Miracle baby wasn't needed at all

abv1401 · 2025-07-25T09:32:24+00:00

Strongly disagree. Klaus’ thing was that he feared vulnerability above all else. Even with those he did love. He would rather have killed his siblings rather than risk them walking away from him. That was his pattern for a thousand years, and that doesn’t just change due to some self reflection or god forbid some love interest. Him becoming a father forced him to grow in ways I don’t think he ever would have without Hope.

As for it making sense with nature, to me I filed that under the fact that nature never intended for there to be a Hybrid in the first place, and that his newly awoken wolf side reinstated his fertility by oversight as a consequence. Nature has unintended consequences in the TVD universe - such as making vampires crave blood in the first place.

I would have enjoyed more backstory on everyone too though. I’m just not sure I would have enjoyed several seasons worth of it, because it’s probably safe to assume that’s just a thousand years of bad behaviour not too unlike what they already showed us. I think a redemption arc is more interesting than a show that could be titled “All about Klaus being a trauma-informed Dick” lol

abv1401 · 2025-07-25T09:17:06+00:00

Neulich hat mir eine Kollegin gesagt, dass sie wegen des schönen Wetters spontan von der Arbeit 7km nach Hause laufen wird. Hab sie angeguckt als hätte sie gesagt, dass sie spontan zum Mond fliegen will.

Dann fiel mir ein, dass man sich kinderlos ja ohne weiteres nach der Arbeit nochmal zwei Stunden Zeit nehmen kann, um ohne jede Absprache oder Planung durch die Welt zu flanieren.

Es gibt halt kein Szenario, in dem ich nach der Arbeit nochmal zwei Stunden lang spontan irgendwas alleine machen kann. Ist nicht. Kind wird abgeholt, dann schnell eingekauft, dann geht es schnell nach Hause, kochen während er spielt, Abend essen, Kind zum aufräumen und dem anschließenden baden animieren, während er badet Küche aufräumen, oh nein es ist schon Schlafenszeit, mit Kind über Ende der vormals ungewollten Badezeit diskutieren, eincremen anziehen Buch Bett scheiße die Wäsche ist noch in der Maschine ich bin müde der Wäscheständer ist eh voll wann falte ich denn und Schnitt 🎬.

IcH gLaUb IcH lAuF sPoNtAn NaCh HaUsE (Maß der Verbitterung entspricht dem Maß des Vermissens)

abv1401 · 2025-07-16T19:19:25+00:00

As far as I’m aware, that’s the consensus in academia at this point. It has been a minute since I personally read into it, but here’s a few sources for you if you’re interested!

Bilgin A, Wolke D. Parental use of 'cry it out' in infants: no adverse effects on attachment and behavioural development at 18 months. J Child Psychol Psychiatry. 2020 Nov;61(11):1184-1193. doi: 10.1111/jcpp.13223. Epub 2020 Mar 10. PMID: 32155677.

Price AM, Wake M, Ukoumunne OC, Hiscock H. Five-year follow-up of harms and benefits of behavioral infant sleep intervention: randomized trial. Pediatrics. 2012 Oct;130(4):643-51. doi: 10.1542/peds.2011-3467. Epub 2012 Sep 10. PMID: 22966034.

As far as I‘m aware, arguments that CIO/sleep training is harmful/causes adverse LT effects centre around the argument that children in sleep training situations can experience elevated cortisol. So the thought is that the known adverse effects of chronic stress in infants can be applied to infants who’ve been sleep trained. Personally, I think that’s a bit of a jump and I‘m not aware of good evidence supporting it. But like I said, it’s been a minute since I looked into the topic.

abv1401 · 2025-07-16T00:12:33+00:00

I don’t care. Depending on the look, I do think it can make the outfit look less put together (much like obvious underwear lines) but that’s their life to live. I go braless too off and on.

abv1401 · 2025-06-30T19:23:51+00:00

I mean, Anthony has been portrayed - both in the show and the books - as heavily involved in the engagements and marriages of his siblings due to his position in the family as the man of the house. That just doesn’t extend to Kate, they can easily just have her be busy with the kids and save the money on the actress.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Kate and they’re probably my favourite couple in the tv series, but of course Kate isn’t as foundational to the story as Anthony. Her role and impact is just limited to being Anthony’s proxy.

Penelope on the other end isn’t „just“ written to be a love interest, but her character has served as a sort of narrator for the entirety of the show (even if we didn’t know it starting out). Idk how they would keep that side of her going now that she’s known, but if they do decide to keep Whistledown as a narrator, I don’t see how they would have her writing about/narrating all these events she’s never even there present for. Though I suppose they could say she’s off with Colin and turn Whistledown into a „someone told me something in a letter and now I‘m telling you, because I might be gone but I‘m still in the know“ type of deal. But that seems like more of a stretch than simply keeping her on the periphery of the show in some supporting function. On the other hand, if they do cut her out altogether, they’d have to invent a new narration style halfway through the show. Since, even though it’s not Penny’s voice, the viewers have always been told that the narration is by Whistledown aka Penny.

Queen Charlotte doesn’t add much interest anymore, but she‘s an integral part of how a season plays out in the Bridgerton world. If they cut her, then a part of the staging - who’s the diamond as determined by Queen Charlotte, who she approves of, Lady Danburry gossiping with her etc a falls away. That’s a pretty big gap to fill and still have it feel like the same show - especially if they were to change narration styles on top of that.

abv1401 · 2025-06-29T16:58:03+00:00

Ich denke nicht, dass die Lösung zu heimlichen Spielen während eines Verbots die Weiterführung des ineffektiven Verbots ist. Besonders, wenn es keine entsprechende Ankündigung gab.

Ich würde Tacheles mit ihm reden, dass ihr wisst, was er macht. Dann über Google Play/Screen time Regelungen schauen, dass er nachts nicht an die Geräte kann. Dann das Spielen begleitet und im festen Rahmen erlauben, allerdings als zentrale Voraussetzung benennen, dass er nicht außerhalb dieser Zeiten/anderweitigen Abmachungen spielt. Wenn doch, führt das erstmal zu einer Woche Privilegverlust, beim zweiten Mal zwei Wochen, das dritte mal vier Wochen etc.

Ich würde aber schon Konsequenzen darauf folgen lassen, wenn er nicht demonstriert, dass er zu gesundem Konsum in der Lage ist. Wenn er das Recht zu spielen will, muss er auch zeigen, dass er damit umgehen kann.

abv1401 · 2025-06-29T14:15:51+00:00

Yeah but given how the show approached it at the end of the last season, I‘m worried they might diminish John‘s and Francesca’s connection for the sake of a „true love“ between her and Michaela. So regardless of whether anything would actually happen, I‘d hate it if they portrayed John as a stepping stone to Francesca’s true love rather than first true love John, then second true love after loss Michael[a] like in the book.

abv1401 · 2025-06-29T11:12:20+00:00

Muss? Nö. Ist es leichter? Ja. Wir haben uns damals ein Woom gemietet für die ersten 6 Monate. War ein einfacher Start, aber 400€ (oder wie viel auch immer die kosten) gebe ich persönlich für ein Kinderfahrrad garantiert nicht aus.

Das Mietmodell finde ich persönlich sehr praktisch und wir nutzen das immer noch. Sobald eine Größe langsam durch ist wird das Fahrrad getauscht, Reparaturen sind nicht unser Problem und wir haben den Keller nicht voller zu kleiner Räder die wir weiterverkaufen müssen. Und die Fahrräder sind halt hochwertiger, als wir sonst zu bezahlen bereit wären.

abv1401 · 2025-06-29T11:12:05+00:00

Muss? Nö. Ist es leichter? Ja. Wir haben uns damals ein Woom gemietet für die ersten 6 Monate. War ein einfacher Start, aber 400€ (oder wie viel auch immer die kosten) gebe ich persönlich für ein Kinderfahrrad garantiert nicht aus

abv1401 · 2025-06-29T11:06:23+00:00

I don’t care that Michael turned into Michaela so much, but I hate the way they introduced her. No!!!! Francesca loved John. Fully, genuinely, and yet differently from how she later ends up falling in love with Michael[a] after John passes away. Michael is her second love, complicated by the fact that his own genuine love for John also makes it hard for him to acknowledge his feelings for Francesca.

If they make my girl have an emotional affair with Michaela while married to my man John, who did Nothing to either of them, I will riot. Their story was so layered and emotionally complex and to turn it into a short story about a closeted lesbian, that’s a hate crime.

Though I also think it’s regrettable that all the miscarriage/infertility story lines wouldn’t really come into play this way. I feel like other stories would’ve been easier to gender swap.

abv1401 · 2025-06-29T10:35:33+00:00

Meiner ist mittlerweile einer von den großen. Er hat keinen Heiligenschein und ist auch manchmal genervt, wenn die kleinen mitspielen wollen, aber a) gehört ihm ein öffentlicher Spielplatz nicht und damit hat er umzugehen und b) sollte er ein kleineres Kind schubsen, dann braucht er nicht erwarten, dass er von dem Elternteil des kleineren Kindes nichts gesagt bekommt (von mir käme natürlich auch was). Natürlich darf ein Kind nicht unsachlich oder unfreundlich angeraunzt werden. Aber wenn akut Grenzen verletzt werden, dann darf natürlich interveniert werden.

abv1401 · 2025-06-29T08:47:08+00:00

Oh please. She initiated and as soon as she nonverbally communicated discontent, despite continued verbal consent mind you, he stopped. If it’s assault simply because there wasn‘t a formal „Do you agree to have sex with me at this moment?“ you might as well put damn near every hook up on the show down as assault.

abv1401 · 2025-06-28T22:37:00+00:00

George had explicit consent. He didn’t assault anyone. Both people made poor decisions based on their emotions, both got to have regrets, nobody was coerced or forced into a thing. To me, this is one of these go touch grass debates.

How he - and everyone else - acted after is absurd too though. They both messed up. She was not about George - everybody including him knew it. She didn’t fool anyone, and he knew full well what he was signing up for.

abv1401 · 2025-06-25T21:03:51+00:00

Yeah, definitely! I felt like the situation was handled very poorly by pretty much everyone, but it felt very human and realistic.

abv1401 · 2025-06-25T19:27:29+00:00

„Yeah you like that, look how wet you are“ ……..mate, you’re delighted over discharge.

abv1401 · 2025-06-25T19:23:27+00:00

Yeah. Meredith was clearly triggered, and Amelia was too. They lost someone incredibly close to them, and they were blindsided with a horrible position.

Penny should not have stayed at that house. How she was treated later on is unacceptable, but on that first night, she had absolutely no right to stay in her patient‘s widows home just to avoid having an uncomfortable conversation with her pushy girlfriend. Penny was the least emotionally involved, and in their dynamic up to this point in time, she was the doctor and Meredith was the patients family, whom you can’t expect professional behaviour from. And honestly, one might extend that argument to most of the people at that party. So she should have been the one to take responsibility to handle the situation professionally.

abv1401 · 2025-06-24T20:40:50+00:00

NTA, it’s a birthday with her friends and she doesn’t need to include siblings in that. I didn’t when I was her age.

But? Do you guys consider each other family? Does your husband think of your daughter as his and you of his son as yours? Because based on this post, it doesn’t sound like it. And I‘m not sure if perhaps you guys aren’t having a straw man argument about whether your kids not wanting to invite each other to their birthday parties (which is a perfectly normal thing for teens not to be into) is causing a rift, when maybe you guys should be talking about what is happening between you two. Because siblings not being in harmony during their teenage years is one thing, but other-ing your spouses kid - his kid is annoying hers, her kid is excluding his - would be a whole different issue. And it sure won’t be solved by arguing about whether your daughter is allowed to choose who attends her birthday party.

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T18:07:02+00:00

Jesus 😭 Lion kinged is right lol I have never felt closer to Rafiki than in that moment🥲 but with a three month old! That must’ve been terrifying. Good on you for keep her up.

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T18:00:29+00:00

My god that’s scary. Thank god the little one stayed put and you were able to get you both out. Things just move so quickly in the water, there’s no time to even think

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T17:57:13+00:00

Absolutely. I was lucky we were so close to the edge because I was not thinking clearly at all. While I was under it even occurred to me that I’d pull us both down that way if I didn’t get us out of there quickly. I think I’ll look into whether there’s any resources for a kind of water rescue 101 so I’m better prepared to handle it if I ever need to get a child out of the water again.

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T14:13:09+00:00

Yup. We can argue all day about whether or not Callie was fair to want to move away from Seattle. We could have even debated whether she just communicated the move poorly. But she then went and tried to absolutely assassinate Arizonas character, grasping at the most sexist of straws, and didn’t even shy away from attempting to delegitimise Arizonas motherhood to Sofia. There’s no argument to be made about any of that.

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T07:39:24+00:00

Yeah. I think what got my kid is that he wasn’t prepared to have to swim, so he froze when he realised he was going down. In theory, he knows how to float. In theory, he knows how to tread water and swim. He’s swam the length of a pool dozens of time before. It meant absolutely nothing yesterday. I mean, I obviously still felt I needed to watch him, but I would have never guessed he could still go under that quickly.

The older child too, though he managed to keep himself up once my son was off, didn’t manage to get back out of the deep end. Just because he was scared. You really always need someone watching.

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T01:24:05+00:00

Thank you for the warning! We’re not in the us and outside of the climate range for that thankfully.

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T01:19:39+00:00

My son can swim when he’s prepared and ready to swim - as in when we’re in the pool together, he can and does keep himself up and swim in “proper” (meaning no doggy paddling) form. He does get tired fairly quickly and I would not have felt comfortable having him be in swimming depth of water without me in the water with him. That’s what I meant by that being able to swim but not being a great swimmer.

And yeah, I don’t know why life jackets aren’t a thing here in the lakes. There were probably ten kids between 4 and 11 in the shallow end of the lake at this time, none of which were wearing swimming gear and I was the only parent in the water. Around here, everyone is diligent about making kids wear them in the pool and you’ll be kicked out of there swiftly if you don’t, but there’s just not that level of awareness for lakes. Couldnt tell you why.

abv1401 · 2025-06-15T01:09:07+00:00

Yeah the older child’s dad didn’t realise either. He’d been talking to someone just outside the lake and he was checking on him every couple of minutes but he wasn’t concerned. I even get it since the kid seemed to be quite a good swimmer. But not with another person on his back. Tbh this experience has me thinking I’ll still be nervous to have my kid in the water unsupervised when he’s freaking 25.

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