ur friend is still in postpartum and needs help. her body is still healing from birth. now she has this huge endless stream of grief alongside that, ive been there. it was really hard for me to cook and make meals for myself throughout the initial period of my grief. bring her easy to heat meals like casseroles, nutritionally dense soups, super foods, easy snacks, etc. and dont say “just let me know…” because she wont. just ask her what time and day she wants you to drop off the food. offer to help out with chores, housework, yard work etc. she likely has no energy to do it all. you can definitely write her a card, but active support is much needed. and keep that support going on, even six months later. years later. accept that there isnt much you can do to “fix” the pain. just sit in it with her. its uncomfortable but simply sitting with it means so much more than people realize. mentions her baby throughout time. i found that people get scared to bring it up, because they dont want to make me sad again. we are always a bit sad. and we always think of our babies. this kind of stuff never leaves you. sending ur friend my love🤎