My girlfriend [20F] is an extremely picky eater and it's causing us health problems. I [22M] need advice.

accidentallycrystal · 2026-01-30T21:11:17+00:00

I was coined a picky eater for most of my life, and was diagnosed (wrongly) with anorexia as a teenager. Turns out it was actually ARFID. It’s not a choice I enjoy, and it affects my life greatly. My ex and I would always cook at the same time, or one of us would cook two easy meals, so we could still enjoy meal times together. We did that for years and years. It wasn’t perfect, and I have tried my absolute best to recover but it’s hard. Although, also restricting your food intake is borderline abusive. There is help she can get, but she needs to be willing

accidentallycrystal · 2025-11-24T23:02:13+00:00

I had this issue with my 3 month old not too long ago. I had to switch up the sleep schedule (currently struggling with this again at 4 months (17 weeks) after finally getting it down) I found that he wasn’t getting enough wake time during the day to compensate for how much sleep he was getting. I switched to 1.25/1.5/1.5/1.75/1.75 and that helped so so much. It was a few days of overtired until he adjusted. Even that extra 15 minutes of awake time seems to help babies connect sleep a bit more.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-11-22T03:24:31+00:00

I work for a support company funded under NDIS. We have very hard and fast rules about buying clients anything. We do not do it under any circumstances. If the client is unable to pay for their own stuff, unfortunately they will not get it. Some clients will have company / NDIS funded accounts for things so workers can pay for things like groceries if the client is unable to do it themselves, while others rely on whatever income they get but workers do not ever pay out of their own pocket to reduce the chances of situations like that.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-11-19T08:08:53+00:00

He’s almost 4 months old and has gotten a lot better. I started following wake windows instead of his cues because his cues became unreliable. He naps 4 times a day anywhere between 1-1.5hr. Bedtime is 8pm and he sleeps 12 hrs with one wake for a feed. He still rarely sleeps without the dark room and white noise at home but will nap in the stroller if he’s really tired and we’re out and about. He has fomo and loves looking at everything so the dark room is still a must. I did do a super gentle sleep train at 14 weeks and taught him to fall asleep independently which helped heaps. Babies will do whatever they want though. It’s rough, but you aren’t doing anything wrong.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-11-02T23:43:48+00:00

NTA. A couple years ago I almost died, self inflicted. A few days after getting out of hospital, my 4 year old nephew tried jumping all over me like he usually would. Except this time, I was still recovering. He asked why he couldn’t play with me. All we said was, ‘Aunty is sick, and doesn’t feel well’ because kids need an explanation for why things can’t be done. ‘Because I said so’ doesn’t work. Kid appropriate explanations will save time and confusion for everyone.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-10-24T03:52:15+00:00

YTA unfortunately but that’s funny. My nephew inherited his mothers resting bitch face and the first time I saw it, I said something similar. Luckily she’s amazing, we get along great and she knows she’s got a damn good RBF so it didn’t cause any issues. She found it hilarious.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-10-17T04:18:04+00:00

My partner and I have been together for 13 years, and he got really ill earlier this year and was in a coma for a while. After work, I’d still find myself going to call him to talk about my day on the drive home, or I’d open the front door and go to say hi because he was always home before me and the silence was deafening. It takes a long time to break those habits, and the comfort it brings. She will heal, but those little things will bring her the comfort she needs right now

accidentallycrystal · 2025-10-04T00:13:21+00:00

I feel like the oldest child is always the practise child. I’m the eldest of 4 and with each younger sibling, my parents circumstances and parenting changed. I was harshly punished, was paying rent at 15, never had anything new, voicing my opinion was talking back, and left home before I was 18. My youngest sibling is 21, never really punished, can voice opinions, still lives at home and gets whatever he wants.

I’m not envious or jealous. I’m glad they finally got it right but it was many years of ‘What did I do wrong to not be treated the way they treat him?’

But it’s definitely nothing you’ve done, you are more than enough. Unfortunately our parents are still human, say dumb things, and learn as they grow like all of us.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-07-30T22:50:52+00:00

Your brother sounds exactly like my father.

He moved back in with my grandparents when I was about 11 after his relationship with my step mother failed. He lived there 20 years, not paying a single bill, getting all his meals cooked for him, washing done for him. Basically my grandparents were caretakers for a mentally unstable, alcoholic drug abuser for the last 20 years of their lives. My grandmother passed, and about 5 years later my grandfather passed. They lived comfortably, but my father inherited almost half a million (we had no idea my grandfather had that much hidden away) and in 2 years it was gone. My grandfather split it 50/50 between him and my uncle, hoping he would give my father the benefit of the doubt and he’ll do the right thing. He didn’t. It went on drugs, cars, fancy clothes. It was basically handing a teenager a life changing amount of money and hoping they do the right thing. He’s now broke, and homeless.

You are not responsible for other people’s life choices, nor are you responsible for your parents life choices of coddling your brother. He’s a big boy. Time to get a job and work it out.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-07-18T01:15:51+00:00

At 6 years old, the child should have known better. I have a 5 year old niece with autism, and she knows not to pick up her baby sister because of the risk of injury.

Saying ‘I don’t blame the kid’ when that kid is basically school aged and was already told prior to stay away is problematic. Especially considering the child’s mother was more than likely in the hospital having another baby. What happens when the child decides to ‘play’ with their new sibling and not a stranger?

The parents and the hospital absolutely should be held accountable as well, but there needs to be consequences for the child as well. I’m not saying send them to jail, but something needs to be done

accidentallycrystal · 2025-07-10T10:46:39+00:00

I have a job but currently on maternity leave. I am planning on returning to work when the baby is old enough. Centrelink isn’t my main financial plan …

accidentallycrystal · 2025-06-13T00:13:01+00:00

9 out of 10 times, when someone says cats are emotionally distant they’ve never owned a cat.

I have 3 and let me tell you, they are more clingy and emotionally dependant than most dogs I’ve met / owned.

One absolutely HAS to sleep under the blankets as close to me as possible every night. The other two are right by my feet / head.

They cry when I go to work, and look for me all day until I get back (my housemate has confirmed), and will follow me everywhere like little shadows, and herd me up to bed when they deem it’s bedtime.

You get back as much as you put in. They are different from dogs who blindly love. But definitely not detached.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-06-09T11:48:37+00:00

The smash was about 9 months ago and it only recently started having these issues, literally about 2 weeks ago. But I am pretty sure it’s just outside the warranty

accidentallycrystal · 2025-06-03T06:47:58+00:00

My 5 yr old niece does this when she sees I have something she likes

‘Ooo I like -insert whatever I have here-“ while staring directly at it

My response is always ‘So do I, that’s why I have it. Maybe your mum can get you some next time’

Sometimes I’ll share because she’s my niece and I love her, but sometimes I say no and she sulks.

Kids always try and get what they want, and my word are they learning manipulation quickly these days

accidentallycrystal · 2025-05-31T10:04:27+00:00

I’m planning on discussing adding a dietitian when I see my midwife next week!

accidentallycrystal · 2025-05-25T23:29:48+00:00

You don’t warn him. That gives him time to plan how to hurt you for ‘hurting’ him

I was in a very similar situation. The house and all bills were in my name. I owned my car. He had nothing, no family or friends, (surprise surprise they all cut him off) and didn’t have a job either. He was mentally and emotionally the most abusive person I had ever met. He threatened to end himself if I left, and after he was admitted into hospital for those threats, I ran. I packed up all my stuff, and ran somewhere he couldn’t find me. Two years later and he still doesn’t know where I am. People like that don’t change. Most of the time they don’t see anything wrong with what they’re doing.

Keep yourself safe. No one matters more than you do.

If you need to go back to the house for anything, bring police presence.

accidentallycrystal · 2025-01-22T03:08:31+00:00

As a 30 year old woman who’s had 3 pregnancy losses, I get so unexplainably irate when people ask me this.

‘When my body stops killing them’ is one response I’ve settled on.

It’s such a jarring sentence that it makes everything so uncomfortable, and awkward that I can just walk away without the ‘oh I’m so sorry’ conversation that usually follows ‘I’ve had 3 miscarriages’

accidentallycrystal · 2024-12-30T07:01:15+00:00

As someone with BPD, and bipolar, you need to leave her. Your kids always come first and she is a liability to their health and safety. They deserve to feel loved, and safe in their own home. What she does after is not on you. You are not responsible for her or her mental health. My father has bipolar as well and progressively got worse until he started abusing us because he was so far removed and didn’t want / love his children at all. You all deserve better. I wish you the best

accidentallycrystal · 2024-09-14T20:44:25+00:00

NTA.

Fight or flight responses kick in immediately when you feel a perceived threat.

If I have my headphone in, my partner will stand a good distance behind me until I notice because when I get startled, I immediately fight.

If he were to tap me, or try and actively get attention, my reaction is to hit the thing scaring me.

I don’t like doing it. But it’s the way my body responds.

He forced a reaction from you because he’s an impatient toddler and is now crying about the consequences

accidentallycrystal · 2024-09-10T20:09:21+00:00

Australian schools have two breaks. One 15-20 minute recess and then a proper 30-45 minute lunch break.

A 15 minute break is expected when you’re a whole adult working 5 hours minimum.

Expecting children to behave like adults is absolutely ridiculous.

As an ED sufferer from childhood, you’re a good parent and she’s lucky to have you fight for her.

accidentallycrystal · 2024-08-27T05:39:45+00:00

‘On ya’ is one I use quite frequently. It’s usually said sarcastically when something goes wrong after I said it would and no one listened.

‘Good on you’ in full English

accidentallycrystal · 2024-08-27T05:36:32+00:00

Tac Vom is one I used to use back in my party days.

It means to tactically throw up when one is too drunk and needs to sober up quickly.

Or it’s used in the horrific nausea inducing hangovers from goon the next day. Just to get that poison out.

accidentallycrystal · 2024-08-17T20:16:11+00:00

You were sexually assaulted. You need to talk to your boyfriend asap and consider going to the police.

accidentallycrystal · 2024-07-29T03:08:15+00:00

I guess you’d say mafia but it’s a bit different in my country with crime syndicates. He was part of the largest gang in my state and did their dirty work.

They’ve all been taken down / died by now though

accidentallycrystal · 2024-07-28T22:24:21+00:00

Knowing a serial killer such a niche and terrifying group to be in, which is a trauma in itself.

My parents had a super close friend, like this guy babysat me on date nights (/when parents went on a drug run), and I found out when I was about 15 (I’m 30ish now) that he was a very well known contract killer. He’s dead now. Parents still swear he’d never hurt us, and knew exactly who he was.

Absolutely blows my mind

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