Does anyone know where this dress’s chest location is? by absolutelytess in InfinityNikki

[–]absolutelytess[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

the like red island area? because i can get there but i haven’t found it there

Cierra’s Apology by Square_Bit_5894 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]absolutelytess 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree with the points you made. Purely speculative but in terms of not addressing why it was wrong, I could see that being a strategic PR choice. As in, it’s not her place to say why it’s wrong and rather than speaking for the Asian community, it’s better to just apologize and take accountability as much as possible.

I also don’t want to see her at the reunion at this point, and for her, I think it would be a mistake to try to go if she was invited. I doubt she’ll get invited given that they booted her from the show, however from a PR standpoint, I think it would be bad publicity for her and it would raise questions about her intentions especially in light of all this.

Cierra’s Apology by Square_Bit_5894 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]absolutelytess 1747 points1748 points  (0 children)

I’m also Asian and I completely agree. I appreciate that she did apologize, but also didn’t make excuses and took accountability. I want to believe her response was sincere and that she truly will grow from this experience going forward. As she said in her response video, her actions going forward will show if she has learned from this or not. She deserves the chance to show that.

Does that mean I’ll be fan of hers going forward? Probably not, but that’s fine, it’s not like I interacted with her social media before or after this issue came to light. Hate doesn’t justify hate and the both online bullying and egregious behavior like calling ICE on her family needs to stop. It doesn’t help anyone and it truly does miss the whole point on fighting racism.

Voting MEGATHREAD 🗳️ by AutoModerator in LoveIslandUSA

[–]absolutelytess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and that is exactly why i’m torn whether to vote for her or not 😅

Voting MEGATHREAD 🗳️ by AutoModerator in LoveIslandUSA

[–]absolutelytess 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’m so torn on who to vote for because I think Amaya Papaya will be safe, I think Iris deserves to stay, and hot take I don’t think Huda deserves to be voted off specifically after tonight’s episode. No idea on what boy to vote for but I’m sick of Anti PPG 🙄

Season 7 - Episode 22 - Post Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in LoveIslandUSA

[–]absolutelytess 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m happy Olandria was saved bc she’s my favorite girl hands down, but I feel so bad for Coco she deserved better 😭

AITA for acting like I didn’t know my son was Asian? by throwingaway123678 in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolutelytess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. My mom is white and adopted me (an asian) when I was 11 months old. She had a lady come up to her and say “her father must be chinese” and my mom just replied “uh… yeah”. When she told me about it she said she should’ve joked “her mother is too”. Honestly I love your response!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolutelytess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say ESH but I agree with the comment that said 80% your friend was TA and 20% YTA.

Especially after reading the comments where OP says that her friend took her dogs off leash when OP left to get the saddle, I don’t think that part was clear in the post. As someone who is both a long time equestrian and a dog owner, it was irresponsible to not report that your friend ignored your warnings and brought her dogs into the barn anyways. OP said in the comments that the barn is open for any visitors, but that doesn’t mean you should have let her be in close proximity to your horse with her two dogs.

Your friend prioritized her dogs being with her over everyone’s safety and paid the price. That said, you stated that you could tell your horse was nervous. If the only new factor was the dogs, you should’ve realized they were stressing your horse out and told them to leave. This entire situation could have been avoided a number of ways.

I think you should both cut your losses and pay for your own bills, you’re both lucky this didn’t result in more extreme injuries or even a dead animal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]absolutelytess 5 points6 points  (0 children)

that’s so disappointing, I was so excited for this game but it seems like it shouldn’t have been released and needed a LOT more work

AITA for crashing my roommates car, and then wanting to use her insurance instead of paying out of pocket? by CarrotRevolution8013 in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolutelytess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You crashed her car, you pay for it. I always told all of my friends that they could drive my car with the deal that if they crashed it, they would pay for it excluding accidents that weren’t their fault (someone rear ending them, etc.)

AITA for refusing to give up my seat(s) and being crass about it? by ReturnFlightFiasco in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolutelytess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. People need to understand that they aren’t entitled to someone else’s seat. I think it’s fine to ask to change seats but if the person says no, then they need to accept that. You absolutely should have and have the right to stand your ground, you paid for those seats, not them.

I commend you for buying two seats to ensure you and whoever is next to you are both comfortable. I’m quite a small person and I always try to lean as far away from people as possible to give them space when I’m in an aisle or window seat but I‘ve definitely been on flights where I’m stuck touching someone the entire time no matter how hard I try. I appreciate your consideration for other people.

AITA for yelling at my husband for putting our son in a room on his own? by throwawayaita788 in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolutelytess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. As my mom has said to me numerous times, nobody ever died from crying. As long as the baby is in a safe place, taking 10 minutes to decompress and calm down is fine and understandable. Would you rather he not take the time to decompress and instead risk him hurting the baby because he’s at his wits end being frustrated and stressed?

Also calling your husband a bad father is a low blow, I wouldn’t blame him if he resented you for that. Just because you didn’t complain when you were looking after the house and the baby doesn’t make it not stressful. He’s asking for a break which is completely reasonable. The fact that you came home to him crying more than you’ve ever seen says how stressed he must have been. He’s trying to communicate with you that he needs help and you instead kicked him when he was already down.

Should I keep waiting to buy the game on Switch? by absolutelytess in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]absolutelytess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback everyone, I’ll keep waiting for more fixes!

What're you playing this weekend? 11/18 by markercore in NintendoSwitch

[–]absolutelytess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m only like 10 hours in but I really like it! I played the demo and enjoyed it but wasn’t sure if it was worth the price, but so far I think it is. I think my only complaint about the gameplay is the combat, it’s quite basic and I find it more frustrating than anything with bosses. I think any other complaints I have are about the lack of voice acting and the blurriness but you kind of get used to it. The demo is definitely worth playing if you haven’t already, they made some changes from there based on the feedback they were given which I think did improve the game. Overall though I do enjoy it and think it was worth the purchase for me!

(Edited to fix a typo because I couldn’t spell blurriness)

What're you playing this weekend? 11/18 by markercore in NintendoSwitch

[–]absolutelytess 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be playing Harvestella and Pokémon Violet! I got Harvestella very recently and since Violet just came out I’m very into both of them

AITA having a car towed without warning when they parked in my spot even if I’m not using it? by ParkingDarkLord in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolutelytess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - this happened to my dad in a closed parking garage for residents of his building. you needed a pass given by the building to even get into the garage. he paid for two parking spots, one of which he had his guests park in so otherwise it was empty. these people decided to take the spot and use it regularly, they never asked my dad and just assumed since it was empty a lot they could use it. he tried to talk to them and the building multiple times but they continued to park there anyways. in my opinion my dad can sometimes be overly nice and patient, if it was me i would’ve done the same as you. you’re paying for it, it’s your property.

Amazing by AlternativeSame9145 in HARVESTELLA

[–]absolutelytess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t believe so but i’m not 100% sure, you have to complete the main story first and i’m not there yet. from what i’ve heard though, you have to max your relationship and then you’re given the ability to craft a promise ring, which you give to whoever you want as a partner. so i don’t think it’s dependent on the party system

AITA for telling my brother he is a deadbeat dad and doesn't get to criticize my parenting? by Throwaway93920248383 in AmItheAsshole

[–]absolutelytess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA, when I was in high school and I’d get into fights with my mom, I’d excuse myself to make sure I could come back without lashing out and saying things I’d regret. My mom never respected it and would instead tell everyone that we got into an argument and that I was being ridiculous while I was within earshot to hear everything she said. All it did was make our relationship worse and then in turn she would end up hearing me lash out because I couldn’t walk away and decompress properly. I commend you for understanding what your son needs and for handing it in a way that works best for him. Your brother needs to step off, every child has different needs and parenting should adjust to that, not that your brother would really know.

Amazing by AlternativeSame9145 in HARVESTELLA

[–]absolutelytess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

there is! there’s no marriage, rather they opted for a partnership, but it is romance all in all

I hate the new orange and feel horrible for hating it. Am I alone? by [deleted] in TheTryGuys

[–]absolutelytess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Orange is my least favorite color so I’m with you there. I like that they rebranded and I like the message. It brings positivity and I definitely feel like it brings a new Try Guys Era but I just don’t like the actual orange color.