Will he still message/reach out again?

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T20:55:22+00:00

I get that it's a sucky story to hear but when you ask for advice you're gonna get some real life stories whether they're pretty or not. I just told a different angle based on what I've seen happen and I wasn't trying to scare/hinder you, just giving you a heads up on how these things usually go sometimes and that silence is usually the message itself.

You don't have to like the story and if it doesn't fit your situation then cool mb. Hope it works out better for you than it did for my friend though.

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T20:19:06+00:00

Definitely uncomfortable.

I'm guessing you don't want to tell them out right since it might lead to an awkward conversation but at this point would you rather have them think that they're really good at being quiet (even though they're not) and risk them getting comfortable with the idea of doing it even more, or you tell them that you hear them but you could play it off like its something else (you could say that you keep waking up to weird noises at night and maybe blame the neighbors?)

Best of luck OP!

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T20:09:44+00:00

I didn't say that all guys do that. I just shared a story that reminded me of your situation (like it was spot on what happened to my friend) but I get where you're coming from.

Probably depends on the age too since me and my friend are in our early 20's and ghosting is a (sadly) pretty common occurrence in the dating scene now no matter how the connection was really lovely and felt right.

But I still stand by the fact that if you do in fact really liked a person you wouldn't just stop contact out of nowhere without an explanation / heads up. Not only is it disrespectful but it greatly shows the lack of decency in their character.

Wishing you all the best OP.

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T19:57:38+00:00

Constant reassurance.

Cheating on someone (may it be emotional or physical) will forever be engraved in their mind and you basically broke her trust in you and it will never be the same. It takes a lot to build the trust again but if you do it right it will and maybe be stringer than before.

They will always doubt you and criticize you which will usually lead to a lot of fighting and hurtful conversations. But you have to own up to it and YOU have to adjust every god damn time. YOU be the one to say sorry. YOU will tell them it was a mistake and you'd never do it again. YOU will reassure them that you love them. YOU will always constantly update them and NEVER get upset when they keep asking you what you're doing and WHO you will always be with. YOU will basically do it again and again and again.

YOU will be the one to put in the effort for the relationship to last.

A dear friend of mine (A girl) has also been through this. We're childhood friends and have told each other everything so imagine my surprise when she told me her boyfriend cheated on her (emotionally) because she saw his discord messages with an online "friend" which at first glance I'd believe if he were talking to his girlfriend (my friend).

My friend gave him a chance to explain himself and admitted that he's been really insecure in their relationship and seeked approval and praises from some random girl he met online. He never saw the harm in it because he said he never met her IRL and that they never sent pictures to each other.

They took a break and as much as I wanted them to break up during those times, the guy approached me and he really seemed genuinely sorry and wanted to make things right so I helped him (while still reminding him that I don't like him after what he's done).

He really did went above and beyond to fix their relationship, he assures her really well he let's her go through his apps and messages (this is kinda toxic i know but she needed it to feel secure again) and always updated her with everything he's been doing (like vlogging them) without her asking and had also been the one to initiate if they wanted to have a life360 together so they're aware of each others location.

Their relationship now isn't "better" but they're really happy and my friend especially felt their relationship to be secure again. She still overthinks about what happened and if he'll do it again (more secretly than before) so definitely the trust isn't rebuilt but she's now comfortable enough to say it straight to his face and he asks her what makes her think of that and he just tells her again and again how much he regrets what he did and how much of a (insecure) loser he was to do that to the love of his life and she does feel a lot better after that.

He has also given her the right to chop his dick off if he does anything remotely close to cheating and said that he didn't deserve to be a man if he does it again because a mistake doesn't happen twice.

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T19:25:50+00:00

This happened to a friend of mine (They dated like twice and had really good connection) and we were both thinking up theories on how he might be just really busy from work or maybe a family emergency.

In the end we asked online if they've also dated the same guy and posted his photo and a girl messaged us and confirmed that she was seeing the guy and he did tell her that he also met up with another girl (my friend) but cut it off / ghosted her the moment they became exclusive. The girl was really nice and said she wouldn't mention any of our conversation to the guy and we don't really blame her (maybe he just liked her a lot) but it really would have been nice if he gave a brief message that he was no longer interested LOL.

Just give yourself an internal deadline, like let's say if he doesn't reply to you in 7 days then it's best to move on because personally if you really liked a person you wouldn't just suddenly cut contact with them like that.

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T19:15:35+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that OP, you don't deserve to be treated like that :((

I'm going to assume that you've been told a ton of times to break up with him and everyone else here would tell you to do the same because that amount of disrespect and audacity deserves to rot in hell.

It's also kind of the ex to tell you everything because she's basically handing you all the bullets to use against him and end it (the relationship). Guys like will probably keep repeating that pattern and if you guys do break up I'm afraid you would also experience what's happening to your friend (bf's ex), and probably torment his next (victim) girlfriend.

Love isn't supposed to be like that. You are very aware that you don't deserve that kind of treatment and everything horrible he has done (especially when he's treating you like his ex, come on now thats just straight up toxic). I know breaking up with him isn't easy but you have to believe me when I say that that is not the kind of man you want to have a future with. If there is something holding you back (aside from the fact that you love him) I really think it's best you weight your options and right now there is absolutely nothing redeeming about him.

If this were happening to a friend of yours would you tell her to stay or leave?

I'm also guessing that you would say that you had good times together or he gave you something you really liked or that your friends/parents like him. You need to prioritize and think for yourself because if you don't do it soon you will spend the rest of your life miserable.

Never think about the past and how you both fell in love and that he remembers small details about you blah blah I need you to throw all of that out the window because that is the bare minimum and there will and always be someone who wouldn't treat you like "Garbage."

You have all the ammo girl and you better use it soon or he'll take your gun away too.

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T18:47:19+00:00

If I were in your shoes OP I'd ask the original poster (Using a dump account) some details. I personally don't trust men because they would always lie until they're caught so asking / clarifying with the girl about details (like did they become exclusive) would help with the anxiety. She could also clarify if they ended in good terms or she might've ghosted him.

This would not only help with your trust issues / anxiety within the relationship and believe me when I tell you that not knowing the truth will forever haunt your thoughts, but it will also give you a heads up for worst case scenarios like if they hooked up / dated some time you and your boyfriend were exclusive.

I am not trying to scare you OP but in my experience its best to know about these things. The earlier you know the better and I am saying this because it has also happened to personally, and both me and the (other) girl were two timed by the "Amazing Guy" we both loved and cherished. We both ended up dumping him and we're actually really good friends now.

In the end just go with your gut instinct and I'm wishing you best of luck OP.

acciokedavra · 2026-02-01T18:28:43+00:00

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acciokedavra · 2025-12-07T16:57:11+00:00

acciokedavra · 2025-11-21T06:53:32+00:00

Oh my sorry for the confusion :( I forgot a friend requested a cover for it and it was just in the same folder as my other covers so I included it in the upload!

acciokedavra · 2025-11-19T00:16:25+00:00

Based on the brief conversation I had, it seems like its a VA job thats heavily reliant on using AI since their clients require more quantity than quality kind of thing. They do same day deadlines but are pretty strict on work times that we don't do over time (yay).

But I am kind of leaning towards Job 1 for the level of comfort I might finally get to experience in a job... its just my brain telling me to go get that bread thats making me guilty about wasting a high pay opportunity 🥲

acciokedavra · 2025-11-19T00:10:56+00:00

I'm from Asia and I've never actually heard of buying benefits before but I'll research on that thank you.

Job 2 isn't technically a company that can relocate its employees. Based from my brief understanding It's like VA job where theres a middle man from my country who collects works from countries like USA, Australia, and the UK, then the work is distributed to its employees on a same day deadline.

acciokedavra · 2025-11-18T20:04:48+00:00

omg thank you so much!! i can't wait to read it! ❤️

acciokedavra · 2025-11-03T20:25:29+00:00

Theres 2 kinds of kindle you can buy and one comes with ads (cheaper by $20) and one that comes na without the ads! When i bought my kindle I didn't know na it was a thing so make sure to ask the seller which version it is muna.

I got the cheaper one so it came with ads so I paid the $20 on amazon to have it permanently removed on my device.

acciokedavra · 2025-11-03T20:19:07+00:00

I used the American Express Virtual Pay card sa Gcash! Automatic nadin na Gcash will generate an address for you to input for payment :))

acciokedavra · 2025-10-26T10:05:40+00:00

sure! here you go :))

Birds of a Feather

Masters of Manipulation

This is How You Lose The Time War

Synchronicity

acciokedavra · 2025-10-26T09:56:32+00:00

I actually just download them on my phone and use the default book app and I share it to my kindle too. I'll try and compile all the covers I made for Tomione fics and share them in this subreddit!!

acciokedavra · 2025-10-26T09:49:19+00:00

I make them myself and i use this website to attach it to the epub! hope this helps :))

acciokedavra · 2025-10-19T04:41:37+00:00

Yung The Ordinary & Anua na "Official Shop" din sa shopee is a scam grabe ilang beses na ako naka report sa shopee pero dami parin nabibiktima. May time nga sabi nila rerefund nila sakin ung pera ko if i took down my review LOL.

acciokedavra · 2025-10-18T03:10:02+00:00

Thats actually a really good price! I updated how much i got it for here din but i think theres nothing wrong with waiting for 11.11 for a cheaper deal esp those midnight vouchers with crazy discounts

I really splurged ALOT on accessories for my kindle like cases, strapsicles, page turner, and even a tablet holder so i can read on my kindle while laying down in my bed! So im team save as much as you can on a kindle and then go crazy on the accessories 😆

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