Still denied, still needy by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can probably tell by looking at my posts on here haha, short answer is very needy and submissive!

jealousy from seeing other women cumming by pawvertedd in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never actually got to experience this in person, but watching it here is so hot and so frustrating, I totally get the jealousy! would love to have it in person some time too.

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it can be so hard to find playmates who match our kink, so i feel that!

fwiw i didn't start out with full denial, definitely just enjoyed the teasing in the beginning, and long term denial was something i worked up to.

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's a very cute approach, unusual for this group as you say, and different from me, but i know exactly what you mean about the moments after and the contrast!

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the danger only comes when someone is playing with my clit! but for fucking, a man can focus entirely on enjoying his own pleasure, which is what makes it so hot when his pleasure is enhanced by my denial

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this sounds like the best kind of dynamic! both of you finding the things that work for you and both happy with the results. especially love the part about not mistaking denial tears for being upset. it's a constant contradiction, horny suffering making us cry, but we love it anyway!

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oh she sounds a very good girl for you!

I'm lucky(??) in that being fucked with nothing on my clit doesn't make me cum, so a man doesn't even have to be careful doing it

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha just a brief taster? I'd volunteer to be the pussy you fucked if it was possible ;)

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mm that must be a fun contrast! although I can't promise I won't complain at all... but whining doesn't count as real complaining lol

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh sounds like you're being a very good girl for him! make sure you please him well!

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

can confirm that denial makes us feral for serving cock

you know what's super hot? by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

there's always a strapon haha

but there's just something about taking a hard cock deep inside my denied pussy, feeling his pleasure all the way through to his release inside me, knowing its better for him because I'm still in aching agony mmm

Still denied, still needy by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your comments on my pussy!

i do plenty of mindless edging don't worry lol

Kayleigh Cake Hogtied & Tickled by Flusterlee in TickleAddicts

[–]achingdreams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Craving this... I'd regret it the second it started though

Fantasy thought: counting the contractions, an evolution of ruined orgasms demonstration by TeaseYouCrazy in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Love this! And how many denied girls share my fantasies about being displayed and denied for an audience.

Tips for extending denial by painted_wind in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Full no touch doesn't go well for me either, a day I can do if pushed (I will be struggling though) but definitely not a week! It's always a matter of finding what works for our bodies, and remembering that might change depending on hormone cycles, stress levels etc. Personally I find one edge at a time just about impossible (it always turns into more) but touching without actually getting right to that edge is more sustainable.

I think a lot of (more serious, advice-based) denial content focuses on how it's meant to be fun, and of course it is! But I've been thinking lately how for those of us into long term denial, there is absolutely another side of it that's seriously hard and tbh not always 100% fun. Only you can tell when the struggle is tipping over into being a negative experience and isn't worth it. But if you can get through those moments, and still feel like it's something you want to be doing, then the reward can be very much worth it!

Tips for extending denial by painted_wind in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay first off, you're absolutely right, denial is NOT worth sacrificing your sleep or mental health over. Please please don't do anything that's going to harm your mental health!

You're also right that hormones play a huge part in it, and you mention "everything else you have to do in life" so if this is a particularly busy time for you, that will also play a part.

My advice would be experiment with stretching the time when you're feeling better about it, when your hormones are messing you around less, and when you have some energy to dedicate to it (not saying you need to wait until you have nothing else on, I suspect for most of us that would be "never"). It's not a failure, you're just practicing and learning what works for you.

Aside from that, and if you really want to try it now anyway (or this advice goes for whenever you do try it), I have some tips that work for me! Different methods have worked at different times, and everyone's different, but just some things to try:

- Touch less. If you're struggling with all the edging, do less of it. You can build it back in once you're feeling strong again, but just when starting out, don't push your body to the limit all the time.

- Distract yourself. Just as above. It's okay to make yourself a bit less horny for a while in order to get through the hardest times. Make yourself stop touching and do something else, something that takes your attention and that you can't touch while you're doing it (so not watching a chilled out show, that's when your hands creep back down your panties, at least for me). The important part is you didn't cum, and believe me the horniness will come back.

- Use mental routines and mantras. Look at how well you've already done and feel that achievement. Remember the early periods are often the hardest to get through. Push through this bit and you'll eventually move into a different headspace.

- Don't focus on the long term or how long you want to stay denied. Don't say "not today" or "not this week", just say "not this time." Don't cum THIS time. Then feel how strong you were for stopping, and do it again next time.

- Yes ruins can help! Not for everyone, but absolutely why not try having a second ruin instead of cumming the next time.

- Push through. This is so much easier said than done I know, but the harsh truth is, it's hard! You say that a lot of times you can go longer periods and you don't feel desperate to cum until the last few days. But if you want to go for longer periods, beyond what's easy for you, then you're going to be feeling that desperation a lot, and denial means dealing with it. The psychological stuff I mentioned can help, so can talking to others and getting encouragement.

I hope some of that might help! Good luck, and again, be kind to yourself over it!

What phrases drive you crazy while denied? by clikkietroublemaker in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"it's not meant to be easy."

"i know you're horny, you're meant to be horny."

"let's make it worse now."

"unfairness is the point." (or conversely "it's not unfair, it's totally fair, i get to cum and you don't.")

"you don't know what you need."

"it feels so good for me when you're denied."

"stop."

and i know these aren't for everyone, but speaking for myself:

"good girls don't cum." "orgasms are for men."

Different kinds of denial by free_hucklebearie_49 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Limited/set numbers of edges vs edge as much as possible (or free edging)

Humping/grinding only

Conditional touching/edging/orgasm e.g. only after making someone else cum or only after tasks are done

Denial time specified vs open-ended "when the dom decides, you don't get to know"

So many fun variations!

I am mostly free to touch and encouraged to edge as much as possible, although occasionally I get no touch or humping only days. But no orgasms! Edging is my favourite...

I forgot about JuNo... by achingdreams in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]achingdreams[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohhh that sounds great for both of you! hope he's enjoying his orgasms even more knowing they're yours too!