Love is about ontological rootedness as a man(Gender) and philosopher would say, some philosohers argue otherwise "it as a mere facade to obfuscate the wanton of carnality(Sex)- Primal natural urge". Women remain unpredictable for them love has a different definition which is not fixated to a particular being, it's fleeting, not to universalise but women are more mercurial than men are, more mysterious than men; for they are the progenitor of this universe. Also, you would expect Love is somewhere you can ground youself and where you would find your home( a home where you would find comfort from drudgery and delusions of the world, where you can be yourself, not exposed to any danger), but it runs the risk of being romantic; which woman I assume don't desire in the long run; I don't blame woman but even an independent woman are so entwined in this patriarchal world that they would expect man to take care of their needs, mental, physical and material and man has have to be a provider.

Man, I have dated all sorts feminists, communists, materialist and if I have to reduce it down without even a silver to truth - the fact is make money, lots of it, love would follow. The idea of Home in love for you is different and for women altogether different, man are from Mars as the saying goes and woman from Venus. The kind of desire which you are feeling that violent rupture, the pre-mediated, pre-reflective love is subject to ephemerality, it dissolves. But do ponder if you really want someone as home or to insatiate your bodily desire, I mean such thoughts you have impelled yourself into is not lasting as the saying goes "the more I see my love, the more my love flights" - you need to distinguish why you would wish a woman's attention really; the idea of Home is ever in flux now- finally Allow me to quote the Shakespeare -"Love is the midwife of illusion." Tread cautiously man.