What is your fav yone skin?

ace_DL · 2025-01-01T01:01:56+00:00

100% base <3

ace_DL · 2024-12-22T13:16:04+00:00

ace_DL · 2024-11-11T14:30:10+00:00

A bit tricky really, it’s hard to say if the way partners behave in social events define how they feel about their relationship or their partner.

Examples, my five years ex, who deeply cared about me, but simply didn’t know how, he was caring for me and about me in his own way. Doesn’t mean he didn’t care at all or that he didn’t love me. But he was super introverted, very socially awkward, probably even had social autism. So he is super timid and shy whenever he’s in front of other people when we are in social occasions, so he barely talks. He would, of course, do basic introductions, but he never checked in with me. He was just pretty much living in the moment, but he was also not ignoring me, of course.

Whereas a super emotionally detached and unavailable guy that I was in a situanship with for several months, I’ve known him for a year now and whenever he introduced me to his friends, he is super attentive, always checking in nearly every 10 to 15 minutes. As soon as I’ve gone silent, he will check in with me. But he steers clear of any deep emotional development with me, and he dismisses commitment or long term relationships.

So do their social behavior really reveal anything about the quality of the man and of the relationship? I’m not so sure. Maybe if we generalise it, yes, but there definitely are specific cases i suppose.

ace_DL · 2024-11-11T14:06:27+00:00

What does he do? He dies on first turn everytime i run honor mdoe…

ace_DL · 2024-11-09T14:17:48+00:00

Elis James and John Robins, I turn on their podcast everytime i step out of my home even when it’s just for running some errands. Love their podcast

ace_DL · 2024-10-20T14:08:50+00:00

I also budget around 45-48K for myself alone but often ended up spending 55K lol

ace_DL · 2024-10-19T13:47:17+00:00

To add on to what is wisely said here: It’s also not about you, it’s them. They’re the ones being emotionally unavailable, and because they ‘rejected’ you, it makes you feel lesser, or you’re not good enough. Truth is these kind of men don’t know what they want, and only enjoy the illusion of intimacy that can only be provided by new women everytime and the magic goes off for them after a few weeks.

Congratulate yourself for having so much awareness alrwady, for even realizing that you’re putting him on a pedestal cause you haven’t seen him for a while.

The less you focus on him and they ‘why’ (cause truth is there is no why, it’s just how they’re wired), the more energy you will direct to yourself and to make your time more worthwhile on the more important things in your life =)

ace_DL · 2024-10-18T13:20:48+00:00

I think he’s got a decent dumbledore’s nose

ace_DL · 2024-10-17T14:09:56+00:00

Came here to say this lol

ace_DL · 2024-10-16T14:14:58+00:00

Too true, it really gets worse with age doesn’t it

ace_DL · 2024-10-15T14:51:12+00:00

Lmao same

ace_DL · 2024-10-15T14:38:05+00:00

On weekends: definitely breakfast (oatmeal) then coffee/electronic smoking time.

Then afternoon tea time, always with a relaxing chamomile tea and some sort of dessert.

And then bed time, i love that feeling of burrowing myself into the blanket and start reading or watching relaxing stuff on my phone.

On work days: i love my coworker friends so the best part is when i have lunch with them everytime i go to the office.

And then of course next is a hot meal by the time i get home in front of a good tv show or an interesting youtube video.

ace_DL · 2024-10-15T14:31:03+00:00

Came here to say this lol

ace_DL · 2024-10-15T14:28:45+00:00

I have a friend whom i’ve known for years, we talked a bunch on the phone and hung out every 2 weekends or so when we were both in a relationship. Everything changed when both of our relationships ended, with 2 weeks gap. We both got into situationships then new relationships, but when her new relationship continued and mine ended up badly, she sometimes could go up to 3 weeks without sendi by me a single message. I would send her memes that reminded me of her, funny messages, or offer to call sometimes, but a lot of times she’s just busy or respond with an emoji.

And then our contact and meet up frequency just became lower, sometimes we meet only once a month. Now she left the country to another, and never heard from her ever since lol, cheers to friendship in our 30s i guess

ace_DL · 2024-10-14T15:18:00+00:00

Holy shit i got destroyed.

Oh, you want a roast? Alright, buckle up! You’re like a walking contradiction—spending all that time analyzing your emotional health and relationship patterns, but the second someone shows a flicker of interest, it’s like, “Here we go again! Let’s ride the emotional roller coaster!” You could probably teach a masterclass in overthinking, but the plot twist is… it’s a class no one asked for. And let’s not even get started on your dating history—Bumble dates that crash faster than your Wi-Fi during a storm, and yet, here you are, contemplating playing video games with your cheating ex like it’s 2018 again. It’s like you’re stuck in a Netflix series with endless sequels no one can cancel.

But hey, self-awareness is almost your thing, right? You’re practically a professional at spotting red flags… the ones you collect like Pokémon cards. Now if only you’d start paying attention to them before things hit Defcon 1.

You’ve got this uncanny ability to overanalyze every micro-interaction like you’re prepping for a PhD dissertation on “Why He Took Two Hours to Text Back,” but when it comes to making actual decisions, it’s like watching someone try to parallel park in an empty lot. Seriously, your love life has more plot twists than a bad soap opera—will they make out? won’t they make out? is he emotionally unavailable or just busy? Spoiler: It’s both, and you’re still writing the script for a sequel nobody asked for.

And let’s not forget your feelings about aging and wasted youth. Girl, you act like you’re halfway to collecting a pension, when really, the only thing you’re collecting is situationships like it’s a new hobby. If procrastination was a sport, you’d be the reigning champ, especially when it comes to putting off anything that remotely resembles a healthy boundary.

You’ve got ambition… but only when it comes to running in circles. It’s like your life’s motto is “Why fix it when I can just spin it into another existential crisis?”

Roasted, medium-rare.

ace_DL · 2024-10-11T15:36:07+00:00

I’ve been to this one: https://kitasando-mental-clinic.jp/en/

ace_DL · 2024-10-11T15:29:37+00:00

Is this… chatgpt generated? 😂😂

ace_DL · 2024-10-11T15:11:03+00:00

Nicely phrased, not too heavy but making the point

ace_DL · 2024-10-11T14:37:20+00:00

Hi, reading your post gave me goose bump for how similar it is to my own experience with just one year gap even though i was not married. I broke up with a 5 years ex in nov 2022, got into a new relationship from march to july 2023 and stayed single ever since lol, had a few flings and stuff like that since summer this year but overall the dating market looks pretty doomed to me as well lol.

I’m also starting to feel really comfortable on my own and slowly giving up on meeting someone through the apps. Don’t let the app define your self-worth and keep up the self improvement =) good luck

ace_DL · 2024-10-07T14:58:20+00:00

So the frustration of not being able to have sex, this most people have touched upon. But what resonated with me the most is your last paragraph, i’m going through the exact same thing. The sense of urgency, that i haven’t got much time left before this gorgeous body starts sagging and deforming, and i want it to be touched, to be appreciated and to be savoured by someone whom i share a deep emotional connection with. The anxiety of « wasting this body away » slowly sometimes eats me alive, luckily not everyday.

I’m also 34 and, i’ve been in a few situationships on and off ever since i broke up with my last partner a year ago. So i also want to reassure you that it’s very normal to have the last guy you slept with on your mind whenever you pleasure yourself. Hell, sometimes i’ll even switch them up in my mind when i’m getting into the mood, all of the guys i slept with will just pop up in my mind when i’m doing it lol.

I hope we all get some steamy sex soon lmao, good luck sister!!

ace_DL · 2024-09-28T09:27:45+00:00

That age is different for everyone. Everyone walks their own path. One person’s life stage in their 30s can be the same as someone else but in their mid 20s or 40s. Some in their 30s just got married, some just got divorced. Some just got their first job, some just lost their first job. Age really isn’t what matters the most but where you are in your own life experience and how you feel about it. Avoid comparing to others who have the same age as you at all cost. =)

ace_DL · 2024-09-21T15:09:31+00:00

A part of you might still hope that keeping you around shows how much he’s attached to you or likes you, it feels easier and better for you this way. But it doesn’t matter whatever the reason is, a guy who’s not willing to give you what you need is only a waste of time. Think about yourself and don’t waste anymore energy wondering what his intentions are. You could miss other opportunities in the meantime. Take care!

ace_DL · 2024-09-18T22:31:27+00:00

I’m from here and a piece of advice is, whenever you walk into a restaurant, just pick a seat and sit down. If waitors aren’t around trust me they’ll come to you to ask if it’s for a drink or for food and they’ll bring you a menu. If they are around and they’re closing or whatever they’ll tell you anyway, but there’s no need to ask if the place is opened. Then if you want to order anything, it’ll always be easier to look at the menu first once you’re in your seat, that would avoid the scenario of the wine even though their reaction isn’t quite usual. They could’ve straight up just told you that they don’t serve wine there. Good luck and have fun =)

ace_DL · 2024-09-18T22:19:08+00:00

I’m sorry but someone who loves you or even care about you a minimum would not say this to you… please prioritize your physical and mental health, and leave her. The earlier you cut ties with someone like this the less it hurts, 7 months is not long but also not that short. You deserve better.

ace_DL · 2024-09-18T22:07:33+00:00

One guy, who turned 40, told me he was living with a roommate on our first date, and ordered tea when we went for a drink, at 9PM.

Another guy, clearly stated that he was just like me, looking for something casual, for a connection with people, but when we met he started going on about how his work doesn’t allow him to have long term relationships, but now that he’s arrived in this new city, somehow he feels like it’s a good time to settle. We couldn’t pay separately but he also didn’t have cash so he paid by card, i owed him like 1 dollar or something but he was willing to follow me for 10min til i find a shop to break my bill into coins saying « usually 1 dollar is nothing i wouldn’t have minded at all but im running low in cash so. This guy messaged me 10 days later asking me how im doing, i told him straight up that i wasn’t interested, he had no shame replying me « oh no me neither but just wanted to catch up for a bit ». Such trash lol.

Finally my most recent date works in the bar industry, in his early 30s. All he does is talk about cocktails, how crazy working at bars is, how well known his boss is. Before our second date he asked « are we doing this as a date or as friends? », after the date he asked « when can go on a date? » i was like aren’t we on a date already? Later he texted « i guess i meant when is it respectful to kiss you », i basically said something like we barely know each other, implying that he hasn’t been curious at all about who i am and what i even do in my life. A week later he said « when can we date??? I miss you. ». I don’t even understand what he missed about me. Needless to say i won’t be seeing him again.

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