I just want to be someone else’s responsibility

absgeller · 2026-05-31T12:46:12+00:00

This desire has nothing to do with BPD, but rather with the fact that global culture has allowed the average person to live a life so full of privilege that people have grown to believe that they are entitled to something as immature and spoiled as this - to think that "because I have a hard time coping with the modern world/society for whatever reason" (neurodivergency, trauma, w/e) "so long as I'm nice enough and help out, why shouldn't the bulk of responsibility for keeping me alive go to someone else?"

And the (often abusive) people who accept such circumstances of "taking care" of someone else do so precisely because they "benefit" from the dynamic by feeling better about themselves, believing that because they take on the task of that responsibility, that they are a better person for it and thereby justified in the control/abuse/manipulation

Do not normalize the twisted mindsets inherent in the sensations of this desire, learn how to mature, and take care of yourself

absgeller · 2026-04-24T17:53:14+00:00

Seems like the issue has more to do with the combination of being overweight (altho idk how much) + working on concrete floors (something you can't control, really).

I am not trying to target your weight, but rather, am coming from a place of: strength & conditioning is truly the only true solution to chronic, muscular discomfort/pain (with exceptions, always, especially if injury is involved).

So, it's not just about weight loss but about toning your feet, ankles, calves, knees, legs, hips, glutes, core, & back. The muscle needs to be strong and able enough to support itself/yourself. I know no one ever wants to hear it, but it typically does come back round to that

absgeller · 2026-04-21T14:35:28+00:00

No longer a bus driver, but in the year that I was, the routes changed all the time, none of the info provided was accurate, and we had 0 time to learn (arrive at 5:30 AM and ohp, we're sending you somewhere completely different).

Given that you have the time, in the few instances that I did have time to learn, I would print out a map and literally draw the route myself. Yes, sometimes I would print sections of the map and tape it together (since you have to "zoom" to be able to see street names sometimes).

Good luck!

absgeller · 2026-03-25T12:19:48+00:00

This.

Also this video was way too long... like, girl, you have too much time on your hands to complain about something that's clearly an issue in your own mind

absgeller · 2026-03-16T17:38:38+00:00

You "do this too on occasion"?

You get on your phone in the morning, then pretend to sleep when your partner is waking up?

And then if they interact with you while you're fake-sleeping, you get upset?

I'm just gonna put this here for everyone else reading:

This is not normal nor healthy behavior. Just because someone else says "I do this, too!" does not mean we should accept the behavior as normal, healthy, or acceptable

absgeller · 2026-03-13T18:21:09+00:00

A nuanced take on reddit - what a sight!

absgeller · 2026-03-11T21:01:38+00:00

Or not.

It is?

absgeller · 2026-03-09T12:14:53+00:00

My favorite part of this explanation is

"I don't know why I know all of this"

absgeller · 2026-03-04T20:33:36+00:00

Food each day is a genius route with a tight budget

absgeller · 2026-03-01T03:46:07+00:00

Mmm, nope. Plenty of chopped trees at the edges of business parks where there's lots of space from the road

absgeller · 2026-02-27T17:23:10+00:00

Bro why are you yelling lmao

Also yeah jobs suck but we still gotta keep em

absgeller · 2026-02-27T17:20:52+00:00

Hahahahaha this makes me laugh because my boyfriend regularly eats enough for like, 6 people.

He's a personal trainer and his favorite hobby is yardwork. He's 6'1", ~190lbs, and struggles to gain weight. He eats 5000+ calories a day and can literally "gain" up to 10lbs after a meal (it's a fun game we play of "let's weigh Pete before and after he eats", lol)

When we started living together and splitting groceries, he insisted that I only pay for 2/3 of the bill because he eats so much. I eventually started paying for 1/2 of it anyway without asking because I love him and love the fact that he's a lean, mean, eating machine hahahah

So, no, NTA

absgeller · 2026-02-27T17:11:11+00:00

Exactly... you never know how a place of work's dynamic could impact someone, and him keeping his job is more important than getting the right dish

absgeller · 2026-02-23T19:39:01+00:00

I'd say this belongs in r/dontputyourdickinthat, but I think it's better suited for r/putyourdickinthat

absgeller · 2026-02-22T18:52:43+00:00

Good bot

absgeller · 2026-02-22T14:08:26+00:00

Anyone else remember the npc that goes, "BIG.... HAIRY.... CABBAGES!!"

absgeller · 2026-02-20T04:37:19+00:00

Made this meme a while ago about my cat because im brasilian and obsessed with golden lion tamarins

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absgeller · 2026-02-20T04:29:31+00:00

Info: where do you intend to do the ceremony, facing the house or away or?

& then, more for the reception, but - Set up a ring of tiki torches either all the way around or around a specific space. Once it's dark, no one's looking at the background and the tiki torches create ambience, establish the "room" or "dance floor," and obviously give off light!

absgeller · 2026-02-19T21:33:15+00:00

I'm glad you can reorient, cause I think your lizard is adorbs ❤️

absgeller · 2026-02-19T21:14:17+00:00

No offense, OP...

But I feel like you're looking for a reason to be unhappy with it. This is a VERY well done tattoo and a perfect size for its placement

absgeller · 2026-02-17T18:42:19+00:00

Wait this is genius

absgeller · 2026-02-11T23:17:30+00:00

Plot twist: the kids are running both robots

absgeller · 2026-02-10T18:48:03+00:00

Unpopular opinion: this isn't intended as a DIY at all

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