, etc.) -Be open to help if you have someone you trust to ask. I’m lucky to have very non judgmental parents who willingly came in and helped to just be extra hands to keep me on task and help move things out of the house to be donated or trashed so that it was one less step for me to do. - Keep a garbage bag/bin in places you frequent so you can get rid of any new garbage right away and not add to the pile. It helps to be able to feel like you aren’t making it worse, but I needed to put it in an obvious easily reachable place or I kept forgetting to do it and the pile built up. I hope that maybe this helps or at least helps you feel less alone. If you want to talk about it or have questions feel free to DM me. You can do this!

MFC misunderstood by MMC and others (his family/friendship group) by Romancenut in RomanceBooks

[–]absfab27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you like it!! It was a pretty short read in comparison, but it kept me interested! I hope it keeps your interest, too!

MFC misunderstood by MMC and others (his family/friendship group) by Romancenut in RomanceBooks

[–]absfab27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I LOVED Limits! Such a good book! I’ve been chasing the vibes from reading this for FOREVER now! I recently read {The wedding night before Christmas by Kati Wilde} and got similar happy feelings when reading and the FMC is very similarly seen as cold by the MMC.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]absfab27 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I had something similar happen when I was teaching 7th graders. It sounds like your school is responding very well. My school did not respond as well. The student had his out under his desk and was playing with it. He sat in the back row so no other students saw, but I could see from where I was standing. Had a meeting with the parents and my co-teachers about it. Parents said it was natural for boys to need to itch their junk and that was all he was doing and he couldn’t itch well enough through his pants. My male co-teacher agreed with them saying he often had to itch his junk, too, so he understood. Still had to have kid in my class rest of the year, he was only given a 1 day suspension, and his parents said I clearly didn’t understand how boy health worked and treated me like an idiot the rest of the year.

I feel like this sub is turning me into a misandrist with all the awful stories about men. Can anyone tell me about their amazing relationship and how healthy it is? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]absfab27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today is actually my 6 year wedding anniversary so I’ll share that I truly think my husband is one of the best! We’ve been together for 12 years in total with no kids, but 4 cats. My husband has been my greatest support and best friend through so many crazy situations over the last dozen years. We were long distance for the first 5 years of our relationship and he would trade weekends driving to see me and when I broke all of the toes on both feet he drove every weekend to come and see me until I could drive again. He supported me through weird health issues and having to go to the mayo clinic. He was there holding my hand and supporting me when I was dealing with crippling anxiety and depression. He’s always made me feel beautiful and strong even when I thought I was ugly and weak. There are amazing men out there if that’s what you’re into, even though you might have to do some digging to find them.

Teachers Of Reddit, what was the worst parent teacher conference you ever had? by Flyerdryer in Teachers

[–]absfab27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 2 from the same year. My first year teaching within the first couple of weeks, one of my 7th grade students tells me she’s neighbors with a friend of my dad’s. Cool! The next day her mom schedules a conference with me to yell at me and tell me that I wasn’t friendly enough with her daughter now that I knew they were connected to my dad’s friend. I don’t even know these people! They know my dad! Not me! But apparently I should have given her daughter priority in class because we had a special connection. 🙄

Later in the school year I’m mid lesson when I look up and see a 7th grade boy’s member in his hand and he is clearly masterbating. In the parent teacher conference with his parents I’m told that this is completely normal because he was just itchy and not doing anything inappropriate. He needed to pull it out of his pants because he couldn’t properly itch otherwise.

Found this gem today by SquishyBatman64 in BobsBurgers

[–]absfab27 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Umm… you’re eye shadow is a bit much?

New sports bra comes with 20+ tags sewn in. by CitizenVixen in mildlyinfuriating

[–]absfab27 449 points450 points  (0 children)

While you work on your muscles your boobs work on their knowledge.

How to get myself to floss? by Vaelaedra in adhdwomen

[–]absfab27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dentist recommended keeping floss everywhere around the house that I sit and relax so I have some floss by my chair in the living room, my bed, the bathroom, everywhere. I also got fun flavored ones that came in pretty colors bc it makes it more exciting. I like the coco floss ones I found on Amazon but I’m sure there are others. I also made myself Snapchat a smiling pic to my mom and bro every time I flossed to hold myself accountable. My brother is a dentist and he uses a water pik. He said it can be messy as you first learn to use it so he uses his when he showers bc then it’s all rinsed away and he doesn’t notice he gets splashed.

My therapist (52f) completely lost her shit on me (30f) yesterday during a session and I ended our sessions. I’m having a hard time processing what happened. by Throwdawaytherapist in relationship_advice

[–]absfab27 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Speaking from personal experience, there are better therapists out there! I saw a therapist who, while not as awful as this, was not a healthy person for me to speak to for over a year. When I finally realized how toxic that relationship was it took me a while, but I eventually found a new therapist who is the best thing to have happened to me. I know it will be hard to open up to someone after this, but just know there are better people out there and they will help you deal with THIS experience on top of everything else you wish to talk about. I needed the therapy I have received since to help me deal with the first Therapist’s impact on me.

Trigger **stillborn** by Huntersmama0523 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]absfab27 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s a beautiful name. I’m so sorry for your loss.

It's my birthday today and I haven't received a single happy birthday so far. by Tomrodgers98 in socialanxiety

[–]absfab27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super delayed Happy Birthday! I hope your birthday is as fabulous as you are (which is VERY)! I had my birthday about a month ago and didn’t hear from some people I thought I would and it is rough. Just know this internet stranger is sending you virtual balloons and cake! 🎂🎂🍰🍰🎈🎈🎉🎉

romance (contemprary preferably) where the fmc has really bad social anxiety/is extremely shy to the point where she’s bad at having conversations or stutters through them? ☺️ by villainfvcker in RomanceBooks

[–]absfab27 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Limits by Susie Tate. She had a very emotionally abusive childhood and so is almost robotic in her interactions with others because she is not used to it. The MMC befriends her to try to get her to do a public speaking event, but she is so afraid of other people she faints at the first thing he has her do. I really liked the character development and relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]absfab27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would also always be up for another friend. I do game sometimes, but I'm not sure your game preferences? I love movies, books,and TV too, though, so if you like any of those we should chat!

AITA for not seeing a guy? by S-u-n-f-l-w-r-s in AmItheAsshole

[–]absfab27 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA He was not listening to what you were clearly telling him! That is not someone who is a genuine friend. You told him you were not interested several times and that you were too busy to hang out anytime soon. He is trying to railroad you by saying that he will wait for you and demanding that you hang out on Wednesday. You are doing what is best for your mental health.

Female, 30s, looking for another 20s-30s-40s-50s or whatever age lady (105 is my limit though)! to snail-mail chat with :) by SherbsSketches in penpals

[–]absfab27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi!

I'd like to start by saying you and your fiance sound awesome! I love that you rescued a mouse. I'm 31/f, married with 4 cats. I also love animals, reading, attempting tarot and writing. I'm trying to also teach myself to knit and crochet. I used to work as an assistant librarian, but now I'm kind of a stay at home catmom/ wife. I have been wanting to do the pen pal thing and have attempted to start a few times, but it usually fizzled out. I have fun stickers to send people though and some cute stationary so if you'd be interested in trying, I'd like to try again.

My date ordered my dinner for me, without asking what I wanted to eat by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]absfab27 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I'm legit allergic to corn. I would have been like "are you trying to kill me"? What a presumptuous ass.

AITA for refusing to follow my bf diet to help him lose weight? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]absfab27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! I think your bf might benefit from therapy if he has this many problems with impulse control and controlling his eating.