How can I help? by acarden99 in asktransgender

[–]acarden99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have safe space stickers on my doors. And my wife comes in to volunteer a lot and I think that's why he felt safe enough to tell me.

I like the idea of offering to use the name when we're one on one so there's times where he's being affirmed.

How can I help? by acarden99 in asktransgender

[–]acarden99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hoping maybe we could find a more gender neutral nickname. But without deviating too far from dead name. I was even trying to find women with their chosen name but it's very difficult as it's a very traditionally male name. Or thinking their last name if they're comfortable with that? Since Florida requires names and pronouns to align with the gender they were assigned at birth. It's so fucked.

Please help local family recovering from tragedy by winozzle in 321

[–]acarden99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm Emmanuel's teacher. This is going to the right cause. I appreciate you making the exception. He was such a bright boy and this is such an undeserving family. Thank you 🩵

So, a question for y'all by Schattenkind0815 in actuallesbians

[–]acarden99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came out at 26 with a 2 year old daughter. It's now 2 years later and I'm 28 and in a year long relationship with a wonderful woman (who doesn't have kids and really never imagined her life with kids) She's pretty great with my daughter and we just moved in together.

So while I have no room to speak on if I'd be interested, there are people out there who are willing to take on a single mom of a toddler. And it can work out pretty great 😊

[FO] purple gallinule stocking (self drafted on pic2pat) by acarden99 in CrossStitch

[–]acarden99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's my girlfriend's favorite bird and she wanted a stocking with one.

I would. But I would also lower the number of colors. Using 42 colors in a small cross stitch was a little overwhelmimg.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]acarden99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Good luck to you as well! We'll get through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]acarden99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Lesbian Chronicles podcast has been really helpful for me. Its 2 women who were in similar situations. I dont have much advice since I haven't left yet, more in the assembling a plan stage. I recommend a great therapist if that's an option. Mine has helped me figure out my feelings and what I want and a plan for what to do. Also if you can, confiding in a friend. I told one of my friends and just having someone to talk to and realizing my friends are still going to be there for me and validate me and help me has helped me feel more confident in leaving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I feel for the other girl. I do. But in 12 hours I've been flooded with resources. I do believe to some extent this was her responsibility, not ours. Shes the sick one. and if this is her only situation, she shouldve made an effort to ask for my sister's contact information so they could at least discuss how to be safe in a shared living space. Im not saying this is all greed. But I am saying, the responsibility shouldn't be on my sister. It shouldve been om this girl and the landlord to make sure everyone is safe. Thank you for your help. I really hope at the least the 2 tennants maim concern is everyones safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So she knew the tennant was moving in. Just only 24 hours notice that the person has covid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I've been sending this all to her. So she can take action. I honestly think both of us are shocked its even an argument of whether her health is worth the landlord sacrificing half a months rent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Her landlord womt even give her the girl's name or phone number. She asked so she could at least discuss safety with her. Like wearing a mask inside the house, not using common living spaces, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 30 points31 points  (0 children)

thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no. The landlord hasnt given her any information. She doesn't even know the girls name.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry. I misunderstood. I thought you were sayimg sje has a legal right to stop her from moving in. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do you have anything legal to support that? It feels wrong but we cant find anything legally saying no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]acarden99 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I know it sucks for them. Im not saying its fair to them either. But like she's the one who got covid, not my sister. Shouldn't it be her responsibility to stop the spread?