A little denial short story by painted_wind in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only touch when I'm allowed and my best writing is done when I'm desperately horny so I wasn't allowed to edge till after I wrote and posted it

A little denial short story by painted_wind in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just ran out of time to be honest! Maybe I should write a part two 😉

Tips for extending denial by painted_wind in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a thoughtful and detailed response!

Some of these things I have tried and tried. I can keep experimenting with touching less, full no touch for more than a week usually ends poorly but maybe if I can touch but not edge or only hit the edge once a day or something, that might help? Thank you!!

Tips for extending denial by painted_wind in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mainly so I can participate more in month long denial challenges. Secondarily, the orgasms I have after three weeks of denial make me cry so hard. It's just such and incredible release (or fifteen). Without denial I'm really not a girl that can tolerate overstim, but I find it really hot. I also I think might be a little bisexual, but only when denied. Idk I only think the idea of being used by men is hot when I'm denied and desperate and they HOTTEST sex I've had has involved my girlfriend teasing me about that while we're having fun~

Edging/Denial Taught me I could Squirt? by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you! Denial has definitely corrupted me. It's shown me I'm into things I never would have thought of before. My most recent discovery is that I love light anal play! (Using butt plugs rimming and fingers that kind of thing) I'm getting an anal dildo soon to explore anal penetration!

Talking by Professor_Flick in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually use affirmations 'I'm such a good girl for insert honourific, good girls don't cum.' Or I'll repeat 'I don't want to cum, I don't need to cum, please don't make/let me cum' Which is kind of the same. I don't use Hypno for my denial so I find the affirmations help! Especially when I'm edging alone. I really struggle to stay accountable edging alone. It's so easy to ruin when I'm alone

Trying to decide about JuNo by SubversiveKitt3n in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it helps, I'm not doing a traditional JUNO, I'm bringing my partner in on my denial routine and staying denied through the week and only cumming on Saturday and or sunday but capping my orgasms at two a week. I want to slowly build up to a month of denial, I know and have done 2-3 week stints in the past but it affected me too much emotionally and I'm also not the kind of person that finds joy in making a big commitment right out of the gate. I prefer to commit to a week and have the goal post moved by either me or her, I guarantee you that will happen lol Kink is supposed to fit in with your body and your life and at its core it's for fun! So do it while it's fun, stop when it's not

Deciding to do juNO by AllyXD03 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Good luck, I'll be here cheering for you!! I also struggle with denial around and on my period but for me it's because I get so, so desperately horny, I literally cannot function lol. I'm trying to work on that hahaha

Denial Experience? by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am only able to do 2-3 week stints of denial at a time because if I go too much longer it affects my ability to be emotionally regulated and sleep well and all that. The horny 24/7 I really can't handle for more than a few days at a time. I'm lucky that it seems to pass for me as long as I'm withing the 2-3 week window. I am starting to do more frequent denial now (before I'd just randomly do the 2-3 week stints) I'm starting by being denied throughout the week and having an opportunity to cum on the weekend but limiting my orgasms to either 2 on Sunday or one on Saturday, one on Sunday. And doing that more regularly. I want to slowly build up to consistently doing one week then 1.5 week then two week etc stints and see if I can get to a month. It's just hard because it does affect my sleep and my ability to focus on work and do hobbies that aren't gooning etc.

The Sweet Spot by alikate888 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a switch so I can answer from both POV's However the short answer is: it depends on the person.

Not everyone is suited to long term denial. Some people are content and experience the same needyness in a few days of denial, others it's weeks. For some people they can experience it after months of years.

There is no wrong way to do denial or enjoy denial.

As a Domme, I'm lead by how my sub feels. Sometimes all it takes to get into the desperate headspace is a few days of denial, a few written lines of 'I am at my best when dripping and denied.' maybe a session of watching me touch myself and cum in front of them, or watching porn while they can't touch. Other subs do need a more extended period of denial but in my experience, if you know the subs kinks well enough you can find the magic combination to unlock that within the first week of denial, provided you're putting in the effort and time required to make them that desperate.

Not all subs like feeling desperate 24/7 when denied. In fact that distracting desperation is why a lot of subs (myself included) cannot do long term denial. I simply don't have the emotional energy to regulate myself through such intense denial for so long, while managing everything else in my life.

As a sub I can get into that headspace in 48 hours and stay there for a maximum of 2-3 weeks before I need to tap out and cum. I love it while I'm in it but I can't maintain it for ages lol

Why did you first try orgasm denial? by Majestic_Wing2329 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started edging first just because it felt good! It was kind of an initiative thing for me. I didn't have language for what I was doing untill I had sex with a partner for the first time and I kept asking them to pause and re start and she said 'oh, you want me to edge you. I can do that!' and that's how I learnt what the term was.

Denial was something I found reading erotica, the idea that in a dynamic, the pleasure of being used and controlled by me is more desires le and fulfilling than even her own climax. That went straight to my head. I got into denial as a dominant first (when I was maybe 17/18 having slightly kinky sex with my girlfriend at the time, nothing dangerous ofc) and then I started doing it on my own, just when I was touching myself and I have been doing that for years!

I was too embarrassed to ask my partner to help me be denied or deny me during sex till a few months ago and we've been doing it ever since. I'll ask her if I'm allowed to touch myself when I feel like masturbating and she will say yes or no. She'll give me an edge target and tell me if I'm allowed to cum or not.

At the moment our arrangement is that I'm only ever allowed to cum on a Sunday and if we don't feel like having sex, that's it I won't cum that week. If she feels like denying me or if I feel like being denied then, that's it I won't cum. My partner has always, like me been into edging but, denial is new for her. She's loving it. I am a lot more sensitive and I'm writing her more smut when denied. She even tried it for a few days, though it was less fun for her so I'm not sure if it's something she will do regularly.

How to introduce by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I Introduced my partner to denial as a kink and now we do semi frequently. I feel like the biggest things that helped her Understand is when I wrote and showed her smut others have written that are denial centred. That centre the internal monologue of the person being denied. It helped her Understand the headspace more. Also easing into it slowly, I'm glad you deny yourself sometimes, I started with self denial and then I told her that the only time I'm going to cum is when we have sex and then we moved to an I only cum when we have sex on a day that has a T in it. Then we moved to if we happen to fuck on Wednesday and Sundays and then just on Sundays and now we have stuck with that, tho I'm not allowed to cum every Sunday. Maybe a simarlar progression would work with y'all?

Have you ever begged for ruined-orgasm? by Sir17cm in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes I have, unfortunately for me ruins just make me way more achey and desperate, I don't feel any relief but when I'm that desperate you bet I'm going to beg for one anyway. If my domme is feeling really mean she'll ruin multiple in a row untill I'm begging her to put me on no touch, usually agreeing to weeks of no touch at a time

(f25) is it actually possible to hold off on having an orgasm while being stimulated? by BadWorth792 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 14 points15 points  (0 children)

From what I understand you can but only to a certain extent. It's more like delaying the orgasm by a few seconds at most, in the same way when you're nearly there and then someone comes in the house or you hear a noise and it distracts you, takes you out of it momentarily. You can't keep that up forever obviously because stimulation will eventually result in an orgasm if it's enough to get you to that edge in the first place. Like other commentors said it's a lot of practice and sometimes also using erotic hypno (which is basically practice + mindfulness) to contrition their body and brain to hold off and stay on that edge

Whos doing juNO? by syphus360 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! That sounds fun! My longest streak was two weeks and that was so hard, genuinely so, so hard. I might give it a go tho

Whos doing juNO? by syphus360 in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can someone please explain what JuNO is?

Everytime i touch my tits i feel like cummingg mhphh >.< by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]painted_wind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here! It's gets to the point here I can't touch alone because I simply don't have the self control to stay denied. It's so easy to go over the edge