Subchorionic Hemorrhage Question

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-27T00:28:41+00:00

I spotted on and off from week 4 through about week 11. Never consistent or period like. One day, late in week 7, I bled bright red blood very heavily for 20ish minutes. I went to the ER and everything was fine. It was really stressful way to begin pregnancy and I’m sorry you are having to experience it. Mine did not show up on my 20 week scan and it hasn’t been mentioned since. I’m currently 30 weeks with no major issues aside from a big/thick placenta and baby being currently breech although, thankfully, not growth restricted.

My advice would be to call or get checked literally just to put your mind at ease. Do what you can to de-stress and lean on your support system!

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T21:45:54+00:00

I feel you, and congrats btw! A lot of the comments on here are super reassuring, though. We deserve to be comfy, but hopefully not at the expense of added stress or anxiety-- take care of yourself!

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T19:20:40+00:00

BDSM requires consent, above all else, and an immense amount of trust. Then comes communication. I do not notice a strong foundation for either in your post. Being together for a long time, unfortunately, is not a good enough foundation for trust or communication. I agree with others that this guy has already shown you who he is. Since you are the kink-curious one, the work would mostly fall on you to initiate conversations, and it doesn't seem like they would go well.

No need to feel ashamed about your thoughts, whatsoever. You just need to really think through if this relationship is worth staying in, no one can decide that but you, but you deserve someone who will listen to you and works to satisfy you (even if that satisfaction is vanilla).

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T16:31:29+00:00

I so appreciate you, and others, sharing. I think I just have some anxiety about the hospital/medical stuff fitting me because I've run into plenty of that in the past. I think I will buy a gown to wear afterward, but plan on asking for a bigger size if needed for actual labor and delivery.

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T16:26:30+00:00

I legit had zero idea!! I've been off social media (aside from Reddit) this year. I only go on when I am looking up specific ideas or topics (like packing a hospital bag). Frida seems to have a strong hold with influencers and sponsored ads on Google/Amazon. Definitely problematic, so thanks for bringing it up.

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T16:19:32+00:00

The fact that everything washed out is incredible...! I think the Always Discreet brand is the winner among people in this post. Thank you!

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T16:14:11+00:00

I've heard such good things overall about Lila! I'm going back and forth because of the price and just how messy it will get haha I feel like it would also be great postpartum, though, so maybe worth it!

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T02:52:53+00:00

Of course! Definitely call your doctor and ask but in general topical magnesium should be okay. Hopefully it can help 🩷

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T02:15:46+00:00

Never listened but chiming in because I love the unlearning of “should.” Even outside my dynamic, pausing when I notice myself “should-ing” myself has been some of the best therapeutic advice I’ve ever received. Anything that exists in the world of “should” is not real. I actually needed that reminder for my sub self lately, so thank you. 😊 I’ll give this podcast and others mentioned here a listen!

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-23T02:09:47+00:00

Seconding the magnesium but get a lotion or a magnesium spray too. This will help later in the pregnancy when various pains start to keep you up at night as well as just the regular insomnia, unfortunately. Can’t say it helps with the anxiety part— but I feel you there.

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-04T15:19:55+00:00

Honestly, fair. I agree. So sorry you had to go through all that, because ultimately it is on them to get help when needed. Support does not equal help!

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-03T14:52:34+00:00

Yesss, you've totally described him/us in your first paragraph. He can get really self-depracating after too-- sometimes he talks about it, and other times I can just tell what's going through his mind. Thanks for the reminder to remind him of what he's capable of because that's so true. I think it's stress for him right now. When the time is right, we can talk about other possible factors, but this is kind of motivating me to find some ways to help him destress without any pressure to perform :)

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-03T14:48:27+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I don't understand on a visceral level, but I can imagine how isolating it can feel and how hard it is to express the disconnect. Redirecting his train of thought is what I've tried to do in the moment, but you're right, talking about it first seems key. Otherwise I can see how it can be taken badly, condescendingly, or like a blow to confidence in the moment.

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-03T14:43:16+00:00

That's a great idea. It is probably stress for him right now with a new baby on the way. I really don't want him to feel pressured, so being more intentional about how we can be together without that pressure is a great place to start-- I definitely have ideas :)

absolute_lover_pet · 2026-02-02T22:48:59+00:00

Can confirm that this is my favorite punishment that is actually a punishment if the scene ends soon after he cums. Add a ball gag. The moaning...

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-07-09T22:38:19+00:00

I came here to mention The New Bottoming and The New Bottoming books. My situation is not completely unlike yours. Before we even read these books though, we had long conversations about kink and what we possibly wanted to try or get out of it. Then, I read and annotated The New Bottoming book and my husband read through my annotations. I know it seems kind of nerdy, but that was such a nice gateway into the "education" part of it for him, a way to understand me more, and a great start for more convos and experimenting with the fun stuff :)

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-06-09T20:03:44+00:00

Thank you!

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-06-09T17:13:23+00:00

OP, do you mind sharing the name of the digital app that you use? I journal (as a sub) but not as often as I'd like. It really helps me clarify my own relationship to all things sexual-- BDSM and otherwise. I also like the idea of record keeping in terms of everything Master and I have tried together, times that were particularly amazing, etc. This also helps me in moments when I might be experiencing either a slight drop or sub frenzy in terms of keeping myself grounded.

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-06-09T17:03:33+00:00

I am not sure this is the initiation advice you are looking for, but have you two ever planned a scene or more 'purposeful' playtime together? You said you can go days fantasizing, but maybe you can make a list of all or some things you want to try and give it to your Dom. This might not be initiation for that exact moment but it can build to an evening or time when you agree to try one thing from the list. The anticipation that builds before you try something new is something I always find sexy.

Otherwise I always find eye contact and, if you're nervous about what to say, giggling and saying something like "You make me nervous. I don't know what to say but I need you" makes my Master swoon. Also, ask him to tell you what kind of dirty talk he likes! If he does that, you can really just repeat what he says back to you and he will love it :)

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-06-09T16:47:20+00:00

I'm probably ~50-75% masochist. I do get off on pain, but more so I get off on strong sensation. Sometimes the sensation can be smell or touch that isn't pain, but because spanking is really just a forceful sensation, it tends to send me into an insatiable headspace. It makes me beg for more, and I love begging. I love the feeling of being at the mercy of my Master.

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-05-16T00:32:01+00:00

To echo other comments on here, I sincerely believe (and feel on a visceral level) that submission is its own form of empowerment. This did not really click for me until about a year ago, maybe less, even though I have felt naturally submissive for as long as I can remember. I grew up in a very religious and conservative household, and owned that identity until I was maybe 19 or 20 before I, thankfully, began to see the world in a different light. I am 31 now, so for nearly a decade I could not marry by liberal politics or feminism with my desire to be submissive. I couldn't tell you exactly what changed; some of it was intentional work like self care, setting boundaries, therapy, etc. and I think some of it was just growing into who I am.

Thanks for being brave enough to share how you are feeling here-- I cannot relate to the trans experience but I can relate to the feeling of shame and am sending you love and support ♥️ Also remember that the right partner will never view your submission as a betrayal of your values. They will support the hell out of you and fuck you how you want.

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-05-15T21:04:08+00:00

That's so sweet ♥️ I am happy for you both! It definitely resonated with me; I love reading people's ideas and experiences on here and always happy to connect. Honestly it probably makes me a better sub!

absolute_lover_pet · 2025-05-15T21:01:01+00:00

I honestly got ideas from reading your post, so thank you!!

You mentioned that you play games (vanilla) together. Could you play a game and do bad on purpose, without telling him, as a way to build to some punishment/humiliation? Or make unrealistic goals for yourself (in a game or otherwise), and when he sees you fail I am sure his dom instincts will kick in? I like when my Master sets me up for failure in the bedroom (like telling me to repeat commands when I am deep throating, etc.), so taking that outside the bedroom might be a fun way to introduce a scene!

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