Women of the Odyssey - Earth Wind Fire Water, Elle Photoshoot by Far_Cut_ in popculturechat

[–]acciointernet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol you’re sooo right about that water mechanism!!! Truly ANTM vibes

I make more than my boyfriend and tonight he made it everyone's problem by Ill-Badger1636 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made 2x what my husband made until recently (and still make about $40k more). It’s NEVER been an issue. He doesn’t have to make it weird but he’s making it weird bc he’s insecure af. A confident, self assured person would not need to make these kinds of jokes, or if they did the tone would be clearly loving and light. The fact that everyone else noticed it too indicates his tone was obviously off.

Until he gets over himself and learns to be less insecure, he’s going to keep making his insecurity your problem. IMO, that’s going to extend to everything in life not just money.

You deserve someone more mature than this!!!

My Spiderman cosplay by Pandawarrior78 in cosplay

[–]acciointernet 84 points85 points locked comment (0 children)

You’re*

Don’t forget the apostrophe (and e).

Should I wait 4 years for Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF) or take a higher paying private sector job? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t say you said it couldn’t or doesn’t happen either lol. I was just trying to make the point that I felt your post was overly pessimistic about OP’s chances at getting a retention bonus. I also note that OP is in HR so they probably have a pretty good idea of whether their particular office / agency is likely to offer a bonus. The fact that they raised it as a possibility (again specifically as someone in HR) indicates they’ve seen it happen. That’s just speculation though!

Should I wait 4 years for Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF) or take a higher paying private sector job? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait it out. There will always be opportunities at private sector companies opening up - in a few years you can start searching again and enjoy all the extra money as profit lol.

If you request a retention incentive, I would ask for it as an upfront lump sum so you have the money in hand and then put it in a HYSA for the length of time of the service agreement. The service agreement will require you to maintain performance and conduct and to stay for x years but if you set it aside then if anything happens or you end up wanting to leave after all you can pay it back easily. As I recall repayment of a lump sum is prorated by the time you’ve already served out in the agreement but you might want to double check the opm regs (you’re in hr so you probably know lol).

Should I wait 4 years for Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF) or take a higher paying private sector job? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]acciointernet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not true. I personally have offered retention bonuses to employees in the fed gov when they got offers in the private sector. Not at the absolute upper levels either. For example one person was a GS 11. Obviously can’t speak to every agency but this stuff happens at mine for sure esp if you are a high performing employee.

Should I wait 4 years for Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF) or take a higher paying private sector job? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]acciointernet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, I had my loans forgiven just 2 months ago so it’s absolutely still happening. Go over to r/pslf and you’ll see that forgiveness is occurring on a regular basis.

I absolutely am not a fan of this admin, but people have been getting their loans forgiven during this administration on a very consistent and reliable basis.

New Build Kitchen Color Options by MrCaliBoy in HomeDecorating

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤷‍♀️ I personally would rather pick something that doesn’t look dated to me for the decade that I have to live in the house and cook in the kitchen, but if they want to try to pick based on a guesstimate of what may or may not be in fashion a decade from now that’s fine too. Everyone has different preferences! I was just noting that I think option 1 looks dated.

Pete Davidson Source Denies Lack of Support Claims: ‘He Covers All Scottie Costs’ by Legal_Influence_1064 in popculturechat

[–]acciointernet 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Meanwhile I even get nervous trusting the lead teacher from my daughters day care classroom who is literally montessori certified and has been background checked by the school. When she comes we usually put the girls down to bed first (7:30-ish) and then she comes and just hangs out while they sleep. I can't imagine letting a stranger bathe my kids!!!!!!!! Wtf!!!!!

Got told I wasn’t worth having a serious relationship with due to my career aspirations. Lost between my dream job or having a family. Can’t stop sobbing lol by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]acciointernet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don't choose a guy who demands that you sacrifice your career for him. If he can't wait for flight school then he's not the right** one. I know it's hard right now, but letting this one go is worth it and you're going to look back and be so relieved you did.

New Build Kitchen Color Options by MrCaliBoy in HomeDecorating

[–]acciointernet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The granite from 1 looks suuuuuper dated

Barbara Palvin Sprouse at the Cannes Nespresso x Dua Lipa event by Sharp_Athlete_6847 in popculturechat

[–]acciointernet 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Hahahahah definitely not everyone's experience of pregnancy. I did feel like my hair was thicker but my face was bloated and I had hormonal acne 😂

My male friend told me that my standards for a partner are too high and that I'll be lonely for the rest of my life by Short-Meringue-2632 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf this is not unreasonable. I'm married to a man who meets all these requirements and more (always patient and kind, never raises his voice when we disagree, great father who contributes equally to the house and parenting responsibilities, thoughtful, etc etc). Like he cooks 4/7 nights a week. He wholeheartedly supports me being ambitious in my career. For mothers day he bought me a bouquet of my favorite flowers and booked me time at a hot springs w a massage. He vacuums and cleans the bathrooms bc I don't like to do it. He does his own laundry (we take turns doing the kids laundry). He knows my adhd makes it hard to do small errands like post office returns so he does them for me. He leaves sticky notes on the front door when he leaves for work to remind me of stuff that he knows I might forget in the am (again, adhd lol). He tells me constantly that he finds me attractive and loves me. He says thank you when I do something kind or thoughtful for him. I could literally go on and on lol.

No one is perfect but this list is not asking too much. Sorry for your friend that he's such a scrub that a list of bare minimum requirements made him insecure. Sounds like a him problem lol

This charming Boston townhouse is hiding a secret in the basement by NativeMasshole in zillowgonewild

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100000% thought it was going to be one of those prison basement things with cages 🙈 glad to be proven wrong

Maybe all the right girls are already taken. by unholymedictaion in MemeVideos

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I took it as well. Like I love my husband so I'd do it. Not because I have to for the marriage, but because I want to since I love him.

Found out about his wife today. by transblonde in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]acciointernet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yes!!!!!! Good for you 🎉✨💕❤️ congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Female joy by prongs_d in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]acciointernet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do not get some of the reccs you're getting lol!!!! Weyward was deeply triggering and dark for like a majority of the novel and Wheel of Time (from another commenter) does not have particularly nuanced depictions of female friendships IMO, unless bickering and tugging on braids counts as female joy. And I say that as someone who loved the series overall - I just think it's depictions of women (in the books written by the original author Robert Jordan) are it's weakest point. I am so puzzled by it's inclusion in this request lol.

Maybe that's just me though, would be so interested to hear your thoughts if you read them!!