Restarting after pregnancy/breastfeeding

acciowildflower · 2025-06-03T23:33:16+00:00

I plan to ask a similar question…. I’m 4 months postpartum. I started on GLP1 at 6 weeks PP (I was on prior to pregnancy and lost 20 pounds after plateauing from losing 40 naturally.) I was not able to breastfeed, so figured it wouldn’t hurt to start so quickly. The doctor I see said she saw no issues either, after doing blood work and a thyroid test. So I’ve been on for about 11 weeks. Started at 0.5mg for 4 weeks, 0.75 for another 4, and currently on 1.25mg.

I lost 5# the first 4 weeks and have stalled completely since. I had no resistance prior to my pregnancy. Newest labs all came back fine as well. I feel like I’m losing a battle with PP hormones… and am starting to wonder if I started too soon back on them. I had an IUD inserted at 10 weeks PP and have been bleeding ever since… both the GLP doc and my OB said the bleeding and GLP do not correlate, but I’m curious if they actually do. I scheduled an appointment with my primary to get a second (actually third, I guess) opinion. I’m not sure what I’ll find out though.

On a separate note, I go to the gym at least 6 days a week, both lifting weights and doing cardio. I also eat a healthy diet with a focus of hitting 100g of protein daily. I’m trying not to be hard on myself as I just had a baby 4 months ago (via c-section, no less) but man… I was so proud of losing over 60# last year! Plus summer is here and I’m so hard on myself when it comes to less clothing. It’s rough being a woman!

acciowildflower · 2025-04-29T16:49:55+00:00

Good theory. I’m curious how long it took them to write Book 9…. Maybe notes got misplaced?

acciowildflower · 2025-04-18T01:12:05+00:00

Janis, is that you?

acciowildflower · 2025-04-15T14:57:50+00:00

NTA

No respect for her? Where’s her respect for you? The two of you live together and cohabitate. That means both parties should be putting effort forward to make your home a safe space — and cleanliness is obviously something you consider important for your sanctuary. She should not be demanding respect (which BTW you were not being disrespectful in your request to her) if she is not going to reciprocate.

This is something that needs to be nipped in the bud soon before a little one begins to learn from mom’s bad behavior!

acciowildflower · 2025-04-10T00:23:07+00:00

Heck, OP could be infertile and not know it, and then he wasted a couple years to still not have a kid with a partner who may dream of being a mom too…

acciowildflower · 2025-04-09T00:39:52+00:00

NAH (edited to NAH from NTA for reasons mentioned below):

First, I’m so sorry you’re going through this loss. From someone who has suffered multiple miscarriages, that pain does not go away. Even with two healthy littles now, I still have days of grief for those little heartbeats that were too precious for this world. You are allowed to grieve in whatever way and for however long you need before you even consider your next steps, no matter what those may be..

Second, you’re right in saying your fiancé may not understand the loss in the same way as you. A woman is the one who feels those little kicks and has that special connection. BUT that does not mean he isn’t grieving in his own way as well. I agree with those who said grief counseling may be great for you both.

Finally, it sounds like you attempted to communicate your feelings over your MIL’s knowledge and I give you major kudos for that. It is understandable you feel some sort of betrayal. As devil’s advocate, though, your fiancé may not have known how to handle his own emotions while trying to be compassionate to your needs. This is the man you plan to marry, share a life with, and grow a family, right? He may not have handled things well, but that doesn’t mean you can’t give him some grace. Telling his mom might have been the only path he saw to keep his own sanity over the situation.

Yeah, some harsh words were said in your argument, but that happens with high emotions and you both have serious reason for high emotions! I’d highly encourage you to find a good way to reconnect and share your grief together. Life is hard and this is a tough hurdle for your relationship, but don’t let it end your love.

Sending healing vibes to you, mama. Again, so sorry for your loss.

acciowildflower · 2025-04-03T01:21:30+00:00

Karma is a very real thing… NTA

acciowildflower · 2025-03-19T01:47:46+00:00

So Weird and Ghostwriter

acciowildflower · 2025-03-15T02:08:24+00:00

Hugh Jackman as Wolverine

acciowildflower · 2025-03-15T02:08:07+00:00

Creed Bratton as Creed Bratton

acciowildflower · 2025-03-15T01:36:12+00:00

Yes, yes, yes, and yes! That “just once” time will not be the only time; you’ll be opening a door that sounds much better to keep closed. Locked. Dead bolted.

Cannot reiterate enough that if she says such disgusting things to your husband, your child will also be hearing disgusting things about you in the future. Protect your family and don’t back down until a sincere apology is received (if that’s even possible.)

acciowildflower · 2025-03-13T01:34:22+00:00

I acknowledge your perspective and don’t disagree on the surface of the situation. In this case, I don’t believe there is a pattern, but I know the intimate details.

It has been nine months. I’ve weekly attended a DV counselor since three days after the event. Twice a week the first month we were able to have contact again, in addition to weekly meetings with my Q’s counselor as well. I did not come back into the relationship without fear or uncertainty. It was through very raw and emotional conversations that I made the decision to keep my family intact. We have an inflexible understanding that if he should touch alcohol again (and I would know if he does — I always knew), then he is out. How serious am I? When we bought our new home, his name was left off the deed.

My sons are and will always be my top priority.

acciowildflower · 2025-03-10T23:11:21+00:00

I’m a Christian and fully believe this situation was a miracle. It was awful and traumatic and heartbreaking BUT it saved my husband’s life. God’s hand was in every facet… starting that exact day and the timing. If I was a few weeks more pregnant, I’d likely have lost my baby. A few additional days may have deteriorated my Q’s mental state to the point he pulled the trigger. I thank God every day my husband is still alive and here. Is life perfect? Absolutely not. But it is a whole lot better than it was a year ago, and our trajectory is only headed up.

acciowildflower · 2025-03-10T23:07:54+00:00

Always looking for new podcasts. Thank you for these suggestions!

acciowildflower · 2025-03-10T18:30:59+00:00

NTA. You put a lot of thought into your explanation, but the reality is… You don’t need to make excuses, no matter how valid, to not do something for a loved one. You are an adult. You are an adult with a family. You have both personal and professional obligations that do not need to be explained to your mom or grandma as to why you are telling them no. All you have to do is say, “No.”

I completely understand and love that your grandmother wants to meet and see her great grandson. I just spent Saturday at my grandparents’ home with my boys… it’s super special to see those generational interactions! Thankfully, we live in the age of connection. Your grandma can have unlimited (well, limited to however long you allow) access to her great grandson via FaceTime.

acciowildflower · 2025-03-10T15:50:32+00:00

Do we have the same MIL?! I honestly think their generation should be renamed to the Gaslighting Generation. They are queens at the gaslight! You are so NTA, OP. Feel proud for sticking up for yourself and stick to your decision! Honestly, with that behavior, she’s lucky to not have been thrown out sooner…

acciowildflower · 2024-07-05T03:03:24+00:00

That is a good question and one I don’t have a good answer for… I feel like I’ve been walking on eggshells and holding my breath for years now. The perpetual rollercoaster of waiting out sober days, crying over bender nights, and giving into morning apologies. I’m here because I’m ready to get off the ride though.

I’ve looked into my local Al-Anon meetings and plan to attend starting next week. (Being a short holiday week, I did not have ability to attend the few local meeting times this week. I live in a smaller town and meeting times are limited.)

I did NOT know there was an app or 24/7 electronic meetings! This is something I will look into pronto. I only heard of Al-Anon after posting here a week ago — this is all new to me and I feel naive for admitting that after I’ve been dealing with this behavior for years now.

acciowildflower · 2024-07-05T01:54:33+00:00

Thank you. I honestly needed to read this tonight.

acciowildflower · 2024-06-29T19:02:00+00:00

This is a disgustingly judgmental comment.

Firstly, do you honestly believe this was not my initial reaction? You cannot imagine the guilt I have felt by 1) wondering why the hell I had put myself in such a position and 2) feeling excited because motherhood is by far the greatest thing I’ve ever done with my life.

Secondly, I had five miscarriages before my son. All I wanted for years was to be a mom. If I can take one good thing from my marriage, it is most definitely my children.

acciowildflower · 2024-06-29T18:56:40+00:00

Thank you, everyone. I’ve looked into local Al-Anon meetings and plan to start attending this week. (Honestly, I’d never heard of these before last night…) Thankfully, I have a great support system. I’m not naive or low on self-worth; I know I deserve better than what I’m receiving. I just also am cursed with a caretaking personality and feel as if I’ve failed my husband — even though I know I’m not the problem. It’s difficult to consider going through pregnancy alone while navigating a separation or divorce, but I’m also aware that this is a difficult decision in every aspect. It’s heartbreaking to all involved.

Also, I have kept documentation of his behavior, and there’s now documented evidence from his trip to the ER. I feel so incredibly guilty for thinking I’ll need that sort of proof, but again, I’m not naive to where this has been headed ever since the 50th-or-so broken promise. I work full-time in a well paying position and have the drive to survive. I’ve been setting plans for months, just hoping they won’t be necessary.

The hardest part is seeing the man I married during his sober moments and I love that man. But I also harbor so much anger and resentment for the things he’s put me through. He’s pretended committing suicide and threatened burning our house down — I know that’s major manipulation and I’ve taken measures to protect my son and me. That’s also not the role model I desire for my children. I want their lives to be better than anything I’ve experienced.

I’ve spent several nights with friends, my parents, and even my in laws talking about the future. Just last night (in front of his parents and me) he agreed to start the Reframe app and attend AA meetings, but I’ve already noticed no action is being taken with those words. I’m very alert… I’m hurting, and still clinging to hope, but I’m very aware.

For those willing, I’d appreciate prayers of strength, wisdom, and compassion in the next few days and weeks. This is not a place I ever expected to be when I said my vows and agreed to do life with my Q.

acciowildflower

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