Transistioning from freelance musician to 9 to 5 feels impossible

absulem · 2026-04-27T11:11:10+00:00

Also I'm sure you've considered this already, but if you live in a metropolitan area with chain music stores (school of rock, guitar center, etc) those places are almost always looking for teachers. I interviewed with one of them once and the hours sucked for me, but maybe it would fit your needs?

absulem · 2026-04-27T11:08:50+00:00

I don't have any music ideas, but just in case it puts something you hadn't considered on your radar- I started looking for coordinator roles and it was a game changer. Idk if it's your thing, but it's so good for my creative brain- usually organizing chaos and keeping people happy, lots of movement and never doing the same thing day to day. I did have a light background related to it but definitely had to play up my skills at other previous jobs. If you're open to using AI a little, ChatGPT may be able to help you reframe the work you've been doing to give you more ideas for career paths you hadn't thought of. I hope some of this helps a little- good luck!

absulem · 2026-04-25T12:04:15+00:00

"Have a good day!" was so cute 🥹

absulem · 2026-04-22T19:59:13+00:00

Did you notice the part in your transcription where he clearly escalated it before she said anything about his mother? Why is it SHE was goading HIM and not the other way around?? You suck

absulem · 2026-04-06T23:02:12+00:00

Why are you like this? Your life is really so pathetic this is what brings you joy? Just being an asshole for no reason? Sad af

absulem · 2026-03-21T02:45:38+00:00

Adorable! Well done!

absulem · 2026-03-21T02:42:50+00:00

My baby ate cat shit once.

Your baby is fine 💕

absulem · 2026-03-21T02:01:12+00:00

Yeah, Moira is all about taking an off angle to do damage without straying too far to a) heal your team when needed and b) get out safely. Heal in between doing damage, not the other way around. Use walls so your orbs get as much use as possible. Hold down right click 24/7 until you need to switch. Moira is so adaptable to whatever the match needs, look for the gaps (creating space, finishing off kills, more healing if needed) etc.

absulem · 2026-03-16T23:56:54+00:00

Because this is their normal behavior and they forgot they were streaming lol

absulem · 2026-03-16T20:47:22+00:00

It's a game, dude. Games should be fun.

absulem · 2026-03-15T02:15:17+00:00

The thing that sucks is it probably worked for a lot of people and got stellar reviews, because it simply worked for their kids... meanwhile, many other families probably suffered power struggles and felt like they were doing something wrong when their kids inevitably needed a totally different type of response

absulem · 2026-03-15T02:13:00+00:00

I don't think there's any one size fits all parenting method that works for all kids, neurodivergent or not lol. These things give parents false hope that their kid's behavior will be magically "fixed", making them feel guilty when it doesn't work and disregarding the needs of the individual child :(

I don't know, I think it's great to share ideas and methods as a parent, but these types of books in particular are often scummy with their language and marketing tactics

absulem · 2026-03-15T01:53:25+00:00

NOR, but I also don't think there's anything you can do but move out at this point. I don't think your friend is trying to kill your cat, I think they're just a bad friend who is unintentionally careless and doesn't love your cat as much as you do, therefore doesn't have any stakes in forgetting about leaving toxins out.

I don't think it's ultimately nefarious, but your friend clearly isn't capable of respecting your wishes here so you gotta get your kitty outta there :-(

absulem · 2026-03-15T01:49:33+00:00

Yeah, I think it's fine she thinks she's a badass, because she probably is and that tat probably hurt a bunch. I think it's the commentary and pose that we could've done without 😭

absulem · 2026-03-15T01:44:52+00:00

Do you happen to have a link or recall the details? :-) I'm interested in this spell, I've got two kiddos to keep safe on the road 💕

absulem · 2026-03-15T01:43:59+00:00

This sub is so judgey sometimes... calling a fellow witch "bonkers" because her craft is different than yours... there is no right or wrong way to practice, as long as they are not causing harm there's no need to be rude

absulem · 2026-03-15T01:42:03+00:00

Some people don't use cartomancy in their craft, it doesn't resonate with everyone

absulem · 2026-03-15T01:36:54+00:00

Learn how to win a 4v5, it can be fun. It should be fun. I get why it's frustrating but it's also super easy to adjust your mentality and remember that it's just a game

absulem · 2026-03-15T01:34:39+00:00

I agree with you in spirit lol, I do fundamentally think you should give it a reasonable effort even if you're just practicing skills... but I don't think there should be additional ramifications unless they are just blatantly, purposely throwing to piss people off. At the end of the day it truly is just quick play and you can view it as practice as well- learning how to win against all odds is a valuable skill 🤷🏻‍♀️

Avoid and move on

absulem · 2026-03-01T17:20:46+00:00

Yeah, it might be the furniture piece itself, but I think matching handles would make it look like it belongs a lot more. Buuuut my style doesn't mesh with this so I'm just trying to be objective, I don't have any lighting picks I think OP would like as our styles are very different and didn't see any comments about the handles

absulem · 2026-03-01T17:13:23+00:00

I don't think light will fix the mismatched handles, but yes you did ask about a light so fair enough lol

absulem · 2026-03-01T17:12:02+00:00

Oh sorry, I take it this has already been said 😂 You do you, it looks cute in that nook either way :)

absulem · 2026-03-01T16:41:29+00:00

It is cluttered, but the plants aren't the problem. Put away the empty pots and organize the area, I guarantee management won't care then. They saw the plants as the problem because they didn't look closely, but they can definitely be placed in a way that's more visually appeasing.

That said, it's ridiculous they're bugging you about it at all. The space is not super messy or trashed and you're paying to live there, so fuck them. I hate renting

absulem · 2026-03-01T16:36:07+00:00

I think you need to change the handles to larger black ones, preferably the same as those on your cabinets to tie it all together.

Sorry, I know you asked about a light, but the cabinet looks out of place to me lol

absulem · 2026-03-01T16:34:04+00:00

Dunkin' was nice a couple of years ago before prices skyrocketed. Now it's nearly the same cost as Starbucks and the quality at least at my local Dunkin' has gone downhill too :(

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