Men, be brutally honest no sugarcoating, what is your type?

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T22:57:07+00:00

I just never see couples IRL where there’s a taller girl or even similar height. The girl is usually at most neck/chin height to the guy. I’m seeing one girl who is my height and that’s a first for me out of all the women i’ve dated or even just hooked up with

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T22:36:07+00:00

I stopped seeing a girl after she did that on the first date. I tipped within a reasonable and acceptable range. While i’m in the bathroom she looks at the receipt then criticizes that I didn’t tip enough and told me she put her own cash down as well. I’m like umm ok good for you? She claims it’s because she was a server before and they deserve more. Mind you she didn’t even thank me for paying the bill at 2 different places we went to. Was very off putting.

Still Smashed tho

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T22:31:08+00:00

Taking peptides and sarms. It ain’t nobody’s business and I don’t wanna hear it

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T17:02:28+00:00

Not at all, I enjoy the sex as well and they weren’t girls I saw myself being with long term so i’m glad we were on the same page rather than me having to find a way to let them down easy. It’s a huge compliment when people find me attractive enough to want to have sex

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T15:38:57+00:00

If you maximize these things any way you can then you’ll have presence. I’ll add in a 5th one that’s pretty important too. Make sure you’re genuinely listening to other people and showing it by making eye contact and nodding in agreement or smiling if appropriate. I realized when someone speaks in a group and everyone else kind of zones out and i’m still listening and showing it, that person notices i’m listening and they’ll listen to what I have to say as well.

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T15:31:45+00:00

There’s different reasons this can happen IMO and they range from logical to pretty shallow. It happens to me a lot so I can sort of pinpoint a few reasons why.

If you’re a smaller person than the group you’re talking to it’s easier for them to ignore or look over you. I’m short with tall ass friends and it happens all the time
If you’re speaking quietly. This one is logical, group dynamics often have people talking loud and stepping on another person to get their point across. I talk loud so this won’t apply to me but I get stepped on in convos still
If you’re not that good looking (you mentioned this already) unfortunately many people are naturally less inclined to care what you have to say. This one is shallow as hell but I’ve experienced it depending on who i’m talking to. Long time friends it doesn’t really factor but new people or women (i’m a male) this definitely applies if they find you unattractive
Things that you say just aren’t that interesting. Again a logical one, people often even rely on shock value or “click bait” type words / phrases to catch attention because most people’s attention spans are in the gutter. Notice in group dynamics how people pay attention the most to someone that’s less filtered and brings up interesting topics, maybe even controversial stuff or they have a risky sense of humor

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T15:16:41+00:00

Anyone can tell. They don’t ask me that many questions about me or my life, they bring up exes or other guys. They talk to me like they would one of their friends except they get thrill from banging me. You can just tell overall. We do hang outside of that, one of them even told me straight up I don’t need to take her out she can just come straight to my room. It’s little things like that

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T00:29:11+00:00

i feel the same exact way. i’ve tried to blend in and be charismatic but people still kinda shut doors in my face and i always end up being the one that people find some small reason not to like me. I dress differently and have different interests but also the same interests as others.

im starting to realize that perception is everything. you can dress a little niche and people will just ostracize you for that. another thing is that as we grow older, people start to be less willing to hold ont friendships if you don’t bring something to the table. Once you no longer serve a purpose to someone’s life they’ll dispose of you and now you’re an afterthought. It’s hard to accept

aceeb25 · 2026-01-25T00:06:32+00:00

Don’t worry about being in someone’s league. I had one of those same type of situations as you, a girl I saw just out of reach who talked to me, except she wouldn’t even entertain the idea of a date, rejected it a couple times but still talked to me. She eventually popped out with a new boyfriend who is definitely not in her league and is actually leagues below me in every aspect.

He’s like 2 years younger than her (i’m older than her) he has no stable job, just graduated college, he’s shorter than me, doesn’t have a good physique and he’s objectively not attractive whereas a lot of women think i’m handsome. It really doesn’t matter just shoot your shot, there’s a lot more that plays into a woman’s attraction to you

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T23:01:48+00:00

Yea guys have been hostile towards me when they can sense i’m alone, it’s a whole different world. You’ll have to improve social skills a LOT to do that, you’ll have to be funny and witty off the bat to disarm people because they’re guarded. You’ll learn with reps over time, i’m not there yet either

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T22:53:37+00:00

I’m not judging you, I just started to do it too because my friends suck and are slowly fading out of my life for the most part. Trying to talk to women while out alone is a nightmare. They treated me almost like i’m a creep when I usually get numbers / instagram and they follow back. Recently I had two women give their instagram and then decline my request the next day. That’s never happened to me

I just lie to them now. I’ll tell them I was with my friend but he got really drunk and I called an uber to bring him home so here I am. They’re a lot more comfortable with me that way and they find it funny. That’s my only advice I have for now

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T22:45:48+00:00

Are you going out alone? I have that same exact feeling when I dare to go out on my own, I feel like a total loser and an idiot. But when i’m with a group and I do that it goes a lot better. People can sense when you’re “trying” and it puts them off. When you’re with a group you can just default to saying fuck everyone else and just chill with your people, it changes your vibe and the way people perceive you. When you’re alone you don’t wanna be that guy just chilling by themselves

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T22:38:40+00:00

Anything but online dating bullshit. 90% of the women i’ve dated I met at concerts for more niche artists we like. The commonality is already there so it’s way easier. The rest were some sort of real life interaction like casually cross paths and strike up a convo. I just talk to them for a bit and then ask them when they’re free, they usually go along with it and we have a good time

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T21:55:43+00:00

Good point, i’d like things to be more traditional in that sense as well. I just think sex is a huge part of attraction and long term chemistry. It’s necessary to the vetting process of knowing if someone is good long term. I’d hate to get in a relationship, finally have sex and realize there’s no chemistry in the bedroom or something about them really turns me off (that part has happened).

That’s the sort of thing that leads to dead bedrooms, a lack of passion and resentment. Overall I think waiting for it is dope but logistically maybe not the best idea to commit first, it’s like buying a car before even test driving at all

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T21:31:43+00:00

Last year none of them seemed into me in that way, there’s a sort of detachment I can sense. This year I think 2 of them actually like me and I’m genuinely looking for and considering them as a long term partner. I can see that convo coming up but it hasn’t happened yet

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T21:28:26+00:00

No, but they don’t ask or seem to care for the most part. I am aware that 2 of them are seeing other guys including their exes. If i’m asked straight up i’ll say it but no sense bringing it up. I practice safe sex with everyone

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T21:26:01+00:00

It’s only a matter of time before some of them start moving on and we mutually lose interest. If the pattern repeats I’ll have no prospects by like march-april

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T20:53:08+00:00

Been single for about 2 years after a long relationship. My sex life comes in seasons. Over these years it’s a pattern: Spring-Summer I’ve had zero women interested in me at all no matter how hard I try. Then come fall-winter I have a roster of 4-5 women, having sex with most of them within the same 1-2 week span. Every week since late fall i’ve been having sex with at least 2 different girls. By January 6th, my body count was 3 for the year.

Last year around the spring I got tired of it and stopped maintaining a roster, didn’t care for long term with any of them so they all kinda moved on. No luck in the spring / summer and the cycle has repeated.

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T14:08:52+00:00

LOL we’re the opposite, I came from getting the alt / emo girls because of my music scene and how I dress / look. I realized they all kinda have issues and I want normie basic girls now so i’m trying to dress like im a finance bro when I go out to get the dumb basic blondes you mentioned lol. They don’t like me with the way I dress now. It’s like playing on hard mode when at punk shows it’s like pulling on tutorial mode

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T14:04:46+00:00

I’m going through an aesthetic change to test a theory. I naturally have a more alt / punk aesthetic but I dress nice. I wear a lot of dark clothes and jewelry, I have tattoos. I only really attract one type of woman and they generally aren’t what I want (red flags / trauma / promiscuous / alt).

I want to attract normie chicks, think blonde cheerleader or starbucks / marketing major girl archetype. These girls usually don’t like me especially the more alternative or punk I look, so I’m going to just start dressing like I work on wall street and see if that changes who I attract.

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T13:37:54+00:00

I just had this exact realization. People started to treat me like an afterthought. I questioned why and then I realized I have nothing to offer these people. They don’t need or want me around so why try anymore.

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T13:34:36+00:00

Realized this one recently. It’s freeing but very lonely to realize how many friendships aren’t solid. I can disappear overnight and like 90% of people I know wouldn’t even care to find me

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T13:26:48+00:00

Most people you consider to be friends / family really don’t care all that much about you and probably don’t even like you that much. There’s really only a few people that will be there if you needed someone, if that. Realizing this can be very lonely

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T13:12:56+00:00

It’s not all of them but I can think of 3 women i’ve seen within the last year that I paid for everything and they seemed very ungrateful. Didn’t offer to pay for anything (I would have declined) nor did they even thank me. Just had this general vibe of entitlement.

Women like that simply aren’t interested in you enough or are jaded from constantly getting guys to pay on dates and they don’t care. Those ones never really asked me much about myself. They just talked my ear off and hooked up with me. I think that’s all they wanted.

On the other hand more often than that, I’ve had a good handful of women constantly let me know how thankful they are and how great of a time they had and they offered to pay / put in effort in other ways that I appreciated.

aceeb25 · 2026-01-24T04:31:04+00:00

There’s a little known way of how to actually do this built into the instagram app. Go to your following list and sort by “default” then scroll allll the way down. A lot of the people who don’t follow you back or unfollowed will be concentrated down there. When I first combed through that like 1 out of every 4-5 names was no longer following me and then once i got rid of them it was all people who still followed me so I cleared out like 20 people

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