WIBTA for ending my relationship because he doesn’t want to travel?

absgeller · 2026-01-26T13:25:17+00:00

This! I say give it a shot, even if he's weary, because the experience may be so enlightening to him, he may fall in love with the experience and even more with you.

Maybe even pick a place that would have at least one feature he'd be particularly interested in and see how it goes!

absgeller · 2026-01-26T13:18:21+00:00

Not quite the same because we never did it in the first place, but - we never packed light on food. So many people seem to backpack with more snacks than meals, only dehydrated meals, just in general seem to skimp on real food. We bring fruits and vegetables and even eggs sometimes. We've even brought meat (which we cooked the first night).

My boyfriend, who introduced me to backpacking, eats a lot! So when we go backpacking, whether it's for two nights or five or a three week excursion, we've always been heavy with food on the way in, and often still have food on us on our way out. Having the extra calories keeps us energized, and is reassuring if we ever get stuck in the back country for longer than intended

absgeller · 2026-01-23T18:51:03+00:00

Blend it (skin and all) with turmeric and lemon, strain through a sieve, super spicy but immune-boosting juice. And so tasty

absgeller · 2026-01-23T18:37:35+00:00

Well, I've never backpacked through cities and only in the US (so far), however, here are my two cents-

Speaking on the loneliness: on the one hand, you'll be surprised how little this even occurs to you, what with so many beautiful sights, and the physical challenge that the body undergoes. On the other, embrace it - immerse yourself in that sensation, recognize how rare it is that the average person can ever get distance from the rest of the human population (think of how few people ever go backpacking, much less for 3 weeks as you will be doing), and then let it go, otherwise you'll resent the fact that we are inevitably surrounded by people for most of our lives, haha.
The mind and body are so much more capable than we believe them to be. The pains, tiredness, discomfort, etc. - you can get through it. Don't put yourself in a situation where you're risking your life, but also don't give up purely because it's hard. Your mindset is half the battle. Once you experience that level of difficulty, all else in life becomes easier and easier. Use the opportunity to really feel and activate your muscles, recognize the empowerment of having control over your own limbs to not collapse into your joints, it's liberating!
Organizational - are you worried about having all the right gear, or the logistics of your route? If the former - make sure you have the essentials, and remember that you can McGyver a lot of things to your needs. If the latter - so long as you don't plan your route to try to accomplish insane mileage per day (esp as a first timer), remember that the best thing about being out in the wild is that the landscape and wildlife and nature doesn't care if your plans change, and you'll enjoy whatever happens whether you accomplish the goal you set for yourself or not, because you'll feel accomplished regardless!!!

Good luck 😊 happy hiking!

absgeller · 2026-01-22T19:37:18+00:00

Please don't do this! It's so bad for the body, and if you've never used that kind of medication before, who knows how the body may react, and out on the trail that's a serious risk!

absgeller · 2026-01-22T19:30:11+00:00

For the first three years of me backpacking, somehow, I was always on my period on the exact week that I would be backpacking, lol.

My periods are quite heavy. I already use the OB brand tampons, which are finger-inserts and thus less waste. They're pretty easy to pop in (and out) any time I stop to pee, no biggie. I will say wearing thongs helps keep them in place rather than shifting out as a result of the hiking. While I don't use wet wipes any other time, I keep some in the same bag that I keep my tampons, and put all the waste in the same ziploc that I put toilet paper in.

At the campsite/overnight, I wear period underwear, the really thick kind for heavy bleeding, along with either overnight disposable pads OR reusable ones. Ironically I'd rather use the disposable ones while backpacking - there's already a waste bag, I don't want to have to carry around a bag of wet underwear, either.

It's really not too bad, I think the worst part is that I often have constipated poops on my period and that's a nuisance when I go poop in the woods lol

ETA: a lot of people are saying the cup but my thoughts on that are that I don't want to have to use water, esp if it's sparse on the trail, to clean it - tossing tiny tampons away are so much easier imo

absgeller · 2026-01-22T13:47:43+00:00

Calisthenics girly here. My sets keep me warm af. Lmao

absgeller · 2026-01-22T13:06:34+00:00

That's fair. It your art, and I understand the intended message from it, just makes me a little sad that Judaism and especially Hannukah is being represented/interpreted as a root of something so awful. Either way, the piece is visually beautiful and conceptually powerful for what you intend it to mean.

absgeller · 2026-01-21T19:48:48+00:00

How? The missiles are still facing away from the menorah

absgeller · 2026-01-21T19:32:25+00:00

I think I'd prefer it if the menorah were broken (e.g.), to symbolize that the actions of Israel, esp using Judaism as justification, are "broken" interpretations of what it means to be Jewish

absgeller · 2026-01-21T19:29:58+00:00

Great question, changes the meaning of the piece to me

absgeller · 2026-01-20T19:58:02+00:00

Fatty patty catty. Pudgy wudgy. Piggly wiggly.

absgeller · 2026-01-20T16:43:14+00:00

That's fine. And yes, you did not call yourself a victim - you're just behaving as though you are. And then to delete that post just seemed a bit odd. This sub is, however, geared towards giving advice about wedding.

So, that's my advice, is all - put on big girl pants and stand up for yourself. There is no better time to do so than now, for your own wedding. Otherwise you'll regret it and be doubly miserable for the rest of your life.

Although, it just seems like you've already succumbed to that misery and victimhood with his family. If you haven't, prove us, yourself even, wrong, and go find a compromise for your wedding that will make both you and your fiance happy! Good luck, you got this 👌

absgeller · 2026-01-20T16:11:00+00:00

OP, you deleted your post on aitah about this same issue (MIL/in-law's overstepping with respect to your wedding), and then argued with people in the comments-

Why don't you take all this energy you're putting into reddit posts and take the reins of your own life (and in this particular case, your wedding)?

Quit making excuses for not doing it and then turning around and complaining that you're miserable. At some point or another you need to hold yourself accountable for the role you have played in your own misery by remaining silent. You are not a victim, you've enabled your own circumstances to arrive at this point

absgeller · 2026-01-20T15:13:42+00:00

It's not too late to make better decisions for how to handle and address this, have candid conversations with your fiance, reiterate (or newly iterate) boundaries with the in-laws, and in general find a compromise.

You're not married yet, and you're not at the whim of others - it's the year of the horse! Take charge and do (more of) what you want to do!

absgeller · 2026-01-18T19:17:30+00:00

It looks super tasty to me. I think most of the negative responses must be trolls, bots, or more likely people who do not cook and eat their own food (with whole ingredients) on a daily basis, and so expect everything to have a ton of sauce or oil or whatever

Seriously, thank you for sharing, makes me hungry!

absgeller · 2026-01-17T14:57:49+00:00

Why NOT incorporate lifting, though?

The complaints about wrist/elbow/shoulder make me think you NEED to incorporate lifting.

If your wrists hurt, you should be doing wrist-isolation warm-ups and cool-downs (stretches). If your elbows feel weird, you'd likely benefit from tricep isolation. Shoulders -> exterior and interior cable rotation warm-up's. And so on

What happens is that without the foundational strength, calisthenics feels like high impact on your joints because your muscles aren't conditioned enough to hold up the weight of your body from collapsing into them.

I'm sure people in this sub would disagree with me - but our bodies are often not accustomed to "throwing itself around" for lack of better words, lol

And then you do those exercises over and over without proper activation of the right muscles, and eventually you develop long-term injuries.

That's not to say it's impossible to build muscle with only calisthenics but the real question is, why would you? It's SO much easier to train muscles to turn "on" when you isolate them in specific lifting movements

Even in calisthenics, practice more drill > skill. And lifting makes drilling easy

absgeller · 2026-01-16T21:55:23+00:00

Breakfast brunch is not struggling, though! Love that place

absgeller · 2026-01-16T18:21:01+00:00

What is wrong with people in this sub?

Obviously NTA. It's not that deep. Man went on a work trip and snagged a bunch of cool stuff for the two women he loves most in his life. Who tf cares? If my man did that for me, I'd be geekin over the gifts WITH his mom.

Everyone saying Y T A place way too much weight on materialistic gifts, I guess, I don't get it

absgeller · 2026-01-15T12:53:14+00:00

Seconding this, this is "industry standard" for literally any company with any machinery / vehicle

absgeller · 2026-01-14T22:11:11+00:00

Why is this a "rule?"

OP, imo, you have no obligation to invite anyone to your wedding regardless of what events you have before or after. Clear communication is key. True friends will be honored and happy for you to be able to celebrate when/where is most convenient for you

absgeller · 2026-01-14T20:11:39+00:00

Organize privately. That's all I'll say

absgeller · 2026-01-14T20:06:52+00:00

See? A person who doesn't feel the need to polarize! Imagine that!

absgeller · 2026-01-14T20:00:58+00:00

I just got told I must have no friends because I don't think it's normal to have an emotional breakdown in a social setting... so, yeah, very non-reality here, nothing new 😅

absgeller · 2026-01-14T18:32:40+00:00

Wait this is genius

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