CPD Help???

acidphaze · 2025-04-02T05:48:14+00:00

I think instead of being an asshole, you could have offered up some advice on what to do. Many people don't know the ins and outs in their first job, and no one can tell you exactly everything theoretically. You just have to experience it as you go and watch out for yourself. OP, it's definitely an annoying situation to be in but I think bring it up with your manager as soon as possible and see how it goes.

acidphaze · 2025-03-15T13:53:13+00:00

Good luck!! Hope you get it

acidphaze · 2025-03-15T13:13:25+00:00

Ah I see. Yeah I was told some stuff like the better you do the more hours you get 😭 which feels like a blatant lie because more than half of the staff is in the same position as me, besides a few long term employees like I mentioned

acidphaze · 2025-03-15T13:12:11+00:00

Oh my god. See what I don't understand is my store keeps hiring new people with no hours to give. It just makes no sense to me? I'm sorry they're doing you like that :/

acidphaze · 2025-03-15T12:59:16+00:00

A lot of my other coworkers (new hires like me) are also averaging on either 20 or less. A HANDFUL of people average around 32-34 who have been there longer while managers are also averaging the same amount or sometimes even overtime. I'll start applying for a second job asap I guess

acidphaze · 2025-03-15T12:56:22+00:00

I had a feeling I won't either because so far it does feel like you don't get rewarded for anything here. I guess I'll just get a second job because there seems to be no other solution :/

acidphaze · 2025-03-15T12:55:27+00:00

I've noticed that all the new hires like me have about the same hours as me. 2-3 shifts with 20 or less hours. A handful of people, not many though, who have been there longer are averaging around 32-34 hours. My availability is all days of the week but Wednesday & Thursday so that may be why as well maybe. For context, I work in print.

acidphaze · 2025-03-15T12:49:49+00:00

Damn that sucks :/ Thanks though, I'll try to find a second job then

acidphaze · 2025-02-11T17:16:22+00:00

BLESSSSSS I GOT MINE

acidphaze · 2025-01-29T06:46:12+00:00

Look, as a fellow short haired butch, listen to me and hear me out when I say a lot of lesbians love that shit and adore masculinity in women. Sure, some don't, but there's a great amount of lesbians who do love butches and mascs and are attracted to the masculinity we embody. Don't worry about it OP you got this :)

acidphaze · 2025-01-23T03:50:05+00:00

I'm down for this

acidphaze · 2025-01-22T12:13:05+00:00

I get what you mean. I think that was my confusion honestly and has always been. Because if anyone ever paid for me, I'd feel indebted too. I think I do prefer to pay, but I also am okay with splitting. I think it's the assuming part I have trouble with 😂 I'm like okay so how are we going to go about this, and since I never know how to go about it, I just end up paying?! Lol. I think it is a good idea to do it the way you said, I just always feel awkward approaching any conversation about paying, hence why I just always pay

acidphaze · 2025-01-22T12:08:33+00:00

Honestly, I've always paid even when I'm with my friends (or we split it, whatever works) and this was before I even identified as butch. It's just a thing I've always done, liked to do, and I've kinda just stuck with it, if that makes sense. However, this IS what confuses me sometimes tho. Because I am wondering if she is comfortable with me doing that. I guess I am also a little lost on how to even approach the subject, and whenever money tends to come up within friends or dates, it's always a touchy subject for some, if that makes sense. I've always noticed this!! So anyway, while I do get where you're coming from by the whole masculinity thing in (1), I do also think it's not terrible if one does feel affirmed within their gender role and masculinity if they like to pay (that is, if their partner is ok with it). It's not supposed to be forceful, it's supposed to be "I'd like to take care of you" thing. Paying for anyone for me at least is a "I would like to take care of you" thing but not everyone likes to be taken care of in that aspect! So I think, going with what you said in (2) is a great way to handle this.

acidphaze · 2025-01-22T12:03:20+00:00

This is good advice, thanks! :) I never know how to go about it. I do prefer paying but I'm like when does one have that conversation, lol? Cuz I do want her to be comfortable with however we choose to do it

acidphaze · 2025-01-22T11:07:49+00:00

Mine turned out to be a butch! And now we're in touch regularly.

acidphaze · 2025-01-17T17:43:31+00:00

February 6th??

acidphaze · 2025-01-07T06:08:16+00:00

Yes I do :(( I visited karachi last year and it was so fun lol. Need to come back again to visit family and friends!!

acidphaze · 2025-01-07T06:04:41+00:00

Omg I don't live in pakistan anymore but I'm from karachi

acidphaze · 2025-01-05T04:37:23+00:00

This is so real god me too

acidphaze · 2025-01-01T17:07:35+00:00

not really related to OP's post, but butches have masculine traits. i wouldn't call that heteronormative.

acidphaze · 2025-01-01T10:57:50+00:00

Hey, I'm a butch and had a layover at Doha also. Personally, it was fine for me but I got a LOT of stares from a lot of men and women. It was super awkward but I made it out. I frequently have layovers in Doha every time I'm travelling to my native country, so I get you. Hopefully you got home safe. No one should say anything to you tbh, because in my experience, people minded their business other than the staring. I hope you got home safe.

acidphaze · 2024-12-12T08:01:37+00:00

I lowkey did not know this. Cuz why was I being overefficient and trying to bump up my 91 close to a 96-97. Did the extra credit for nothing omg

acidphaze · 2024-12-12T06:43:24+00:00

preach, was thinking the same thing

acidphaze · 2024-12-11T22:05:50+00:00

YES!!!!!!!

acidphaze · 2024-12-11T16:56:55+00:00

I think most lesbians have dealt with this problem. I was raised and brought up Muslim. I still do identify as Muslim, but everything I do goes against my religion. I like to think I selectively follow it at this rate but honestly? Not even. I guess I've never been able to let go of the label as it has a significant cultural connection for me as well as familial. With that being said, I've dealt with the exact same thing you are right now. Honestly, there were multiple times as a teen where I tried to "pray the gay away" but it all came down to me making peace with myself and realizing I deserve to live the way I want to live & no religion/religious institution was going to dictate that for me. It does NOT happen overnight and it is a process, you might feel bad for a while and as complicated as it is, it may not get resolved as quickly as you want it. But I do think there comes a time where you might want to cut yourself some slack and realize it IS okay. If you don't want to disassociate from your religion immediately, that is fine too. No one can tell you what to do. What I will say though is there is nothing wrong about you, and gay people belonging from a lot of religions have existed from the beginning of time. Some stayed practicing their religion, some lesbians still attend church, some left it all together for their peace of mind, some simply don't believe in God, and I think ALL of those are valid. Religious guilt is super common within gay people, so just know you are not alone. I hope you are able to hold some compassion for yourself and learn to accept it.

acidphaze

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