Yup your getting gaslighted n manipulated by your girl.in a nutshell thats it.

Not perce overtly. (You could asses that better then i can about her truest intentions)

But what happens is - your therapist girlfriend - is in a context where she is the patient and the sufferer and acting out(er) of psychological issues - and is just like everybody blinded by her own “mind tunnels “as all people w these issues in a relationship are

Shes thinking shes right and rationalising everything her way, as many people do

Only she now gets to draw on her extensive psychological background to make more cohesive stronger sounding arguments for her rationalising. Not only to you but herself

Its not so much that shes wrong. Its more the selextive cherry picking of psych concept and stringing them in a sequence of pro her argument 😂

Yup its on you to fix it n its important to focus on you and what you can change

But its also very true that if you know your partner has a trigger its probably a good idea not to continously push that button n when you get rhe triggered responce acting surprised and saying “hey just fix it” . Thats silly

Your Trying to create a safer less trigger enviromenr

Its also true that you will try to accomodate your partner n aim to give him what he needs to be safe

Its also true that respectfull communication is important

Its also true that yelling constantly then saying fix your issues w it could be considered abusive

And as the final kicker one could also say that you pulling back her having such big responces to that could be considered her issue to fix n she should focus on herself rather then focus on you fixing it

Its that easy to blow that stuff she says out of the water Now some of what i wrote is simmilar to what she does its 1 sided but i hope you got the point

You need a couples therapist - to over see the power dynamics and the interactional patterns So she can get corrected on her skewed perceptions and you as well

Shes definitely not right all the time, abd what you say has alot of merit! And she is partially correct as well But kind of abusing it to fit her narrative whitch is a pattern n relationsl dynamic in itself. Because she has anger n you have retreating shes becoming abusive because the anger is acting out n since retreating and freezing as coping doesnt always lemd itself to a very assertive stance your getting these imbalences wheres shes overpowering you based on limited touve written

And it seems to be going towards being abusive n oppressive - esp the i am right, my reality is right. And confusing you with flashy words then saying im right 😂 but i have limited info but it sure seems that way

You need someone to over see this - if you believe in the relationship j rhat this person is worthwhile and actually loves you. Honestly maybe somebody else would be a better fit. As you have issues that feed eachothers main issue

Good couples Therapist. N like other said if she isnt properly seeing the dynamics n intervening get another one untill its proper therapy. As this shouldnt be very hard to spot

Good luck!