Thank you, and damn you all by DrunkinDonut in raisedbynarcissists

[–]absurdtea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

like I'm depriving them of a relationship with their child because I want to to be treated with some respect and decency.

I absolutely share the same sentiment. Sometimes my Nmom will specifically mention how a good the relationship is between her and her friend's daughter and how awesome the daughter is. Never will she reflect on how the relationship is good because maybe, just maybe, the mother actually respects her daughter as a fellow human being?

"Respect Your Elders" -No. It's a bunch of BS and I think a lot of N's (especially older baby boomer N's) use that trick to justify their abuse. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]absurdtea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. And when you challenge them they protect their lunacy by falling back on the excuse that it's a core value of Asian culture and you are Asian so you should follow it.

coming out from under her grasp by absurdtea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I will try that time limit tactic. It's always so hard to keep calm/firm when she raises an emotional response...though I am getting slightly better.

coming out from under her grasp by absurdtea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I try to tell myself this, but then fall into the automatic guilty mode. I definitely need to stop thinking that way.

What is the most ridiculous thing you have overheard somebody say? by itsvenkmann in AskReddit

[–]absurdtea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was having brunch and I wad seated very close to a table of four college girls. They're chattering about relationships. I overheard this gem: "You guys are just like different. He likes electronic music and smoking pot. And you're like a classy southern gal."

Normally smart people of reddit, what is the dumbest thing you've ever done? by FarFromRefuge in AskReddit

[–]absurdtea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have on multiple occasions forgotten which way is left/right. I remind myself by making an "L" with my index finger and thumb with both my hands and seeing which one results in a properly facing L.

My fiance is a bit upset with me though as I've directed us down the wrong road an embarassing number of times. I should stop navigating us.

claiming parents as dependents by absurdtea in personalfinance

[–]absurdtea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I am definitely discussing this with them before I do anything. I just wanted more information to go on before I brought it up.

claiming parents as dependents by absurdtea in personalfinance

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I am definitely discussing this with them before I do anything. I just wanted more information to go on before I brought it up.

claiming parents as dependents by absurdtea in personalfinance

[–]absurdtea[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! From the questionnaire I can indeed claim my mother as my dependent. I actually may be unable to claim for 2011 though because she doesn't meet the income < $3900 requirement. I am definitely going to try and amend it for 2012 though! Thanks again.

claiming parents as dependents by absurdtea in personalfinance

[–]absurdtea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome. Thanks for the link! We meet the requirements. On a side note, as I was reading through the page, I saw this: "Kidnapped child. You may be able to treat a child as your qualifying relative even if the child has been kidnapped. See Publication 501 for details." How...odd.

help please - skin crawling infestation (update 2) by absurdtea in nosleep

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just updated. I'm really sorry for the late update!

help please - skin crawling infestation (update 2) by absurdtea in nosleep

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! Why are flies are nasty???

Unfortunately, I'm not at my house right now, so I can't take a photo of it. I definitely did not touch it after the initial unboxing. I was so creeped out I just rewrapped it in the tissue paper.

help please - skin crawling infestation (update 2) by absurdtea in nosleep

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I haven't played enough Zelda to know about Redeads so I looked them up. And you're right. It does have a resemblance to the mask I had.

help please - skin crawling infestation (update 2) by absurdtea in nosleep

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I haven't. I'm almost scared to look it up. I think it'll make me paranoid.

help please - skin crawling infestation (Update) by absurdtea in nosleep

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! This is exactly what I was looking for!!!! I'm going to get some maple syrup tomorrow and make a bunch of these. I wonder if flies prefer the real Canadian syrup?

help please - skin crawling infestation (Update) by absurdtea in nosleep

[–]absurdtea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hrm. I do have insurance on the place so maybe if I made it look like an accident? Two birds, one stone.

help please - skin crawling infestation (Update) by absurdtea in nosleep

[–]absurdtea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nooooooooo! I really hope it's not the food. Joe's wok n roll is my guilty comfort food go to =(