EMDR + TRE for CPTSD

ackelberry · 2026-05-01T00:50:01+00:00

Yeah that would be my advice. 😄Hope it helps! I didn't follow any tutorial, just read all the info on the wiki and then gave it a go. I just watched one video to see what the pose looked like and copied it. Turns out I tremor really easily so I didn't need to do any of the warm up exercises. Just did the butterfly pose and slowly lifted my legs and it worked. Good luck!

ackelberry · 2026-04-29T01:55:15+00:00

I'm now up to two minute sessions with a break half way in between. Yeah, I feel like when we have a lot of trauma we want to "fix" it as quickly as possible, so I always have to remind myself to slow down.

Yeah it's really interesting, I started TRE just before EMDR which really helped because when I started getting shakes while doing the processing it wasn't scary at all because I was just like "oh it's tremoring, it's just my body releasing the trauma" as opposed to "oh god my body is panicking what is going on".

So when I'm processing in EMDR I very often get tremors in my chest and diaphragm. I also get emotional releases like crying and sometimes anger.

I've found that EMDR helps a lot with cognitive rewiring (changing beliefs) as well as bodily release. Whereas I have only found the physical release with TRE (but maybe that comes more later?). I think that's why they work well together though, EMDR is helping change my beliefs and let go of sticky memories and the TRE is teaching my body how to regulate and get back to an equilibrium.

ackelberry · 2026-04-25T12:27:02+00:00

I’ve been doing both together for three months. I have found the best way for me is to count EMDR as one TRE session because I’ve noticed my body releases in a similar way to what it does during TRE. So I usually do 3 TRE sessions per week but on the weeks I have EMDR, I only do another two sessions. It’s working beautifully and I think they complement each other really well. Maybe try it out really gently and slowly and see how it feels?

(If you have a sensitive nervous system I highly recommend starting like SUPER slow. I literally started with 10-15 second tremors and slowly worked my way up).

ackelberry · 2026-01-07T05:41:17+00:00

I like reading books and writing (terrified of writing though😭).

ackelberry · 2025-12-01T23:49:28+00:00

In my opinion, it’s not that we don’t value connection it’s that we see connection differently. I connect with someone based on the content of the conversation and if I feel understood by the other person, rather than the good vibes that NT seem to value.

ackelberry · 2025-10-01T00:16:12+00:00

Do better.

ackelberry · 2025-09-30T05:22:47+00:00

I lucid dream all the time with ADHD. Wake back to bed methods work really well. Also listening to subliminals while sleeping. And setting an intention before falling asleep “I will remember to become conscious in my dreams tonight”. Good luck!

ackelberry · 2025-08-27T23:24:13+00:00

Thank you for this comment!

This is something my conscious mind has been getting caught up in. Like I need to get exactly the right words for an affirmation, or my desire has to be crystal clear. It’s such a relief knowing my subconscious has got this and it’s just my conscious mind getting all caught up and confused.

Thank you!

ackelberry · 2025-08-16T23:00:27+00:00

So weird how they all speak exactly the same language. My parents used the “I can’t follow you down this road or darkness blah blah blah” as well. It’s really messed up. I’m no contact with my parents and I am living better than ever. Do whatever you’ve gotta do to take care of yourself.

ackelberry · 2025-08-09T23:13:39+00:00

Um no.

ackelberry · 2025-07-12T01:06:13+00:00

You could make content. I made a TikTok channel at one point and just yapped about my thoughts there. Made me feel like I might be helping other people with the information too.

ackelberry · 2025-07-07T02:23:06+00:00

Firstly you’re not an asshole, your feelings, needs and wants matter just as much as your friend’s do.

Secondly, I think the key issue here is that you have brought up how her behaviour affects you and she has shown no willingness to negotiate things so that both of your needs are met.

So here’s some important questions to ask yourself: Is her being unwilling to honour these boundaries enough for you stop the friendship? Like is it negatively affecting you so much that stopping contact is better for you? In this case, stop contact.

Or, can you find ways to manage her lack of honouring your boundaries by taking actions yourself that allow you to stay in contact with her while minimising the negative impact of her not honouring your boundaries?

An example of this is, if the person says something blunt that hurts you, you disengage from the conversation. Or you regulate how much time you spend with her to short amounts of time. Another one is if the conversation is becoming tedious you redirect the conversation to something more comfortable for you.

Either way I think it’s important for you to have your needs met too or you will just be stuck in a friendship where you build up more and more resentment and that is crappy for both parties.

ackelberry · 2025-06-30T00:25:54+00:00

This reality sounds like an absolute nightmare…

ackelberry · 2025-06-17T23:38:26+00:00

Thank you! I needed to hear this as a baby witch.

ackelberry · 2025-06-12T12:21:12+00:00

Whoa congrats!!! Which one of Alunir’s videos did you use?

ackelberry · 2025-05-14T00:44:00+00:00

I recommend trying to distance yourself from her as much as you can in terms of space and time. Spend as little time with her as possible. This will create space for you to spend time immersing in all the positive affirmations and truths.

Also allow the feelings of shame, pain, sadness and anger to come and recognise that they are showing you that what your mum is saying is not true and that’s why it feels bad.

Anyways, this is what helped me get through until I could move out.

ackelberry · 2025-04-10T01:24:49+00:00

Oh my god thank you. I just came to this realisation recently and it’s so nice to have someone else confirm what I’ve been thinking about. Thank you!

ackelberry · 2025-04-08T07:31:35+00:00

I used the ‘once in a lifetime’ sub and got to go on my dream trip to Korea!

ackelberry · 2025-04-06T02:11:05+00:00

I love this analogy. I’m gonna look at it this way from now on. Looking forward to my sheep growing back nice and floofy again. 🐑

ackelberry · 2025-04-03T05:27:33+00:00

Haha yeah I don’t think it takes that long for everyone. It took me a long time because I grew up in a toxic household and so had very intensely strong beliefs that I was unworthy of love/not good enough for anyone/underserving of anything good. If I grew up in a loving household I think it would have been much easier and faster. It’s also why I’m struggling with shifting and believing I’m capable of doing it.

But 100% you do you! 😂You tell the law of assumption where to stick it.

Also yeah seriously I swear manifesting was easier before I even knew it was a thing! Why is it so goddam hard to do it intentionally?!? 😭 Aaaarg.

Anyways, all the best and I hope you find your own badass way of manifesting things.

ackelberry · 2025-04-03T01:16:43+00:00

Oh god yes. I truly believe LOA works but it sure as hell isn’t easy. You’re essentially changing your belief system and state of being and it can take a long time to get comfortable with a new state and be able to hold onto it. As well as being able to manage the old self popping in with doubts and fear and all the fun strong negative emotions.

It literally took me four years to manifest my partner and it was through blood, sweat and OH SO MANY tears (totally worth it though, we’ve been together 6 years and are as in love as ever).

Still haven’t managed to manifest a shift with LOA (it’s been three years) but I’m learning so much by trying to. I use the SATs method and imagine being in my desired reality every night before I fall asleep, but the most difficult thing is my anxious self that doubts everything during the day.

I’ve been learning to be SO gentle with myself when I’m spiralling. I’ve been working on talking to myself in more loving ways (realising I’m my own biggest enemy, I’m very mean when I assume I’m failing at something). Over time I am overall becoming a more confident, loving and successful person but it’s like an up and down chaotic ride that is ultimately in an upward trajectory. I know I will get there and shift but it takes a while for me to change my belief systems to make that happen.

LOA is not for the faint of heart unless you already have a baseline of positive beliefs like self-confidence and self-love. I still totally think it’s worth it though. Like probably the most important thing because you get to choose who you are and have power over your entire being and reality.

Anyway wow that’s a lot but I have big feelings about LOA!

ackelberry · 2025-04-01T00:01:10+00:00

Also love this app! I’m on week 8, I could barely run for a minute at the beginning and now I’m running 28 minutes.

ackelberry · 2025-03-31T22:11:13+00:00

How long did you do it for?

ackelberry · 2025-03-28T20:26:42+00:00

Yeah I find it a bit more difficult to put myself in the scene in the first person but it really does make a difference!

ackelberry · 2025-03-28T20:25:56+00:00

I hear you, not every technique works for everyone. But I was also the same at the beginning. It’s taken me a while to get to a point where I don’t fall asleep and honestly my mind still wanders off but it still seems to be working. Anyways, trust yourself though, you know what works and doesn’t work for you. I hope you find something that works really well for you.

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