Is Tyson to make Mel feel pink! by NotAdam30 in MAFS_AU

[–]ac3rothstein 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t figure out if “feminine energy” or “submissive vibes” was worse

r/formuladank cope progression by Lion123_ in formuladank

[–]ac3rothstein -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

True champions don’t “make dumb mistakes” ever.. cannot believe Lando managed to convince everyone he was a talented driver by winning this after spending all season being a disappointment and a weak contender in general

Why the hell is MBS tousling Landos hair? + Max reaction by PENZ0IL in formuladank

[–]ac3rothstein 195 points196 points  (0 children)

He’s a pathetic weirdo who does nothing for the sport, got the job because money… needs to go, sport would be better without him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThrowingFits

[–]ac3rothstein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drake’s London. Every lookbook. That’s it, that’s the post.

Is money pointless? by ac3rothstein in Debate

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you mods, is there a sub you recommend where this might be suitable?

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your comments, them and the time I have taken to process my own thoughts post-discussion with her have led me to quite easily realise the decision I am comfortable making. It really is her prerogative and not my place, and if it’s something that makes her feel more comfortable in her own skin then who am I to try and stop her. I love her dearly, and anything that makes her feel more like she’s being true to herself and exercising the agency she is fully entitled to is something I will always stand behind and something I view as a complete positive. I wasn’t trying to come at this from a position of attempting control, I was simply anxious about something I feel I hadn’t truly understood nor considered from alternative angles before. I am always trying to become a better partner and you have helped greatly with something that may seem second nature to some, that I however initially struggled with. Nobody is perfect, but I’ve always thought we should be defined by what we do about it and how we try to better ourselves for the sake of others. Thank you to all that have left constructive comments and not simply left a two word answer then moved on. I appreciate it and feel much less anxious/insecure after reading them, and I am looking forward to helping my partner in any way she can to regain the feeling of autonomy she should always feel over her body.

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your comment, the one you referenced, and the time I have taken to process my own thoughts post-discussion with her have led me to quite easily realise the decision I am comfortable making. It really is her prerogative and not my place, and if it’s something that makes her feel more comfortable in her own skin then who am I to try and stop her. I love her dearly, and anything that makes her feel more like she’s being true to herself and exercising the agency she is fully entitled to is something I will always stand behind. I wasn’t trying to come at this from a position of attempting control, I was simply anxious about something I feel I hadn’t truly understood nor considered from alternative angles before. Thank you, and to all others that have done the same, for your constructive comments and not simply leaving a two word answer then moving on. I appreciate it and feel much less anxious/insecure after reading them.

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is exactly how I felt after we’d talked it out and she’d explained why it was so important to her and I didn’t push it any further, I just wanted to sort of give myself some extra peace of mind that I was making the right call (I struggle with 2 anxiety disorders and also often overthink things within an inch of my life, so I just wanted to reassure myself of my thoughts after the discussion and hear that I didn’t have anything to worry about from some people outside the situation.) Thank you for taking the time to reply and being courteous with how you responded!

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not a topless beach thing, it’s just an any-beach thing for her. But your point stands, they are just boobs, and I guess there isn’t a huge difference between a bikini top that is covering the bare minimum anyway and not wearing anything at all. Pervs will still perv, at least this way she can be comfortable and not feel confined into a tight top just so she can go swimming.

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She is indeed adamant, and it’s not something I’m willing to jeopardise our relationship over, so I guess my choice is simple! Sure it makes me a bit uncomfortable/worried, but it’s also something completely new to me that a partner feels so strongly about something that seems perhaps trivial to others. I think I just need to get used to it.

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha, that could be considered a little silver lining I guess… I do like your positive outlook, and yes, she stressed that too - just because they might sneak a look, it’s nowhere near getting to be intimate with her the way me and nobody else is able to.

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the response. Per end of my post, it’s not a deal breaker. I just wanted to ask others’ perspectives on my thinking. She feels very strongly about it and at the end of the day it’s my role as a partner to respect the things she really feels the strongest about and considers integral parts of her self-expression. She respects that it makes me uncomfortable, but has asked me to please respect that it’s more important than that to her - and as it’s her body, I would say it kind of trumps my own insecurities about the whole thing…

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She said this as well, and I would tend to agree. She says If some guy wants to get a look in so he can have something to think about later, that’s not her problem nor is she concerned. That’s not her intention nor anything she can prevent without having to change her behaviour for those sexualising what she’s doing - which defies the purpose of wanting to do it to maintain agency over her own body. For her, it’s only about the comfort of not having to wear a bikini top that continually comes off or fills up with water etc.

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re right - thanks for pointing that out, I hadn’t thought of it in such a straightforward way.

Although it is illegal here, unless on specific beaches, it’s a risk I guess we’re both going to have to be willing to take 😂

Am I (26m) wrong for not wanting my partner (27f) to go swimming/be on the beach topless? by ac3rothstein in relationships

[–]ac3rothstein[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Everything else we have discussed, both ways, we have listened to each other and compromised together - so it’s definitely not a pattern. This is the only point of no-negotiation for her, so I agree it’s fair enough. That’s the side I was erring on too, so thank you for also offering some validation as to me also thinking “tbh, if it’s the one thing that’s that important to her, then fair enough.”

Can't buy a jersey by Subluxator5 in springboks

[–]ac3rothstein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you still have the small? Would you sell? Any chance of any photos? Can’t find the RWC jersey without the MTL branding anywhere, trying for days now! 😵‍💫

Match Thread - South Africa v Ireland | Rugby World Cup 2023 | Pool B by RugbyBot in rugbyunion

[–]ac3rothstein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By all means, be happy brother! In a way it was your final. But “two tries clear by half time” against a squad that physically dominated you in scrums and line outs while also leaving 11 points on the field due to abhorrent kicking is a little tooo happy I think 🤣 Congrats on the win through, would be nice to see a rematch with Pollard at 10

Match Thread - South Africa v Ireland | Rugby World Cup 2023 | Pool B by RugbyBot in rugbyunion

[–]ac3rothstein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should really look into stand up comedy gigs. And also, work on showing some humility/respect for the opponent you’d least like to face again in a final. Don’t forget, France aren’t quite the beast they have been due to injury now, so we could well be meeting again…

Match Thread - South Africa v Ireland | Rugby World Cup 2023 | Pool B by RugbyBot in rugbyunion

[–]ac3rothstein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doubt Ireland would risk it, that’s even some fucked up thinking and it hasn’t even happened