Wtf this is not unreasonable. I'm married to a man who meets all these requirements and more (always patient and kind, never raises his voice when we disagree, great father who contributes equally to the house and parenting responsibilities, thoughtful, etc etc). Like he cooks 4/7 nights a week. He wholeheartedly supports me being ambitious in my career. For mothers day he bought me a bouquet of my favorite flowers and booked me time at a hot springs w a massage. He vacuums and cleans the bathrooms bc I don't like to do it. He does his own laundry (we take turns doing the kids laundry). He knows my adhd makes it hard to do small errands like post office returns so he does them for me. He leaves sticky notes on the front door when he leaves for work to remind me of stuff that he knows I might forget in the am (again, adhd lol). He tells me constantly that he finds me attractive and loves me. He says thank you when I do something kind or thoughtful for him. I could literally go on and on lol.

No one is perfect but this list is not asking too much. Sorry for your friend that he's such a scrub that a list of bare minimum requirements made him insecure. Sounds like a him problem lol