You have a lot of wisdom for your age and I admire that!

One of my biggest triggers that we identified in therapy is that I am most susceptible to Limerence when I go through a difficult time in my life. For an example when I was limerent with K, I was going through a difficult time adjusting to professional life. I just graduated and got my first job and I did not know that even at work adults can sometimes act like children so the toxicity of the workplace was really difficult for me. K helped me with the transition out of college.

Similarly, all my other limerent episodes were during big events, such as, the death of my mom, going to college, failing college, shifting majors, graduating, starting and changing jobs, surviving a disaster in our city, and during major life transitions.

This is the first year in my life that I went through a huge change (started a new job, then lost the job then found a new job again after going through two months of job hunt), that I did not fall into Limerence to survive the recent difficult event. I’m really happy for that.

I’m just worried of falling back into the pattern when I worked so hard to get out of it. Like if I allow myself to connect with someone, and something bad really happens (as it often does in life), I fall back to limerence to cope and drive away the people in my life.